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The World's First Sex Robot

2010-01-16T09:22:00.000-08:00

In what's sure to be viewed as a wrong-way direction in social change, "Roxxxy" the robot lifesized girlfriend was introduced at AEE 2010, the Adult Entertainment Expo in Las Vegas. Roxxxy robot lifesized girlfriend is a anatomically correct facsimile of a woman dressed for sex, and with "servos" and other electronics to make it seem, well, real. It's maker calls it the first "sex robot."

Violet Blue, where are you?

Roxxxy robot lifesized girlfriend was created by former Bell Labs employee Douglas Hines, who's overweight, balding, bespectacled look fits the perfect image of a guy who would make such a thing.

Douglas Hines says that he developed Roxxxy robot lifesized girlfriend after losing a friend in the 9-11 terrorist attack. Just who that friend is, Douglas Hines does not say, leaving one to wonder if he just spent too much money at strip clubs.

Roxxxy robot lifesized girlfriend is designed to respond to touch: a grab of her wrist causes her to "say" something depending on the personality type that's installed. The whole thought bring the question of how Douglas Hines actually tested the product.

Roxxxy robot lifesized girlfriend is the first in what is going to be a line of products by "True Companion", including, for women, a male version called Rocky. But why make this, really, is anyone's guess.

What is disturbing is that in the video below the Roxxxy sex robot just sits there in an open position. It does nothing and would seem to be the perfect image of what Douglas Hines wants his women to do: nothing and just lay there. Be, well, submissive. In the video, this blogger was longing to see Roxxxy robot slap the crap out of Douglas Hines, but he didn't program it to do that. But perhaps you can because Hines says you can "create your dream personality" to have.

But if it's 2010 and we have Roxxxy sex robot lifesized girlfriend, what will 2020 bring? What this shows is technology replacing the need for human contact in everything from phones where people send texts, to invisible online commenters on forums, to this. Perhaps one good thing is that men who elect to go in this direction tske themselves out of the pool of us who love the real thing.

Stay tuned.

P.S. Boost your sexual health by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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Porn Isn't Just for Men Anymore

2010-01-04T15:38:00.000-08:00

If you think porn is just for men, think again. Plenty of women enjoy it just as much as the guys, and their reasons for reveling in the eye-candy are as varied as the statistics on just how many of them are becoming porn connoisseurs.

A woman might download or rent erotica to enhance self-pleasuring, sex up foreplay, or to amp her sexual excitement. The question I get from a number of guys who are planning a surprise porn purchase is: What kind of porn do women want?

With the proliferation of porn, it feels like everybody is going out of his -- or her -- way to watch something sexually suggestive. And recent headlines have made it sound like porn is all the rage for women these days.

But it cannot be said with confidence how many women are into it.

First, when you look at the poorly conducted data on porn consumption, you’ll notice that findings are all over the board. During the first third of 2007, the Nielsen/Net Ratings reported that about one in three visitors to adult entertainment Web sites were female, with almost 13 million American women checking out porn online at least monthly.

This sounds like a lot, until you compare it to other findings. A Marie Claire/Esquire sex survey reported that only 17 percent of women go online for porn. The Australian government, too, reported that 17 percent of Australian women are porn consumers. (This is up 10 percent from more than one decade earlier).

Then there’s the matter of a testament on porn’s popularity often coming down to who stands to profit — or promote a personal agenda — in hyping up headlines. Hustler claims 56 percent of business at its video stores comes from women. At a recent sexuality conference, I questioned one female-oriented porn site presenter’s claim that the vast majority of women these days are into porn.

Where is the good study to support that? While the presenter’s site claimed 10,000 porn downloads per month, she had no way of knowing who was making the purchase, male or female. Regardless of the presenter’s irresponsibility in claiming to know more than she did, that sales number isn’t a lot when you consider that this is a multibillion-dollar industry.

Finally, there’s the issue of how porn is being defined in survey efforts. People tend to have distinct definitions for what constitutes porn versus erotica, which can influence data. I’ve also seen porn consumption defined beyond downloads or rentals, including activities like purchasing sex toys and phone sex.

Thus, exact numbers on who dabbles in explicit visual imagery become blurred.

So for those who are into it, or have the potential to be, what do these women want?

What Women Like

As with any other sexual activity, the answer boils down to personal preferences that are best learned by simply asking a lover "What do you like?" or "What are you curious about exploring?" These questions help to diffuse any pressure some women might feel in needing to fit in with supposed sex trends.

For those planning on guiding porn pleasure pursuits, there are general gender differences when it comes to people’s X-rated movie preferences. For women, it’s the context (sex in everyday places like motel rooms), sophisticated plotlines, clever use of words, and steamy relationship that get her sexually aroused.

She wants sex that’s less graphic and that features more realistic actors, in looks, physical arousal, and the way they engage one another. It simply makes her feel better about herself, her sexuality and her sexual response.

Research at the University of Amsterdam revealed that even though women’s bodies respond similarly to porn as men's, such as increased blood flow to the genitals, she feels differently while viewing his sensory delights. Women have reported feeling disgusted, annoyed, repulsed, and generally not turned on by porn made for him.

Women watching porn have reported feelings of amusement, excitement and arousal. In general, women want more than just their physical senses stimulated. They want sexual imagery that has them feeling good about themselves and sex.

Films that turn them on tend to portray genuine female pleasure, and, not surprisingly, they are generally directed or produced by women. This area of the porn industry is constantly at work in meeting her needs with gentler, "softer" sex.

Whether shopping for yourself or selecting a title for your lover, you’ve got an entire genre — female-friendly erotica — to explore, full of classy cinematography, intricate plots and thoughtful characters.

At its helm is producer Candida Royalle, a former erotic film star herself, who has strived to quell any concerns over feeling dirty by presenting a woman’s erotic voice. She sells about 10,000 movies monthly. Her sensuously explicit films are known for using more ‘natural’ looking women, fewer genital close-ups and even real-life couples at times.

Other females producing "for women by women" porn (of a wide variety) include Veronica Hart, Nina Hartley, Tristan Taormino and Jamye Waxman. According to Royalle’s "How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do," male directors holding some appeal for female audiences include Andrew Blake, Gerard Damiano, Cameron Grant, Henri Pachard and Anthony Spinelli.

At the end of the day, the success of your quest may not be your movie of choice, but getting her to explore different forms of pleasuring in general. Letting her know what you like and how that can positively affect your sex life is sure to perk up her ears.

This includes adding variety and novelty, boosting sexual excitement, and framing your efforts as ways to entice each other using sexually suggestive materials. And don’t forget to point out that porn aimed at couples is one of fastest growing markets in the industry.

P.S. increase your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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Why We're Obsessed With Vampire Sex

2010-01-02T11:25:00.000-08:00

You can’t escape them.

Fangs are everywhere these days, hoping you’ll also want a taste of the bloodthirsty fervor that has gripped the nation.

Between the best-selling books-turned-movies "Twilight Saga," HBO’s wildly popular "True Blood," and the CW’s "The Vampire Diaries," vampires have become a serious pop culture obsession.

"New Moon," the second installment of the "Twilight Saga," hits theaters this weekend, and it literally has teens and adults all over the world lusting after the movie’s lead vampire, Edward Cullen (played by British heartthrob Robert Pattinson).

So why have these folkloric creatures made such an amazing comeback? In two words: vampire sex.

They’re hot.

When "Dracula" was produced on stage in 1924, Bela Lugosi made vampires irresistibly handsome for modernity. But beyond hot bodies and good looks, it’s the male vampire’s depiction as the James Dean of Goth that holds the greatest appeal.

In desperate need of rehabilitation, these rebels are far from pure in thought and deed. Women can’t help but be drawn to these mesmerizing, misunderstood, moody bad boys.

Vampires are made all the more seductive because these soulless seducers with superpowers act as her protector, and they have the propensity to do good. Their story is usually as follows: she’s trying to "save" him, yet he gives her an excuse to be bad.

She has someone to blame for being so naughty, especially when it comes to her sexual desire.

They’re kinky.

Vampires became noticeably sexual with the start of the modern vampire era about 200 years ago. Yet vampire depictions throughout the centuries have involved subtle storylines of sexual deviants flirting with fetishes, for a killer mix of sex, romance, and violence. Since the 1950s, stories have become more overtly "sexplicit," with more recent movies and TV shows depicting or alluding to frenzied, frantic sex with aggressive appeal, which brings us to the next point about vampire appeal.

They’re into S&M.

Vampires like it rough. They like to bite. And their victims love the bites, scratches and handcuffs as depicted in shows like "Buffy the Vampire Slayer."

Sometimes sadomasochists attract what are known as "fang bangers," (a term frequently used in "True Blood"), people who have a thing for manhandle-me vampire sex role playing. The bondage, domination and submission themes mixed with "true love" are perfect reason for stripping off your scarf or turtleneck.

They scare us.

There’s something about feeling spooked that gets humans going. People get in touch with their primal side, including the fear of death, at the thought of coming across a vampire. The dangerous lust of a vampire torn between staying in control with every lick of his prey revs up your body much like sexual response. And it’s delicious.

They tease us.

A number of scenes in vampire literature and on the screen only imply sex, with kink or lesbianism mostly alluded to. Audiences are left to assume that there was some sex, and while they’d love to see more, the pay off of is that their imaginations go wild.

This is especially true with scripts like "Twilight," whose stars heat up the screen with sexual tension, only to remain abstinent. Viewers thrive off of every episode filling them with sexual desires that only go unfulfilled. Still, there’s hope that maybe later on in the story they’ll take it all the way.

Ultimately, vampire sex is more about seduction and the thrill of the passion potential portrayed.

They always do the walk of shame.

And it has to happen before dawn. There’s no "morning after" to deal with, which holds huge appeal for some.

They make us beg.

When it comes to longing and lust, we love being preyed upon. Vampires go for one of our most sensitive erogenous zones, the neck, becoming even more magnetic as their victims most beg for life, for death, for sex.

They never die.

They’re not totally dead. They’re not totally alive. And they’re not totally human for that matter. These above the law creatures impressively defy all reality. We’re intrigued that these super-beings are more powerful than we’ll ever be.

P.S. increase your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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9 Reasons Strip Clubs Can Spice Up Your Sex Life

2009-12-31T10:02:00.000-08:00

It’s the threesome of foreplay — only there’s no touching involved. Every now and then, a couple will steal away to a night club for a few hours of arousal. In a few situations, it’s a festive Chippendales venue; but in most cases, it’s a dimly-lit, somber, reserved experience with all eyes on the women.

Whether it’s a seedy hole in the wall or a high-class venue, scantily-clad women suggesting triple-X action is the theme of the show. Relegated as a male “pastime,” this world of table and lap dances is seen as his escape.

So when his partner is willing to get in on the act, eyebrows are raised.

Why in the world would any "respectable" woman want to go to a strip club? Such old-fashioned speculation comes swiftly, but is easily met with the fact that times have changed.

Plenty of women are all for a good striptease. In recent years, we’ve seen mothers and wives from coast to coast take to pole dancing, whether for exercise or to spice up their sex lives.

For those not into this type of naughty, the appeal is hard to fathom. What exactly is the draw of this pleasure pursuit as a pair?

Couples are going to strip clubs because:

1. There’s no work involved.

Foreplay becomes a breeze even before you take your seat. Lovers often find themselves sexually excited at the mere prospect of going to a strip club. Yet this arousal goes far beyond pre-game show titillations, with lovers already anticipating what will happen once they get back home.

2. It’s a bonding experience.

Sure, strip clubs don’t exactly bring on the warm fuzzies, but they raise the temperature in other ways. Lovers enjoy “sharing” the stripper, but staying focused on their union by touching and flirting with each other. This sex worker becomes a mutual object of desire that can have partners feeling closer, sexually speaking.

3. They like the power dynamic.

It’s not PC to admit it, but some couples like that they’re the paying customer. Consciously or not, they’re into the sense that when they give the dancer money, they get to “own” her to some degree. The room full of naked gals is all about their pleasuring and nothing else.

4. The experience can make them feel sexier.

By identifying with the stripper’s sexuality or desiring it, lovers can feel more wanton in the process. In other cases, where a stripper looks particularly haggard, a woman may come away from the experience feeling confirmed (and relieved) that she’s more attractive than the gal on stage. After all, the slight jealousy that can be fueled by the experience acts as inspiration to outdo the stripper at some point.

5. It’s fun.

Going to strip clubs allows for novel experiences and variety, sometimes inspiring moves for bedroom action.

6. It’s so bad that it’s good.

Despite its popularity, the experience of going to a strip club is still very taboo in nature. Couples thrive off of doing the unconventional and feeling more than a bit naughty. This includes the turn-on of seeing a partner flirt with a stripper or vice versa.

7. It invites sex and only sex.

Going to a strip club can be the excuse couples need for not being emotionally intimate from time to time. It keeps the action at home more sex-focused and can act as a safety valve for those who cannot or don’t want to connect with their partner.

8. It’s safe.

Health-wise, going to a strip club invites some of the tag team experience without presenting the sexual health risks involved. Couples don’t have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, yet they can still relish the third-party effects.

9. It puts a woman's mind at ease.

Even if they don't like watching their men get turned on, some women would rather know what their partners are doing than be left wondering. Accompanying him to a strip club makes her feel like she’s more on top of his sexual liaisons.

Going to a strip club isn’t for every couple. If it goes against your values or invites sexual jealousy, then definitely stay away. But if your relationship can handle such experimentation, be sure to discuss ahead of time what is and isn’t allowed.

Is it okay to get a lap dance? What’s considered cheating? How will you handle amateur night?

Remember, flexibility is key, as the rules may need to change once you’re inside. Seeing strip club fantasies become reality can be difficult for some. It may tap insecurities for some, while the sight of often sad, blank-faced strippers evokes pity from others.

If your partner looks uncomfortable or wants to go, don’t make a big issue over it. Just be sure to tell — and later show — your lover that, at the end of the night, they’re always the star of the show.

P.S. Boost your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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Enduring a Sex Marathon

2009-12-30T10:00:00.000-08:00

You may not get very many opportunities to get it on for extended periods of time with a lover, but when you do get the chance you don’t want to lose out by not knowing how to keep up your side of the bargain.

There are several ways to keep yourself in good form should the occasion arise. Enduring a sex marathon can take a few hours or longer if the situation demands it. It could go all night.

However, even the most virile and energetic must rest and rejuvenate. It’s a good idea to be well-fed (but not too well) with food that releases energy slowly (such as grains and low GI carbohydrates) and be well hydrated — sweating and exercise uses your body’s stores of water quickly.

Here are some tips on enduring a sex marathon:

Don’t Orgasm

You can do this by choosing positions that provide less stimulation — because everyone is different, only you will know what these are for you. In saying this, most positions that enter from behind provide lots of stimulation. Change positions if you feel like you’re losing the power of your drive and erection or getting too close to orgasm. Keeping yourself near orgasm can be risky (you might release by mistake), but it ensures you will stay hard, and the passion won’t abate too much during your sex marathon. Bear in mind that having an orgasm isn’t the end of the session and you can take a rest before you continue. This is a good time to experiment with positions that you may not have tried with your partner.

Pleasure Her to Keep the Focus Off of You

If you do happen to need a rest while enduring a sex marathon or you do orgasm, you can easily shift the focus off of you and onto her. This can include cuddling, fondling, massage, general touching, and kissing. A rest doesn’t have to be totally sexual in nature, and it’s just as nice to make love for hours as it is to just touch each other in nice ways — or invent new ways of lovin’. There are many ways to be intimate. Just don’t fall asleep!

Don’t Drink Too Much

Alcohol is known to be a relaxant and can be a wonderful addition to the time you share with your lover. In saying that, after two or more drinks, alcohol lowers a man’s ability to achieve and maintain erections, and can trigger an inability to orgasm for a long time (which may sound good, but it can weaken your erection so much that it’s no fun). Alcohol also has sedative effects — it could cause you to fall asleep easily. Drinking can also encourage unsafe behavior (such as not using condoms). Enduring a sex marathon will not be helped by drinking too much alcohol.

Get Creative

Sex is a broad term and is used for just about anything that tickles your fancy — it doesn’t just include intercourse or oral sex. While enduring a sex marathon, you can introduce sex toys like vibrators, beads or sex paraphernalia such as whips, ropes and blindfolds. Food is also a great diversion and pleasure; ice cream, chocolate sauce or whipped cream are great. Choose flavors you both like. Get creative — you can draw out the process for quite some time with some very lusty teasing using these objects. Don’t stick to the same old; use your imagination.

Keep Lube Handy

Sex play for hours is taxing on the body’s resources. This is understandable, but you do need to be aware of the potential pitfalls of sex play for long periods. One of the main problems could be dryness, so keep some good quality lubricant handy, one that tastes nice and is non-greasy. If you’re unsure of what kind to buy, do your homework and purchase a couple of different types (silicone-based, water-based) as well as different brands to find one that you both like. And don’t scrimp on lube! Enduring a sex marathon requires a lot of moisture. If you are using condoms, lube is going to be essential to help prevent breakage and to stop the friction heat and dryness that can occur.A glass of water nearby is also going to be useful, not only to rehydrate but to moisten your mouth.

Go, Go Gadget

Remember — enduring a sex marathon takes a little time and lots of patience. However, in the end, you and your lover will be satisfyingly happy (and probably a bit worn out too) and more knowledgeable for future sessions.

P.S. Boost your sexual health by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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17 Sex Resolutions for 2010

2009-12-30T04:18:00.000-08:00

Here's a New Year's resolution you'll definitely want to keep: Make 2010 all about shaping your sex life.

Who can resist a regimen involving more sex and romance? Between self-improvement, enhanced pleasuring, and the fun to be had planning your course of action, you (and your lover) are sure to have fun throughout the process.

So let 2010 be the year for your personal sexual revolution via these red-hot resolutions:

1. Let the spirit move you — sexually speaking.

Even when you don’t feel the urge, invite it. Be more spontaneous. This could mean touching your partner more, suggesting a new sex position on the fly, or pulling your lover away to a secluded location for one hot-'n'-heavy make out session.

2. Set up your own sex program.

Buy a handful of quality sex books. Pick and choose the activities you fancy, then map out your sex workout schedule. Don’t be afraid to make sure your significant other sticks to it.

3. Engage in all sorts of erotic talk.

Go outside of the box with the way you deliver sensual, romantic, or dirty talk. Then be sure to never run out of juice (btw, my book “Sultry Sex Talk” is due out later this year — it’s packed full of ideas).

4. Do something you would never do in the sack.

Now note: you don’t have to like it. But just try it — be a “sexplorer.” Whether it’s watching erotica that may seem unappealing or going on a sexual adventure beyond your four walls or buying that taboo sex toy, carpe diem. Then enjoy the reward of “been there, done that.”

5. Have sex in every room.

While most New Year’s resolutions are aimed at getting off the couch, get on one to get things started. Make it your mission to go beyond the bed, blessing other areas of your home. Half the fun is trying to get away with it. You may have to steal away from work or get up extra early to make this a mission accomplished.

6. Ask for what you want.

Your partner isn’t going to give you oral, turn on the video camera, or give you a tender, loving erotic massage unless you put it out there. Have 2010 be the year you reveal what turns you on and how you hope to become sexually satisfied.

7. Have more sex.

The key to coming out on top with this one (and in more ways than one) is to expand your definition of sex beyond intercourse. Note: This can include spending more quality time with yourself; having more sex and experiencing more touch are sure to put an extra spring in your step.

8. Cultivate your sexual connection.

Lovers complain about each other — a lot — and that doesn’t bode well for the bedroom. As the slogan says, “Quit your bitchin’ and start a revolution.” This starts with remembering why you like each other and reflecting on what’s needed to start feeling hot for each other again.

9. Become “sex positive.”
By that, I don’t mean doing and embracing everything under the sun, as this term has been hijacked to represent. Rather think about sex as a wonderful, full-of-pleasure part of being human that is to be celebrated and enjoyed. If you have trouble getting a handle on this, work with a sex counselor or therapist. You owe it to yourself.

10. Learn a new trick.

Add to your repertoire, acquiring at least one new technique, realizing that some may take longer than others — and quite literally, like lasting longer in bed. Actually execute on some of those sex tips the media bombards us with daily. You’ve got nothing to lose.

11. Go on more dates.
Whether you want more action or hope to find the one, you have to put yourself out there. Truth be told, most of their suggestions in those dating books are a crock. Finding somebody to fool around with or spend your life with is, like it or not, is very much a numbers game. You better your chances with the more people you hit on, go out with, and generally try to meet.

12. Become “that” couple.

Be the couple that’s always all over each other, exuding sexual energy that’s contagious. Go for the weekly sexual adventure, no apologies. Be the Joneses who everybody thinks is having way more sex than they are. Be erotically envied instead of wishing you were part of the action.

13. Take a sex workshop.

Find a qualified sex educator who’s all about better sex. This could involve everything from learning how to perform a new move or an old move better, how to experience multiple orgasms, how to have Tantric sex, or how to postpone gratification. The possibilities for more passion are endless.

14. Move on.
If you’re mourning a past sexual relationship, get over it. You can’t embrace what may come — including yourself — if you’re stuck in the past. Become forward thinking and be open to what 2010 has in store for you — which could be something better and more amazing than you’ve ever known.

15. Get in tune with your sexual self.

The sex department is a part of you, no matter how much you try to compartmentalize it. Welcome your sexuality — and its inherent sensuality — into the rest of your life. In the end, you will exude much more appeal.

16. Fight for your sexual rights – or another’s.

If you don’t stand up, who will? Battle for what is rightfully yours or be willing to accept the consequences.

17. Enjoy your efforts!

Don’t get consumed with reaching your sex goals, but enjoy the journey — all 365 days of it.

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Sex education should start with parents, not schools

2009-12-29T08:58:00.000-08:00

This morning I read on Wired.com the parents of Jessica Logan are suing their daughter’s ex-boyfriend, who had distributed a nude photo of her to his classmates. Logan committed suicide and the ridicule she received due to the photo is believed the motive for her suicide.

The photo was only ever in existence because Logan had practiced the popular art of “sexting,” sending out nude or otherwise risqué photos to a boyfriend or girlfriend via your cell phone.

This comes on the heels of a story I saw on CNN.com last night, which cited a study in Pediatrics that claimed 40 percent of children have sex before having “the talk” with their parents.

The study involved children ages 13 through 17, as well as their parents. In it, 42 percent of girls reported they had not discussed the effectiveness of birth control, and 40 percent had never received any sort of talk or advice about refusing sexual intercourse.

But this was practically saintly compared to what the boys reported. Seventy percent of them claimed they had not received any sort of education on condom use. In defense of at least a few of the boys’ parents, 50 percent of them claimed to have discussed condom use with their sons. However, they should probably remember something about teenage boys: Many of them aren’t going to listen to you the first time you tell them something.

There’s been a lot of talk these days about sex education in schools, or the lack thereof, and such talks are warranted. The school system could probably be doing a better job in a lot of ways. However, I think the biggest factor in the fight against teen pregnancy and STDs should be the parents, and obviously a lot of them are failing.

Although I don’t yet have children myself, I’m sure “the talk” isn’t the easiest thing to give to them. I understand the awkwardness, both from the parents and the children. It’s not an easy subject. However, parents shouldn’t expect parenthood to be easy all the time, and a few awkward talks could save them from a lot more awkward (and potentially rage-filled) talks in the future.

It’s nice, I’m sure, to assume that children aren’t having sex. In my ideal, perfect world in which I’m a millionaire and “Transformers 2” didn’t suck, people wouldn’t have sex until they’re mature and preferably married.

However, the same Pediatrics study says that one-third of ninth graders have had sex, and half of tenth graders have as well.

Kind of scary, if you ask me.

I understand the (usually conservative-minded) desire to focus on abstinence-only sex education. I understand the worry if you teach children and teens how to have safe sex, it will only encourage them to have sex when they really shouldn’t.

However, even coming from a very conservative family (in which I was home-schooled after elementary school) I was given substantial talks on safe sex. It’s an unfortunate fact of life that no man, woman or child is going to be perfect. So while we should continue to hope the youth of this world will be morally smart and responsible, we should still prepare them in case they make mistakes.

A teenager who avoids sex until marriage is great, but a safe-sex, STD-free teenager is still much better than a pregnant teenager with crabs.

This sexting trend is one in particular that should be discussed between parents and their children. As Jessica Logan proved, it isn’t wise to create a sexually explicit image or video of yourself and share it with anybody unless you are willing to share that material with everybody — in other words, if you’re a model or porn star.

Maybe there’s something exciting and romantic about such actions between married couples, but it is a rather stupid idea in high school, and probably in college as well.

I know that — especially in high school — it’s easy to feel like you’re completely in love, you want to stick with your boyfriend or girlfriend and believe you can trust them completely. But too many cases have proven otherwise.

If you’re going to do something like sexting, it would be better to wait until you’re absolutely sure the content isn’t going to leak or be shared — and that’s difficult to be sure of before marriage, at least.

Parents need to start educating their children better on all of these issues, rather than complaining the school systems aren’t doing their job for them.

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Casual sex not bad for mental health, study finds

2009-12-26T10:42:00.000-08:00

As almost every parent knows, hooking up for casual sex is bad for young people because it causes emotional or psychological damage. Right?

Well, actually, no. At least not for young adults between the ages of 18 and 24, according to a new study by University of Minnesota researchers.

They asked more than 1,300 young Minnesota adults about their most recent sexual encounters, their self-esteem and their emotional well-being. Interestingly, only about one-fifth of the subjects said their last encounter was casual. But their overall emotional status was no different than the four-fifths who said they were in committed relationships with their most recent sexual partner.

P.S. Boost your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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6 Sex Mistakes Women Make ( part 3 )

2009-12-23T08:39:00.000-08:00

Sex Mistake #5: Not Giving Him Guidance

Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to, says Parrott. But it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.

“A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter,” says Westheimer. “No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.”

The good news, according to Fisher, is that men very much want to please women.

“If you can tell them in a way that doesn’t kill their ego, they will appreciate it,” says Fisher. She advises women to sandwich what they don’t like in between five things they do, because he’s listening. “You won’t find out until the next time you’re in bed with him. But men do listen, particularly if you’re quite clear about it.”

Sex Mistake #6: Getting Upset When He Suggests Something New

After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. In short: Don’t take it personally.

Still, it’s important that you tune into your comfort zone says Parrott.

“Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality,” Parrott says. “If your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your morals, make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why. Of course, do this in a loving way as best you can. If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but you still don’t want to, again explain why. If it is a simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.”

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6 Sex Mistakes Women Make ( part 2 )

2009-12-20T08:33:00.000-08:00

Sex Mistake #3: Assuming Sex Is Casual for a Man

Westheimer believes we should all let go of old-fashioned notions, such as women are not sexual or that sex is just sex to men. “For some men, sex is a very important act. Don’t minimize it.”

The research, says Parrott, supports the idea that both men and women find sexual intimacy in the context of a committed relationship to be more satisfying.

“Numerous research studies make it very clear that the people who have the best quality and most frequent sex are married couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of ‘casual sex,” Parrot says.

In a study being conducted by Fisher and her colleagues of university students engaging in one-night stands, the numbers show that men are just as serious about sex and relationships as women. In fact, more than 50% of women and 52% of men who went into a one-night stand, according to Fisher, reported that they did so hoping to create a longer relationship. One-third of them actually did so. What’s the lesson?

“Never assume that a man is not romantic,” Fisher says. “Two huge mistakes in this culture are that women are not sexual and that men are not as romantic [as women].”

Sex Mistake #4: Believing He’s Always Up for Sex

Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time you ask, but not true for men. The pressures of everyday life -- family, work, bills -- can zap a man’s libido. This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often his lack of interest in sex is something we take personally.

“It comes as such a shock [to women] that they just don’t believe it,” Fisher says about the reaction many women have when their partner says they aren’t in the mood for sex. “They know themselves that they are not always interested in sex but they still love the man. But when they discover he doesn’t want to have sex, they think, ‘he doesn’t love me.’ Not true. He just doesn’t want to have sex.”

To be Continued ............

6 Sex Mistakes Women Make ( part 1 )

2009-12-18T10:27:00.000-08:00

Ladies, be honest: when your sex life becomes a little humdrum, out comes the mental catalogue of all the ways your partner isn’t quite measuring up. Guys tend to get a bad rap when it comes to understanding women’s bodies and what turns us on, making them easy targets in the blame game when sexual satisfaction starts to wane. And sure, they make their fair share of bedroom errors. But as the saying goes, it takes two to tango. As it turns out, top sex and relationship experts say that women make plenty of sex mistakes of their own. Here’s what they have to say about the six most common mistakes women make in the bedroom and what you can do to get the satisfaction you so rightly deserve.

Sex Mistake #1: Not Initiating Sex With Your Partner

It’s 2009 and still, many of us worry about ladylike behavior. We don’t want to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labeled aggressive. According to Les Parrot, professor of psychology at Seattle Pacific University and author of a new book called Crazy Good Sex, failing to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make.

“Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship,” he says. Generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.

Holding onto outdated ideas about sex roles also inhibits satisfaction with our sexual relationships, says "Dr. Ruth," aka Ruth Westheimer, PhD, a psychosexual therapist, professor at New York University, and lecturer at Yale and Princeton universities. “They used to think that women are less interested in sexual activity and I don’t want to say that anymore. I think there are women who are as interested in sex [as men].”

Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time. Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience, something Westheimer feels strongly women must do.

Sex Mistake #2: Worrying About What You Look Like

Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm.

“Don’t think about the fat on your belly or the makeup on your face,” advises Westheimer. “Concentrate on the pleasure of the act. You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm.”

“Men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and that’s not likely if she is anxious about her physical concerns,” Parrott says.

Helen Fisher, PhD, a cultural anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of a new book called Why Him, Why Her, says men don’t notice half the things women obsess about anyway.
“It’s amazing what men don’t notice if you’re enthusiastic, energetic, interested in them, and flexible minded.”

According to Fisher, there is an evolutionary explanation for the selective blindness men show to our physical flaws. For Darwinian reasons, says Fisher, men are (unconsciously, of course) looking for women who are able to bear healthy babies. Starting millions of years ago, men who attracted fertile women and had a lot of children lived on. Those who couldn’t died out. Although maybe not as necessary today, Fisher says that primal survival mechanism lives on.

“Men are much more attracted to women who show signs of health and youth and fertility. Rather than worry about the shape of your waist and hips, worry about your energy level and enthusiasm and interest in him,” Fisher advises.

to be continued .........

How Long is the Average Penis Size?

2009-12-16T05:42:00.000-08:00

Determining the average penis size for a group of males, let alone for men around the world, is more complicated than you might imagine. Unfortunately most information about average penis size comes from popular culture and not science. Let's start by considering some figures from science.

The results from three studies of penis size where the measurements were taken in a laboratory setting give the following ranges:

* Average penis length (flaccid/not erect): from 3.4 inches to 3.7 inches (8.6 cm to 9.3 cm)
* Average penis length (erect): from 5.1 inches to 5.7 inches (12.9 cm to 14.5 cm)
* Average penis girth (circumference when erect): from 3.5 inches to 3.9 inches (8.8 cm to 10 cm)

These numbers are obviously very different from the sizes we hear (and see) in adult movies, and even the kinds of numbers you read on line. Why such a difference?

Many, possibly most, statistics you read are not from legitimate research, but from marketing companies who want you to feel bad about your penis size (so you’ll buy their product).
Important facts about reports of average penis size

* There is much greater variation in size of flaccid (non-erect) penises than of penises when they are erect. A soft penis that looks large may be roughly the same size when erect as a soft penis that looks smaller.
* Because most men see other penises when they are not erect it can appear as if there is a big difference, and men may be likely to assume their erect penis is much smaller when compared to others.
* Male porn stars are often chosen specifically because they have larger than average penises. Also, there are a variety of techniques used to make penises look bigger on camera. Lighting, camera angle, and even shaving of pubic hair can all make things look bigger on camera.

Problems with research on average penis size

Determining what the average penis size is seems like it shouldn’t be that complicated. It’s a physical body part, you measure it, and repeat hundreds of thousands of times around the world, then take an average. Unfortunately, arriving at an accurate idea of what is an average penis size, is more complicated. Some of the problems with figuring out average penis size include:

* Is penis size considered to be the length, the girth, or both?
* When measuring penis length, where do you start?
* Is penis girth measured at the base of the penis, at the glans (head), or around the shaft?
* Are the people measured in these studies representative of the general population?
* Do all studies include measurements taken by others, or self-reported measurements (which are historically bigger than measurements reported by others)?

Different studies answer these questions differently, which makes arriving at a single average penis size almost impossible. Also, many researchers believe that those who are willing to participate in a study about penis size may have larger than average penises, which would also skew the results.

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How to Use a Vibrator for Men

2009-12-14T11:31:00.000-08:00

I’ve spoken with thousands of men who had no idea they could use a vibrator. They either thought vibrators only worked on women, or they weren’t for “guys like them.” Once most of these men gave vibrators a chance, they quickly became converts. Vibrators aren’t made for a certain kind of person, they’re for anyone interested in discovering new ways to feel sexual pleasure. Men in particular are offered a narrow set of sexual options, and vibrators can help expand those options and discover pleasure and orgasms you didn’t even know were in you. If you’re curious, here are some tips for men on how to use a vibrator.

Time Required: For Your First Time, a Half Hour or More

Here's How:

1. Explode the myth.
Most people think vibrators are sex toys for women only. Since you may have never thought vibrators could be fore you, you may need to give yourself some time to get comfortable with the idea of trying a vibrator. The good news is that once you do, you’ll be greatly rewarded. Remember that sex toys aren’t made for certain kids of people, they’re made to stimulate nerve endings. Anyone and everyone could be the “kind of person” who uses vibrators, and using one doesn’t say anything about you other than the fact that you like yourself enough to want to feel good.

2. Get to know your vibrator.
Take your vibrator out of the package and get to know how it works and what kind of batteries it takes. Play with the buttons and switches and find out how many speeds and settings it has. Wash your vibrator well before using it. If it isn’t waterproof be careful not to get any water near the battery case. Check for sharp edges or seams (these can be easily filed down and made safe). Make sure the body of the vibrator isn’t coming apart from the battery pack and that all wires are solid and secure. If there are any flaws return your vibrator before you use it.

3. Start on your own.
Even if you’re planning on using your vibrator with a partner, it’s a good idea to check it our by yourself first. You’ll feel less self-conscious and/or you can really concentrate on how it feels for you without being distracted (for better or worse) by a partner. Make sure you have a little time and enough privacy. If you’ve got roommates, children, thin walls, or nosy neighbors, you can always turn on some music and make use of blankets and comforters to mute the sound (you may also want to think about getting a quieter vibrator).

4. Play with the lights on.
Not everyone will be comfortable with this one, and vision may not be a sense you rely on, but playing with a vibrator with the lights on can be very educational and useful. You can discover specific places on your body that are rich with nerve endings and ripe for stimulation. This is the kind of information you can use on yourself in the future and share with a lover. You can achieve the same effect with touch, knowing exactly where the vibrator is, but seeing what’s going on can be a benefit for some.

5. Turn it off before you turn it on.
It’s a generalization, but men probably don’t touch all parts of their body as often as women do. You may be 100% familiar with your genitals, but how well do you know your calves or thighs? When was the last time you noticed how it feels to be touched behind your knees? Before you turn the vibrator on, get used to how it feels on your body. Press it firmly against your skin and massage your muscles with it. This isn’t meant to give you an orgasm, but it’s a slow way of introducing your body to the vibrator.

6. Move your vibrator from the outside in.
Once you turn it on, start by touching the vibrator to your feet and your hands. Run it up and down your arms and legs, across your belly, your shoulders and neck, your scalp and face. Even though vibrators are used mostly around the penis, scrotum, ass and nipples, don’t just jump to the main event. Get a feel for the vibration all over your body and then slowly move to the more sensitive parts. You can slowly move the vibrator up your inner thigh, gently run it over the perineum, or in circles around your nipples.

7. Don’t rush: Explore every inch.
The great thing about vibrators is that they never get tired, and they let you explore every inch of your body for sexual pleasure. We are so penis-focused that it’s no wonder most men think that their penis is not only the best sexual part of their body, but the only area capable of giving them an orgasm. In fact there are many parts of a man’s body that are capable of experiencing intense sexual pleasure. Using a vibrator is a great way to find them. Think of yourself as an explorer, and the vibrator is both your compass and your flashlight.

8. Play with the speed of the vibrator.
Because men tend to use a lot of friction when they masturbate, stronger vibrators are often needed, particular around the genitals. But when exploring other parts of your body, always start on a low setting and work your way up. Particularly with anal vibrators, even a slight change in the speed of the vibrator can be felt, and playing with the speed settings can be highly pleasurable.

9. Play with pressure.
Experiment with applying different pressure. It might not feel good to press very hard around the scrotum, but if you put your vibrator on the perineum and apply deep pressure you are stimulating the prostate externally. Some men find that with a strong enough vibrator and enough pressure, using a vibrator on the head of the penis will give them an orgasm without ever moving the vibrator. Experiment with everything from a feather light touch to a self-love smack down -- find what works for you.

10. External vs. internal vibration.
Hard plastic and electric vibrators are the best for external stimulation as they are stronger and more comfortable to use externally. You can use these vibrators for external anal stimulation as well. If you want to explore anal penetration with a vibrator it’s recommended that you either get an anal attachment for your electric vibrator or buy a separate vibrator that is safe for anal use. You may find vibrators made of silicone or other softer materials are more comfortable for anal penetration. Always use a water based lubricant for any penetration play.

11. External anal stimulation.
The anus (the part on the outside that you can see and touch) is rich with nerve endings and usually responds favorably to stimulation. As mentioned above, start slowly and work from the inside out. See what the vibrator feels like on your lower back, your bum, and your inner thighs. Move slowly and gently to the anus and start by applying just a little pressure. You can roll the edge of the vibrator around the area and experiment with pressure and speed as you go. Once they get over the newness of the feeling many men find this highly pleasurable.

12. Anal penetration with a vibrator.
Anal penetration requires patience, arousal, and a lot of lubricant. Start slow and get yourself fully aroused by using the vibrator externally first. Don’t force an anal toy inside your body. Instead, with the vibrator on, just leave the tip at the opening of the anus and let the toy slide in gently when your body is ready. Once inside you can move the vibrator around and also play with the speed of the vibrator. Tilting the vibrator toward your belly button will stimulate the prostate. You may have to add more lubricant depending on how long your play lasts.

13. Using your vibrator with a partner.
You can use your vibrator with your partner in any number of ways. You can control the vibe and use it on yourself. You and your partner can use it on each other. There are vibrators that fit over the penis for use during partner penetration play. You can also find a vibrator that fits well between you and your partner that neither of you need to control, but can add stimulation during sex. However you want to do it, it’s a good idea for each of you to follow the above steps first, and get fully comfortable on your own before making it a threesome.

Tips:

1. Prostate massagers
Some vibrators are better suited for prostate massage than others. Vibrators that aren’t too big, and have a gentle curve tend to work well. Some men like the feeling of pressure alone on the prostate and will use a vibrator but keep it turned off. Others enjoy the feeling of vibration and pressure. Remember to use lots of lubricant and only toys that are safe for anal penetration.

2. Be patient.
Many men are used to sex play that involves a lot of quick rubbing and stimulation. Vibrators give you the chance to try something completely different. Even if you find the vibe doesn’t drive you to the heights of orgasm immediately, give it chance. Find a place on your body where the vibration feels good and leave the vibrator there for a minute or two. Apply pressure and let the vibrations go deeper into your body. You may be surprised by the results.

3. Take your batteries out.
Get in the habit of taking your batteries out of the vibrator each time your finished using it. If you leave the batteries in the vibe may turn on to a very low speed (or you may leave it on low without knowing it) and this can both burn out the motor and make for some embarrassing moments when everyone at dinner is wondering where that buzzing is coming from. Also, if you leave your vibrator alone for extended periods with the batteries in, they can corrode and leak into the battery case destroying your vibrator.

4. Anal vibrator safety.
Don’t share sex toys unless you use a condom every time. If you’re playing with a female partner never let a sex toy that has been in the rectum go in the vagina. Always use water based lubricant when using a vibrator for anal penetration. You can put some lube on the shaft of the vibrator and with your fingers put some lube on the outside and just inside the anus. Replenish the lubricant on the vibrator throughout the sex play.

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How to Use a Vibrator for Women

2009-12-11T11:07:00.000-08:00

Very few vibrators comes with instruction manuals. On the one hand, you might think that no manual is necessary -- after all shouldn’t you know how to use a vibrator? But if you’ve never used one, how exactly are you supposed to know how? Most people do manage to stumble their way to pleasure with a vibrator, but if you’re looking for a few helpful hints here is a beginner’s guide for women on how to use a vibrator.

Time Required: For Your First Time, a Half Hour or More

Here's How:

1. Get to know your vibrator.
Take your vibrator out of the package and get to know how it works and what kind of batteries it takes. Play with the buttons and switches and find out how many speeds and settings it has. Wash your vibrator well before using it. If it isn’t waterproof, be careful not to get any water near the battery case. Check for sharp edges or seams (these can be easily filed down and made safe). Make sure the body of the vibrator isn’t coming apart from the battery pack and that all wires are solid and secure. If there are any flaws, return your vibrator before you use it.

2. Start on your own.
Even if you’re planning on using your vibrator with a partner, it’s a good idea to check it our by yourself first. You’ll feel less self-conscious and/or you can really concentrate on how it feels for you without being distracted (for better or worse) by a partner. Make sure you have a little time and enough privacy. If you’ve got roommates, children, thin walls, or nosy neighbors, you can always turn on some music and make use of blankets and comforters to mute the sound (you may also want to think about getting a quieter vibrator).

3. Play with the lights on.
Not everyone will be comfortable with this one, and vision may not be a sense you rely on, but playing with a vibrator with the lights on can be very educational and useful. You can discover specific places on your body that are rich with nerve endings and ripe for stimulation. This is the kind of information you can use on yourself in the future and share with a lover. You can achieve the same effect with touch, knowing exactly where the vibrator is, but seeing what’s going on can be a benefit for some.

4. Turn it off before you turn it on.
Get comfortable with the feel of the vibrator on your body. Run the vibe along your body without even turning it on. Notice how it feels. Press it firmly against your skin and massage your muscles with it. If the vibrator is a hard material this will probably feel nice. If the vibrator is a soft rubber and doesn’t feel smooth against your skin, try the above with your clothes on. This isn’t meant to give you an orgasm, but it’s a gentle way of introducing your body to the vibrator.

5. Move your vibrator from the outside in.
Once you turn it on, start by touching the vibrator to your feet and your hands. Run it up and down your arms and legs, across your belly, your shoulders and neck, your scalp and face. Again, you can start with some clothes on if you like. Even though vibrators are used mostly around the vulva and clitoris, don’t just jump to the main event. Get a feel for the vibration all over your body and then slowly move to the more sensitive parts. You can slowly move the vibrator up your inner thigh, or in circles around your breasts and nipples.

6. Don’t rush: Explore every inch.
The great thing about vibrators is that they never get tired, and they let you explore every inch of your body for sexual pleasure. Most women use vibrators for clitoral stimulation and many women report that one side -- or even one portion -- of their clitoris responds to vibration more than another. Think of yourself as an explorer, and the vibrator is both your compass and your flashlight (in fact some vibrators come with flashlights). Don’t rush, leaving a vibrator in place can allow it to establish sensation connections that previously weren’t there.

7. Play with the speed of the vibrator.
Most vibrators have multiple speed settings (or at least two settings). Always start on a low setting and work your way up. If a vibrator feels too strong at first you can put a towel between you and the vibrator, or just press it lightly against your body. You may find that on some areas a lower speed is all you need, and on others stronger is better. Some vibrators have “pulsation” settings, but you can also play with turning the strength up and down in rapid succession.

8. Play with pressure.
Experiment with applying different pressure. You may enjoy a lot of deep pressure with clitoral stimulation or you may want to hold a vibrator just slightly above the body. You can press your vibrator deep into your skin and massage the muscles while also feeling the stimulation of the motor. With most battery-powered vibrators, the more pressure you apply the lower the vibration feels. Also the stronger you hold your vibrator, the more vibration gets absorbed by your hand. Experiment with everything from a feather light touch to a self-love smack down, and find what works for you.

9. On point or flat out.
Most vibrators will have a point or an edge. Try touching yourself with the finest point of the vibrator. Next put the widest or flattest part of your vibrator against your body. When you focus on one point, the vibrations can feel more intense than when the vibration is being dispersed around a wider area. You may find that the feel of the vibrator on your labia, or above your clitoris feels awesome. Because the clitoris extends inside the body, deep vibration in this area can feel great, and different than direct clitoral stimulation.

10. Using a vibrator for penetration.
Most women use vibrators for external stimulation, but as long as your vibrator is safe for penetration there’s no reason not to try it. A vibrator that is safe for penetration will be smooth, have no rough edges, and won’t absorb bodily fluids. In almost all cases. it’s recommended to put a condom over a vibrator if you’re using it for penetration. You should also use water based lubricant when using a vibrator for penetration. You can put some lube on the shaft of the vibrator and with your fingers put some lube on your vulva and just inside your vagina.

11. Exploring penetration with a vibrator.
Start slow with penetration and get yourself aroused by using the vibrator externally first. While far more nerve endings are outside the vagina than inside, lots of women enjoy penetration with a vibrator. Some women will use a vibrator to find and stimulate the g spot. It has also been hypothesized that nerve endings in the cervix respond to stimulation and pressure. Pressing the vibrator against the top of your vagina (such as pressing it towards your belly) may provide g spot stimulation or even indirect clitoral stimulation.

12. Using your vibrator with a partner.
You can use your vibrator with your partner in any number of ways. You can control the vibe, using it on yourself to add stimulation during sex play with a partner. You can use the vibrator on your partner (or vice versa). You can also find a vibrator that fits well between you and your partner that neither of you need to control, but can add stimulation during sex. However you want to do it, it’s a good idea for each of you to follow the above steps first, and get fully comfortable on your own before making it a threesome.

Tips:

1. G spot vibrators
Some vibrators have a curved tip and are sold as g spot vibrators. These toys can make it easier to reach the g spot but they are no guarantee that you’ll enjoy g spot stimulation. Also, any firm vibrator can be used to stimulate the g spot.

2. Safety tip: vaginal or anal penetration.
If you want to insert a vibrator anally, only use vibrators designed for anal penetration. The toy should be smooth and seamless, and should have a flared base to prevent it from slipping all the way in. Read more about anal sex toy safety.

3. Vibrator strength trick.
If you’re using a vibrator on a partner and you want to vary the strength of the vibration you can do this by grabbing the vibrator tighter and getting a larger grasp on it. When you do this your hand absorbs more of the vibration and to the person on the other end it feels like the vibration is getting a bit lower. Loosen your grip and the strength will come back.

4. Take your batteries out.
Get in the habit of taking your batteries out of the vibrator each time your finished using it. If you leave the batteries in, the vibrator may turn on to a very low speed (or you may leave it on low without knowing it) and this can both burn out the motor and make for some embarrassing moments when everyone at dinner is wondering where that buzzing is coming from. Also, if you leave your vibrator alone for extended periods with the batteries in, they can corrode and leak into the battery case, destroying your vibrator.

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Why Should I Use a Vibrator?

2009-12-10T11:20:00.000-08:00

There is a lot of pressure to be sexual in the “right” way, and some people feel like they should use a vibrator. The fact is that you can have an incredible sex life without vibrators or sex toys at all. That said, using vibrators is a completely healthy (and potentially pleasure inducing) way to explore your sexuality.

There are as many reasons to use a vibrator as there are reasons to feel good. Here are some of the most common reasons people play with vibrators:

Curiosity:Sexual curiosity is healthy; wanting to try a vibrator is reason enough to try one.

Self-discovery: Particularly for those of us who have never been given the opportunity or permission to explore being sexual, vibrators can be a great way to explore your body. When using a vibrator by yourself you can start exploring yourself, your sensations (both physical and emotional) and reactions in a relatively safe environment.

To “spice up” a long term sexual relationship:Vibrators can shake things up (literally and figuratively) in a long term relationship if sex has become routine or exploration has fizzled out.

To experience orgasm for the first time: For many people, especially women, who never or rarely experience orgasm, vibration can be the fastest and easiest way to discover their orgasmic potential.

For extra stimulation that you can’t add on your own:Many people aren’t able to stimulate themselves the way they want to. Chronic pain, disability, and fatigue don’t stop you from feeling pleasure, but vibrators can sometimes make it easier to get there.

For fun:For the most part the reason we all use, or consider using, vibrators is the same: because it's pleasurable. Pleasure, however you define it, is pretty close to a universal desire.

Pressure:This is NOT a good reason to use toys, but it’s why some people do. Whether your partner is well meaning or not, if you’re being pressured to try using a vibrator it won’t work, and it shows a lack of respect of your boundaries. Vibrators are ultimately about feeling pleasure, and you can’t force someone to experience pleasure, because experiencing pleasure is in some ways an expression of free will. Everyone has the right to say no to using a vibrator, just as we all have the right to say no to any kind of sex play at any time.

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The Who, Where, and How of Vibrator Use Statistics

2009-12-08T01:11:00.000-08:00

The increasing visibility of vibrators in mainstream media, and in retail stores that don't specialize in sex toys is bringing some people to my door asking the question, how many people really use vibrators?

Until recently there hasn't been much reliable research on vibrator use. The people who collect most of the information about vibrator use tend to be, not surprisingly, the people who are trying to sell us more vibrators. These surveys are always tied to some form of marketing and methodologies are rarely described in detail.

In 2009 Michael Reece and Debra Herbenick, along with colleagues at Indiana University published to surveys of vibrator use which offered a much more reliable and detailed look into the hows and whys of vibrator use. Their findings are below. Beneath their findings I've included the numbers from earlier research some of which amounts to no more than marketing material but others represent serious study on vibrator use.

Overall Reece and Herbenick found that just under 50% of respondents reported using a vibrator at some point, with slightly more women (52%) than men (45%) reporting vibrator use.

When Do You Use Vibrators?

Women reported using vibrators most during masturbation (46%) and least during intercourse (37%). Men were most likely to use vibrators with a partner during “sex play or foreplay” (40%). Only 17% of men reported using a vibrator for masturbation. The paper on men reported on reasons for first using a vibrator, and the most common one men gave (67%) was “for fun”. 40% of men said they used one to help a partner with orgasms, and 7% said they used it to help themselves to have an orgasm.

Vibrator Use and Sexual Function

The researchers compared vibrator users and non-vibrator users on several measures of sexual functioning (asking questions about things like erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, pain, orgasm, lubrication, and sexual desire). Overall men and women who used vibrators reported fewer problems with sexual function. And people who used vibrators more recently (the past month) responded to surveys in a way that indicated fewer problems with sexual function.

Vibrator Use and Other Healthy Behaviors

Both men and women who use vibrators were more likely to do things that indicate a comfort with their bodies and an interest in taking care of themselves. Women who had ever used a vibrator were more likely than those who had never used a vibrator to have had a gynecologic exam in the past year and performed a genital self-examine in the past month. Men who reported performing testicular self-exams within the past moth were more likely to have used a vibrator.

Sex Toy Cleaning

The good news is that the majority of men and women do clean their vibrators. The bad news is that some don’t (20% of men and 14% of women report never cleaning their toys). Of those who do clean, habits could still improve. 60% of women and 53% of men report cleaning their toy before and after use, with the rest either cleaning before or after. It’s not clear if they asked this, but what I’d be most interested in knowing is whether or not they cleaned the toy before first use, something that I think a lot of people overlook but it important considering the serious lack of hygiene in most sex toy factories.

Side Effects of Vibrator Use

The researchers only reported on women’s responses to questions about negative side effects of vibrator use. They asked women about genital numbness, pain, irritation, swelling (the bad kind) and tears or cuts. Here are the findings:

* 71.5% of women never experienced any side effects.
* 16% reported numbness
* 3% reported pain
* 10% reported irritation
* 8% reported swelling
* 1% reported tears or cuts

In all cases, those who reported negative side effects judged them to be relatively short lived and minor in severity.

How Common Is Vibrator Use

Previous to 2009 most statistics suggested between 20-27% of people had used a vibrator at some point in their lives. Some examples of survey research include:

* In Shere Hite’s famous survey (1976), only 1% of respondents said they had ever used a vibrator
* In a 2006 Elle/MSNBC.com survey 40% of respondents said they had used a vibrator.
* In a 1996 survey of Swedish women aged 18 to 74, 19% of respondents said they had used a sex toy by themselves, and 15% said they had used a sex toy with a partner. Younger repondents were more likely to have used a sex toy, with 30% of women 25 to 34 reporting having used a sex toy.

Age of First Vibrator Use

Two surveys that have asked this got very similar results:

* 15 to 17% were under 20 years old when they first tried a vibrator
* 50% were in their 20s
* 22 to 27% were in their 30s
* 8 to 10% were 40 and older

Vibrator Use by Gender

In the two surveys that compared vibrator use between men and women, women were more likely to use vibrators:

* One study found that 33% of female respondents versus 20% of male respondents used vibrators
* Another study found that the numbers were 24% for women and 21% for men.

What else about people who use vibrators?

Here are some random statistics from the surveys listed below:

* Most studies found that vibrator users were overwhelmingly white.
* Most studies found that vibrator users were predominantly in their thirties.
* According to Xandria Collection’s Toys in the Sheets survey, the most common vibrator user was a white Christian married woman, in her thirties, who votes Republican.
* According to the Durex global sex survey Australia has the highest vibrator use reported (46%) and India has the lowest (3%). The US is up there at 45%.
* Women in relationships are more likely to use a vibrator than women who are single.

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Vampire Sex 100 times better than Normal Sex - Ashley Greene

2009-12-05T20:55:00.000-08:00

TWILIGHT beauty Ashley Greene is claiming that vampire sex is better than normal sex.

The star of The Twilight Saga: New Moon, who is rumoured to be dating Kings of Leon bassist Jared Followill, has said that she believes her character Alice Cullen would have a better sex life than she does.

"Take the best sex you've ever had in your life, multiply it by 100 and that's vampire sex," The 22-year-old told Maxim magazine.

The actress also admitted that she was desperate to star in the vampire franchise.

"Oh my God, I wanted this part so badly. So when they told me I got it, I tried to play it all cool, you know, for about a minute," she said.

"I love, absolutely love Alice, my character. She's sweet, sexy and a killer. I feel if I was in a real fight, I'd get my ass kicked."

As for starring in another popular film franchise, Greene added: "I want to hit up James Bond. That would be awesome."

P.S. boost your sexual drive by eating natural Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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Why Children Who Live Without Dads Have Earlier Sex

2009-11-02T15:40:00.000-08:00

Researchers have known for years that children raised without a dad at home tend to start having sex at a younger age than those that do. I guess it was assumed that the factors were environmental - that kids saw their single mom dating so they started dating earlier and things like that. But a new study from researchers at six major U.S. universities have called that assumption into question. This new study argues that earlier sex is best explained by genetics, and the same genetic disposition that leads to earlier sex also creates problems for men in marriages.

This seems just a little counter intuitive to me. The challenges in any family without a father present are far-reaching and the results of absentee fathers' leaving their families cross many behavioral spectra. In any case, the research is interesting, but I am not yet convinced that genetics plays the dominant role in children having sex sooner. A responsible, committed father makes a good difference in so many areas.

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Child Sex Boom Fueled by Poverty ( Part 2 )

2009-11-01T16:30:00.000-08:00

Earlier this year, the United Nations Office of Drugs and Crimes stated in its Global Report on Trafficking in Persons that 79 percent of all global trafficking is for sexual exploitation, one of the world's fastest-growing crimes. The report stated that the proportion of minors involved in the various forms of human-trafficking increased from about 15 percent to nearly 22 percent between 2003 and 2007. This past June, the Obama Administration expanded the U.S. watch list of countries suspected of not doing enough to combat human-trafficking, putting more than four dozen nations on notice that they might face sanctions if their records don’t improve.

ECPAT International’s recent report also warned that the number of children and young people trafficked within their own country is increasing. Such trafficking frequently involves movement from rural to urban areas or from one city or town to another without the need for travel documentation.

Purchasing sex, whether from children or adults, creates huge monetary incentives for human traffickers, according to Siddharth Kara, a board member of the Washington-based NGO “Free the Slaves” and author of the 2008 book “Sex Trafficking.” Even within the exploding slavery industry, which according to Kara generated $152.3 billion in revenues in 2007, trafficked sex workers are by far the most profitable of slaves.

It’s because of these huge revenues that destination countries often turn a blind eye to sex tourism. The International Labor Organization says it contributes as much as 14 percent of the gross domestic product of Indonesia, Malaysia, the Philippines and Thailand.

P.S. Boost your sexual drive by eating lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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Child Sex Boom Fueled by Poverty ( Part 1 )

2009-10-31T14:14:00.000-07:00

BANGKOK, Thailand — Narisaraporn Asipong, a matronly social worker at the “Mercy Center” shelter met 8-year-old Niran (a pseudonym) five years ago in Klong Toey, Bangkok’s largest concentration of slum communities.

“His step-father was beating him so he was scared to go home,” says Asipong, who has worked with street children for the last seven years. “He came with me to Mercy Center and I enrolled him in school.” A year later, Niran returned home because he missed his mother. “One day, I saw him on the streets again,” she says. “He looked very skinny and unhealthy.”

Asipong was not surprised when she heard that Niran was living with an older man who offered him food, money and video games in exchange for sexual favors. “There are groups of people who take advantage of children and sexually exploit them,” says Asipong. “The children get tricked easily because of promises of quick money.”

Niran told Asipong he was sick, and had HIV/AIDS. The United Nations estimates that 1 percent of Thailand's population is infected with the HIV virus — nearly three times the rate in the U.S. “When I last saw Niran in the hospital he told me that he wanted to be a good boy again,” says Asipong. On Aug. 22, 2009, Aspiong attended Niran’s cremation ceremony in Kanchanabuori, Thailand.

Niran was just one of the estimated 1.8 million children worldwide trapped in the multi-billion dollar commercial sex trade every year. Commercial sexual exploitation of children is booming according to a new global report, and governments are not doing enough to protect young people.

"The recent economic downturn is set to drive more vulnerable children and young people to be exploited by the global sex trade," says Carmen Madrinan, executive director of ECPAT International, the organization that authored the August 2009 report. "The indifference that sustains the criminality, greed and perverse demands of adults for sex with children and young people needs to end."

Increasing poverty in children’s countries of origin and smaller budgets for social services are two of the factors heightening children’s vulnerability. Deterioration of living conditions often compels young people to abandon school in order to contribute to the family income, putting them at risk of seeking livelihood options that lead to their being exploited, according to ECPAT International.

As a result of the current global downturn, hundreds of factories have closed in Thailand, leaving thousands of both Thai and non-Thai workers unemployed. Unemployment is rising at a rate of about 100,000 workers a month and may climb to 1.5 million by the end of the year.

“If you ask me, the government is not correcting the source of the problem,” says Asipong. “It’s just treating the symptoms. Poverty is a big contribution to the problem in Thailand, especially in the countryside. Whether parents or children, both have to struggle to survive.”

Street children and stateless children are extremely vulnerable to commercial sexual exploitation, says Amanda Bissex, UNICEF Thailand's Chief of Child Protection. "We need to improve law enforcement and the economic welfare of children," she says, "but we also need to address people's attitudes and create an environment where there is zero tolerance for abuse of children, whether in their home country or overseas."

To be Continued........

P.S. Boost your sexual drive by eating lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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Another Journalist Faces Lashing in Saudi Sex Scandal Fallout

2009-10-30T21:04:00.000-07:00

A 36-year-old Saudi journalist remains in prison and faces 70 lashes for working at an unlicensed television station after two female reporters were pardoned by King Abdullah Monday for the same alleged offenses, a lawyer involved with the case said Tuesday.

Omar Felimban was charged with working for the Lebanese Broadcasting Corp., the Beirut-based satellite TV station known as LBC, after it had its license suspended for airing a racy show this summer, Sulaiman Al Jumeii, a Jeddah-based lawyer advocating on Felimban’s behalf, said.

According to widely-published reports, the main subject of the show, Mazen Abdul Jawad, a 32-year-old airline clerk, shocked the conservative kingdom by revealing the secrets of his sex life. During the broadcast, the divorced father of four told tales of sleeping with his neighbor at the age of 14, and picking up girls using the chatting functions of Bluetooth on his mobile phone. He also showed off some sex toys to the cameras.

Abdul Jawad denies he confessed to these acts and accuses LBC of editing the broadcast, according to his lawyer Al Jumeii.

A spokeswoman for LBC in Beirut declined to comment.

Abdul Jawad was sentenced to five years in jail and 1,000 lashes earlier this month. Three friends who appeared on the show with him got two-year terms and 300 lashes each. And LBC, which is owned by the Saudi billionaire investor Prince Alwaleed Bin Talal, had its license from the Ministry of Culture and Information suspended and had to close down its offices in Riyadh and Jeddah in August because of the show.

The television station is also facing a lawsuit filed at the Ministry of Culture and Information by Abdul Jawad for allegedly deceiving him during the tapings. “All the producers and executives involved in making the show have fled the country, and the only ones facing penalties are the participants and the journalists who were coordinators at the station,” Al Jumeii said.

The Ministry of Culture and Information is investigating Abdul Jawad’s claims, its spokesman Abdulrahman Al-Hazza said. It has also taken over the cases of the two female journalists from the courts and will examine if any laws were broken.

Representatives for the women could not be reached for comment.

The female journalists could be banned from the profession, pay a fine or go to prison, but they will not face lashings, Al Jumeii said. He said he presented the case of Felimban to the Minister of Culture and Information on Tuesday and was assured the case would be transferred from the courts to the ministry soon.

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Be innovative in sex plays

2009-10-28T08:33:00.000-07:00

For many people sex plays a very important role in their lives and they can’t see beyond that. Sex is a very important factor for everyone or for almost everyone. Since there are different people there are different viewpoints about the same. For example some are adventurous and some docile. Some prefer to experiment while some prefer not to.

For the adventurous kind there are sex toys, which are available in the market. There are vibrators, sex toys and adult sex toys. Some people are still not open to using such instruments but there are some who are happy doing the same. These Adult toys are in great demand today and many people are turning into these toys to better satisfaction and satisfying their sexual urge.

There has been an increase in the demand of sex toys because of hectic lifestyles and the pressure of career over pleasure. People now have less time on hands for indulging in sexual pleasures. Sex life has got affected with work pressure.

Adult sex toys are in great demand nowadays, but still not everyone is ready for the same. The reason being they want themselves to become much more attractive than they already are like better dressing and various other avenues, they want themselves to look sexier than what they are, instead of indulging in sex toys.

Then there are adult board games and sex games for those who like something quieter. These games include features, which are required for excitement, which is, required to be free flowing between the couples. The couples can thereafter decide on the games they want or indulge in or feel attracted towards. These board games are preferred among elder couples or couples who have some sexual problems or hindrances alike and thus require an alternate way to satisfy themselves.

The market for sex toys and adult fun is really expanding at fast rate and many people are taking in to the same either discreetly or openly. The market for adult fun like sex toys is really surging ahead and so is its demand, which is growing at a fast rate. There is high surge for makers and distributors.

The road for sex toys is high and is only growing with its ongoing requirement. The road is only thriving for the customers and the makers of adult sex toys. If you want to be innovative there is no harm is trying or venturing into sex toys for a satisfying your sexual life.

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Vibrating Sex Toys For Men

2009-10-27T08:24:00.000-07:00

Even if you have an active sex life together with your partner, you and your partner might be looking for more exciting techniques to heat up at night in your bed. There are a lot of ways to satisfy your partner, by using different techniques such as using sex toys.

One of the most popular sex gadgets is the vibrating cock ring. This kind of sex toy can actually make you sizzle through the night. Because of its very unique function of combining two sex gadgets in one. This specialized sex toy is a combination of a vibrator and a cock ring. By having this vibrating cock ring, you can experience two sensations with just one sex gadget.

For those people who are newbies in using this kind of sex toy, this vibrating cock ring is just right for you. You do not have to be a skilled sex addict to be able to use this toy. Once the vibrating cock ring is in the right place and turned on, the only thing for you to do is have sex. Applying this ring just as simple as putting on your sock.

Just simply pull the ring up with your fingers just like a rubber band. Pull it over around the penis and your ball until it is properly placed. Just relax and don't put on added tension, let the ring slowly contract into its original size. Compared to other vibrators, vibrating cock rings do not need the use of your hands, making your hands free to stroke and massage your partner during the sexual intercourse.

If you do not want to spend much on a sex toy, choose a vibrating cock ring. Most cock rings are made up of silicon making it more affordable than others. Plus it is easier to clean, use and it is rechargeable. You can play with your vibrating cock ring to maximize your pleasure. Experimenting on how to use it is a nice thing to do during your sexual activity.

It has a rubbery material, so you cannot avoid instances wherein your pubic hair may stick unto the rubber. You can simply avoid this irritating situation by making sure that your genitals are properly lubricated. When taking off your ring you have to carefully pull it to avoid damaging your pubic hair.

Always make sure that your hands are dry before putting it on. You may lose your grip of the ring, because of its rubbery material. Different positions can have different effects on the cock ring. Be sure to go on one position to the other one at a time. Just by rotating the cock ring you can create a different new position. By doing this you can provide greater stimulation on your scrotum and perineum area. You can add a more intense sensation on your penis.

These cock rings are not only design for men and women, lesbian and gay can also used it for more exciting sexual intercourse. Enjoy the unique experience of this sex toy and make your partner scream for more.

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The VIBRATOR - Not Just for HER

2009-10-23T21:13:00.000-07:00

Vibrators only for the ladies? I don't think so. As it turns out, men are getting it on with the very popular sex toy far more famously than we ever thought. Recent research out of Indiana University indicates that the vibrator is not necessarily a guy's competition in the bedroom.

Truth be told, this popular vibrating device is his guilty pleasure, too. So what exactly did researchers uncover about this unspoken aspect of his pleasuring? And what are the benefits being reaped by both him and her when it comes to incorporating this third-party?

Sex therapists, sex educators, and physicians have long advised experimenting with vibrators to help people overcome a sexual disorder. The gadget has also been strongly recommended to improve a person’s or couple’s sexual pleasuring and satisfaction.

Yet to date, the vibrator has been largely cast as the female’s other significant other. Much of this is due to women unabashedly touting its ability to catapult her into her first orgasm or first multiple orgasms experience. Men, on the other hand, have been mum on the issue of vibrator use, seemingly uninterested beyond the competition it posed — that is until they were asked...

As reported in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers at Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion probed the matter of his and her vibrator use with two studies. In making no mistakes about the results, they went large-scale, with one study relying on nationally representative sample of 1,047 men, while the other involved 2,056 women.

Findings from the research demonstrated that a couple's vibrator use during sex play is common, with about 45 percent of men and 53 percent of women, ages 18 to 60, reporting such. The study focusing on men specifically found that 10 percent had used a vibrator in the last month, while over 14 percent had in the past year and over 20 percent over a year ago.

Both studies found, too, that using a vibrator is associated with more positive sexual functioning. Males reporting recent vibrator use were likelier to rate themselves higher when it came to sexual desire, erectile function, intercourse satisfaction and orgasmic function.

The studies further correlated vibrator use with an individual being more proactive in attending to one’s sexual health. Those reporting use, especially recent use, were likelier to report actively taking care of their sexual health, for example, conducting a testicular self-exam.

Equally interesting was the finding that challenged the stereotype that only gay or bisexual men use the sex toy. Researchers found no statistical difference when it came to one’s sexual orientation and prevalence. Heterosexual men did, however, most commonly report vibrator use during foreplay or intercourse with their partner.

When it came to the ladies, researchers learned that almost one in four had pleasured themselves with a vibrator in the last month. The studies users, in general, were:

— Much more likely to have had a gynecological exam in the past year.

— Significantly more likely to have performed a genital self-exam in the past month.

These gals also scored higher on survey items related to positive sexual functioning, like sexual excitement, desire, lubrication, orgasm and overall function.

Such findings complement a vibrator use study conducted by The Berman Center, which found that using this sex toy is actually good for you. Regardless of relationship status or age, vibrator use was associated with improved sexual function. Those using the gadget had greater sexual interest and desire. They also experienced better arousal, easier and more frequent climax, and less pain during and after sex.

Not surprisingly, these women experienced higher levels of sexual satisfaction, as well as heightened quality of life!

Researchers at The Berman Center further found that almost 60 percent of the women in relationships reported vibrator use compared to over one-third of single gals. Two-thirds of partners were also found to be in support of using a vibe.

Women also reported trying a vibrator mostly out of curiosity. Guy or gal, hopefully this article turned on yours!

P.S. Boost your sexual health by eating lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich diets.

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Ohio morgue worker admits to sex with bodies

2009-10-21T20:33:00.000-07:00

A man who worked at the county morgue for 16 years and is serving time for having sex with a corpse admitted today to having sex with two more bodies during his employment.

Kenneth Douglas, 56, of Westwood pleaded guilty to two counts of gross abuse of a corpse before visiting Hamilton County Common Pleas Court Judge Richard Niehaus. He could be imprisoned for a maximum of three years at his Dec. 10 sentencing.

Douglas was employed for 16 years, from 1976-1992, as a night attendant at the morgue. He told authorities previously that while there, he invited women in and partied with them with drugs and alcohol. He also admitted to having sex with bodies being stored while awaiting autopsies.

He is currently serving a three-year sentence for having sex with another corpse -- that of Karen Range, an 18-year-old murder victim who was nearly beheaded in 1982 and had been in the morgue cooler for hours.

Douglas said nothing today except to give respectful, short answers to routine questions from the judge.

Douglas admitted today that he had sex with the bodies of two homicide victims as they were awaiting autopsies:
• Charlene Edwards, 23, also known as Charlene Apling, who was strangled to death. He had sex with that body Oct. 1, 1991.
• Angel Hicks, 24, who was pushed from a third-story window and died from blunt trauma. He had sex with that body Dec. 8, 1991.

Douglas pleaded guilty without a plea deal. Assistant Prosecutor Mark Piepmeier said his office would offer no deals to Douglas.

After Douglas pleaded guilty in 2008 to having sex with Range’s corpse, officials conducted an extensive investigation comparing Douglas’ DNA to that of other bodies in the morgue during the time Douglas worked there.

Initially, officials feared there could be dozens of other victims, based on some of the stories Douglas told them. They were able to indict him on two additional charges.

“He told us he was out of control,” Prosecutor Joe Deters said in March after Douglas was indicted on the two charges he pleaded guilty to today.

“This is off-the-charts weird.”

Douglas was first caught when he violated his probation on a previous conviction, and his DNA was taken by officials and placed in a database. The database showed Douglas’ DNA matched that of the semen left in Range’s body.

That was good news for David Steffen, the man who spent 26 years on Ohio’s death row for Range’s murder but who insisted he never raped her. Now, Steffen’s attorneys are using Douglas’ acts to try to get Steffen off death row.

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The Five Rules of Great Sex

2009-10-21T20:24:00.000-07:00

Want to spice things up in the bedroom? Well, then turn your attention to a new book that provides tips on how to turn on your partner.

Barbara and Allan Pease’s new book may come handy in making love life even sexier, reports the Daily Telegraph.

According to the book, five rules for better sex and romance are:

1. Women should initiate sex- The custom of a male approaching a female may not always work out, as men are often apprehensive of being rejected.ence, the authors believe sometimes it’s better off that women initiate kinky things.

2. Washing up can be an aphrodisiac- Men who do household chores seem sexier to women, according to the authors.

3. Men need to dress to impress - A survey conducted by anthropologist John Townsend and Gary Levy from Syracuse University showed that expensive clothing can lure women.

The polled women said they preferred having sex with men wearing smart suits, white shirts with designer ties and expensive watches to those dressed in low status clothing, such as Tshirts and jeans, vests, baseball caps and a fast-food restaurant uniform.

4. Smart women often make bad love choices- Lot of studies have shown that smarter women make wrong choices when it comes to matters of the heart.

Author of Success Intelligence, Dr Robert Holden insists that intelligent women waste their time analysing the true meaning of their relationships, instead of being open.

5. Humour is an aphrodisiac- Good sense of humour always gives an edge to men when they hit on a woman. (ANI)

P.S. Boost your sex drive by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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10 Gifts Women Really Want: Customer Approved Sex Toys for Her

2009-10-21T19:57:00.000-07:00

Take your sexual pleasure to the next level. Selecting an erotic gift can be a real challenge, especially when it's for a special woman in your life. After all, no two women are alike, and their tastes won't be either! However, there are certain presents almost guaranteed to please. We know this because at MyPleasure we've sold thousands of sensual products, and there are certain items women rave about again and again.

Below, you'll find our top ten list of customer-approved favorites. These are toys that women have owned and loved enough to give us glowing recommendations.


$89.95 View this product	1. Rabbit Pearl Customer Review: "This is by far the best sex toy ever! My orgasms are so intense and often. My boyfriend has been telling me I should write the company and tell them it's the best money we ever spent! We love it together and I love it alone! I use it almost daily (and have for two years). Nothing has given me the same extreme pleasure as my little rabbit."


$29.95 View this product	2. MyPleasure’s Aqua Arouser Customer Review: "This is a great product. It made me climax very quickly and several times in a row. My boyfriend enjoyed using it on me in the shower and to put me in the mood. It feels sooo smooth and amazing."


$49.95 View this product	3. G-Spot Jewel Customer Review: "This toy just arrived. I couldn't wait to try it out as I hadn't seen or used one like this ever before -- it's fantastic. The high speed is also quite amazing... I recommend this one to all the ladies!"

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4. Ultra

Customer Review: "I bought this for my wife who has trouble reaching the big "O" sometimes. The Ultra was incredible! The first time we used it she was a bit skeptical because this was our first "toy" of this sort. Within a couple of minutes she was having the biggest orgasm of her life! We now find excuses to have sex several times a week! This is a great product!"

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5. MyPleasure’s Violet Rapture

Customer Review: "Wow! I bought this when the vibrator I've had and loved for years broke, and I am so impressed! I've used a vibrator for years and am somewhat desensitized, so it usually takes quite a while for me to reach orgasm. Not so with this. I climax faster, harder and longer with this little gadget than ever before. The anal and clitoral stimulation is fantastic and though the shaft is small, it does the job well. It doesn't have the strongest vibration ever, but it's a great little toy I would recommend to anyone."


$44.95 View this product	6. Perfect Platinum Customer Review: "AMAZING! This may be the greatest invention ever. I'm solo right now and this toy is pure climax explosion. Loved it. Never used an egg before and I need a strong vibe to climax, this toy does the job. Highly recommend."


$39.95 View this product	7. Water Missile Customer Review: "This is the best pocket rocket ever! The vibrations are very intense and perfect for clitoral stimulation. I like my husband to use it on me and I love to use it alone too."

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8. Kama Sutra Love Essentials

Customer Review: "This was the most romantic and fun gift my partner ever gave me. We used the massage oil, lube and, my favorite, the honey dust. Yum! They all taste fabulous and are a must have for a weekend getaway."

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9. Passion Lily

Customer Review: "Outside, it's adorable -- pink, feminine, soft to the touch, gently quivering and perfectly balanced for pleasure. Inside, it is pure ecstasy. A must have for any couple looking to take their passion to the next level!"

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10. Hidden Pleasures

Customer Review: "Whew! I used this little number today and I had three orgasms -- a first for me! I originally bought the lipstick to travel with me because it was small and discreet, but it has become my first choice in stimulation (and I own a Rabbit) It is so powerful and I have used it over and over and have not had to replace the batteries yet. Such a mighty mouse. I am hooked."

Putting a New Twist on Sex

2009-10-17T02:16:00.000-07:00

Couples especially the adventurous types assume and tried hundreds of sexual positions to experiment and conclude which sexual position is the best. But with hundreds of sexual positions to assume, which ones are best?

Books, packed with diagrams, photos or illustrations, boast never before tried positions for every day of the year. By turning rodeo lovers into naked Twister acrobats, lovers are promised tips on how to hit hot spots or realize different orgasms.

The answer to this question boils down to what your needs are. Are you hoping to have a favorite hot spot stimulated? Are you looking for a total body experience? Are you dealing with special circumstances that require a little bit of experimentation?

There are times when you may find yourself needing to experiment. Couples need to approach sexual intimacy differently when dealing with a temporary or life-long disability. Infertility issues demanding more sex can also force lovers to expand their sexual repertoire. Then there’s the matter of taking advantage of unique opportunities when they present themselves.

While you likely have tried-and-true positions for guaranteed enjoyment, lovers have nothing to lose by shaking things up on occasion. Even the slightest of subtle shift transitions during lovemaking can make for an entirely new experience and pleasure discovery.

While experimenting with any of the following, it’s important to remember a couple of things:

1. While not every position is orgasm-inducing, the circumstances in which sex is had can make all of the difference when it comes to your satisfaction. Sometimes, it’s the mere experience of having sex outdoors, in the car, or in different rooms of your house that makes the endeavor all that and then some.

2. Don’t think that the more challenging the position, the better or the greater the fulfillment. If you’re not flexible or acrobatic enough to attempt Kama Sutra-style positions, they’re likely going to do little for you.

Goal: Full-Body-Contact

Side-by-side positions allow for greater intimacy, with spooning offering easy, relaxed sex plus massaging, kissing, hugging, teasing, and easy hot spot access to the one being spooned.

Goal: Female Orgasm

Woman-on-top is one of the most ideal positions for female orgasm, putting the woman in charge of her pleasuring. She has control over the depth, angle, and speed of action, with both partners having easy access to her erogenous zones. Her lover will become aroused in seeing her, watching the action and feeling her body.

Goal: Furniture Sex

You’ll look at that love seat in your living room in a whole new light with a little bit of straddle action. The lover in control can use the back of the couch for control while putting on a show. Don’t forget to take the action to your daybed, armless chair, rocker, footstool, hammock, exercise equipment ...

Goal: Sex during Late Pregnancy

With a rapidly growing belly, lovers can feel out of commission for a bit. As outlined in my co-authored book, “Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every HOT Mama Should Know,” there are plenty of ways parents-to-be can enjoy each other as D-day approaches.

Goal: Voluptuous Sex

If you or your lover could be described as a plus size, you can still have great sex with a little assistance. Balance, joint stress, and other issues can be alleviated with cushions and pillow as bolsters. Using your headboard or footboard for support can help as well.

Goal: Quickie Sex

Standing sex can allow you to have unrestrained sex almost anywhere while maintaining full-body contact and mobility. Lovers of different heights can use a sturdy couch, bench, or other elevated platform for some basic instinct action.

Goal: You Want to Conceive

Couples have often tried all kinds of crazy positions in an effort to conceive. So which is best? The answer: there’s no evidence to suggest that one special position is likelier to lead to conception. The key to conception is timing, that is, having sex 48 hours before and on the day of ovulation.

The Verdict

It can be overwhelming to sift through the sexual positions resources available to you. With sexual positions one of their top two video categories, the Sinclair Institute’s “Better Sex” video series is a great starting point for those wanting sexually explicit sex education.

P.S. boost your sexual health by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods.

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Get Women Begging Sex from You Everyday

2009-10-17T02:06:00.000-07:00

One of the most important skills a guy must master is sex. If you can make any women feel appreciate and you can bring her to orgasm every time, she will be practically begging for sex from you everyday. Remember women can have multiple orgasm and their orgasm are more intense. In this article, I am going to share tips how to be excellent in sex.

In order to provide the ultimate sexual experience for women, you need to give your woman the G-spot orgasm. The G-spot is located at the back of female pubic bone. This can be reached by reaching about one to two inches up her frontal vaginal wall. Do a Google search to find the image so it is easier for you. Once you located the G-spot, stroke it with a rhythmic, firm pressure. Unlike the clitoris which is very sensitive to touch, feel free to stroke firmly at the G-Spot using your fingers. Be sensitive to your partner's reaction, listen to her moan and talk to her through the process. The G-spot has spongy and feels ridged like the roof of the mouth so you cannot miss it once you hit it. Keep pleasuring the G-spot and usually within 2 minutes she will have an explosive orgasm and will be begging you for more.

Now remember that the G-spot is not the only sensitive area of a women; the back of ears, the neck, clitoris, her breast and even inner thighs are all sensitive area of women so do spend more time stimulating them and do not rush while having sex. By combining all these erogenous spots, it is the best way to make her reach an unforgettable orgasm.

Being a masterful lover, you should also focus on her emotional need while having sex. Some women like to talk during sex and share their inner feelings. Some like to have it rough and be dominated or vice versa. Do add in toys if your partner agrees to it to spice up your sex life and do not be afraid to try new things. Finally, remember to romance your women off and on bed and I am very sure women will be begging sex from you everyday.

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Sex Toys: A Necessity For An Orgasmic Sex Life

2009-10-17T01:55:00.000-07:00

Is your love and sex life getting boring? Are you not getting satisfying sex? Are you getting bored of sex? If these questions have turned up in your mind then it is about time you experiment a little with your sex life and introduce yourself to the idea of using sex toys. Sex toys, otherwise knows as adult toys should spice up your love life and add a little adventure to the bedroom.

So what is a sex toy? To begin with, it is an object or a device, which can facilitate human sexual pleasure in an individual. They are designed in such a way that they replicate the human genitals and they are basically either vibrating in origin or non-vibrating. Having sex toys is becoming very popular all over the world especially for those wanting to enhance their sex life.

One of the first questions that come up especially if you are a guy is the necessity of a sex toy as an enhancer of sexual pleasure. There is a misconception with some guys who are under the mistaken impression that if a vibrating penis is thrown into the mix of lovemaking, then this would question their manliness and somehow trigger a thought of them being inadequate lovers.

Adult sex toys have always had a positive effect on couples who seem to have a sagging sex life. Sex toys are a great way to add the much needed pleasure for your sexual life.

The reasons why you should us a sex toy are many. Experimenting with sex toys enable couples to also experiment with their bodies in a new way and find new ways to have full sexual satisfaction.

Second, sex toys can help a person explore more ways of sexual intimacy. Now you can learn about new erogenous zones and be confident to have a better sex life.

Thirdly, sex toys can help you overcome getting sexual aroused to a great extent especially if you are single. They are like a partner, even when you are single you can still enjoy sex.

Recently there has been a greater need of sex toys especially among couples who get too tired for sex after coming back from work. This demand of sex toys among people has created a lot of online sex shops across the globe. Even a few years back, people had to search the entire web space to get hold of a single sex toys shop, but now, there are millions of sex toys stores on the web, so much that it is difficult to select the best one of the lot.

One of the most popular sites is http://www.simplypleasure.com. It has a vast range of sex toys to choose from and it’s incredible. People are more attuned to order for their required sex toy from the Internet and they are ready to pay any price for it.

Sex toys, today, is a necessity among most men and women since they have become aware of the positive effects that sex toys can bring to their otherwise average sex life. This awareness has led to the demand of newer sex toys and, as a result, the production of sex toys has also increased.

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Shauna Sand's Sex Tape Leaked

2009-10-17T01:29:00.000-07:00

Another celebrity sex tape has been leaked and this time on it is of actress and Playboy model Shauna Sand. The hardcore footage, as reported by TMZ, has been obtained by Vivid Entertainment and is expected to be released next Monday, October 19.

The busty blonde is seeking legal action to prevent Vivid Entertainment from releasing the hardcore tape.

As of the press time, Shauna is making an attempt to block the release of the tape. "Yes I did make a sex tape with my boyfriend earlier this year. In fact I've made several sex tapes, but I certainly didn't sign off on this and Vivid has no right to put it out. I am trying to get a hold of my attorney now," TMZ quotes her as saying.

However, Vivid founder Steven Hirsch has countered Shauna's statement, claiming "We were approached by a third party, who brought us footage of Shauna having sex with her current boyfriend and we were immediately interested in acquiring it ... We're comfortable with our legal position in releasing this footage."

Continuation of the issue is still on going at the time of writing. More information is expected to be made by either Shauna or Vivid.

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Great Sex Leads to Improved Health

2009-10-01T01:17:00.000-07:00

Recent research findings continue to reconfirm that sex does the body good in more ways than one. A study conducted by the Women's Health Program at Monash University in Australia asked 295 pre and post menopausal women about sexual satisfaction, positive well-being, psychological well-being and vitality. Being sexually satisfied was found to be positively correlated with each of the three elements of healthy living. A correlation between age and well-being was also identified with older women showing higher levels of positive well being and lower levels of general health.

The lead researcher, Dr Sonia Davison, explains the limitations of the study’s conclusions. "The problem with interpreting this finding is that it is impossible to determine if dissatisfied women had lower well-being because they were sexually dissatisfied, or if the reverse is true, such that women who started with lower well-being tended to secondarily have sexual dissatisfaction. As such, pharmacotherapies aimed to treat sexual dysfunction may have secondary effects on well-being, and the reverse may be true."

Participants in the study ranged in age from 20 to 65 and their levels of sexual satisfaction were self-assessed. Over 90% of participants reported that their sexual activity involved a partner and that their partner was the one to initiate sex at least half of the time. Common sexual problems reported by respondents included sexual desire, interest, pleasure and satisfaction. While studies of male sexual satisfaction often assess interventions and therapy according to the frequency of sexual activity, the researchers noted that women often continue to engage in sexual activity despite dissatisfaction. Therefore, frequency of self-reported satisfaction with sexual events was used as the primary measure in this study.

The findings were published today in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Dr. Irwin Goldstein, the journal’s Editor-in-Chief offers high praise to Davison and her research team. “We are proud to publish this extremely important study in women's sexual health. This large study performed in the community emphasizes the role and importance of women's sexual health in women's overall health and well-being. Previous criticism equated physicians' efforts to improve a woman's satisfaction with her sexual life as medicalization. Dr. Davison's and co-workers' research will help health care professionals appreciate the need for overall women's healthcare to include women's sexual health care."

P.S., Boost your sexual drive by eating Vitamin C rich Foods and Fruits.

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Sexually satisfied women have better general well-being and more vitality

2009-10-01T01:08:00.000-07:00

Older women have higher well-being scores than younger women.

Pre- and post-menopausal women who self-rated themselves as being sexually satisfied had a higher overall psychological well-being score and scores for "positive well-being" and "vitality," compared with sexually dissatisfied women in a study of 295 women sexually active more than twice a month. The study, published today in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, also uncovered a positive association between age and well-being, but a negative association for general health.

The most commonly reported sexual problems in the area of consensual sexuality in women relate to sexual desire and interest, pleasure and satisfaction, and for most women these are part of the overall sexual experience, and are inextricably related. In contrast to studies of interventions for male erectile dysfunction, benefit of treatment in women with sexual dysfunction cannot be measured simply by the frequency of sexual events, as women frequently continue to be sexually active despite a high level of sexual dissatisfaction. Thus the frequency of self-reported satisfactory sexual events has been used as the primary outcome in recent studies.

To assess whether there was a correlation between sexual satisfaction and well-being, the team of Australian researchers recruited women from the community aged 20-65 who self-identified as being satisfied or dissatisfied with their sexual function. Participants were also asked questions which identified whether they were pre- or post menopausal, with recruitment closed when there was an equal number of women in each of the four subgroups.

"We wanted to explore the links between sexual satisfaction and wellbeing in women from the community, and to see if there was any difference between pre- and postmenopausal women," said lead author Dr Sonia Davison, of the Women's Health Program at Monash University, Australia. "We found that women who were sexually dissatisfied had lower well-being and lower vitality. This finding highlights the importance of addressing these areas as an essential part of women's healthcare, because women may be uncomfortable discussing these issues with their doctor."

"The problem with interpreting this finding is that it is impossible to determine if dissatisfied women had lower well-being because they were sexually dissatisfied, or if the reverse is true, such that women who started with lower well-being tended to secondarily have sexual dissatisfaction," added Davison. "As such, pharmacotherapies aimed to treat sexual dysfunction may have secondary effects on well-being, and the reverse may be true."

As over 90% of women in this study reported their sexual activity involved a partner, and was initiated by the partner at least 50% of the time, the sexual activity of the women may have been affected by partner presence (or absence), partner health, and sexual function, which were not addressed in this study. "The fact that women who self-identified as being dissatisfied maintained the level of sexual activity reported most likely represents established behaviour and partner expectation," said Professor Susan Davis, senior author of this study, also based at the Women's Health Program at Monash University, Australia. "It also reinforces the fact that frequency of sexual activity in women cannot be employed as a reliable indicator of sexual well-being."

"We are proud to publish this extremely important study in women's sexual health" said Dr. Irwin Goldstein, Editor-in-Chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine. "This large study performed in the community emphasizes the role and importance of women's sexual health in women's overall health and well-being. Previous criticism equated physicians' efforts to improve a woman's satisfaction with her sexual life as medicalization. Dr. Davison's and co-workers' research will help health care professionals appreciate the need for overall women's healthcare to include women's sexual health care."

P.S. Boost your sexual drive by heavy intake of Vitamin C rich Foods.

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7 Things Men Fear About Sex

2009-09-28T02:27:00.000-07:00

Sometimes he’s his own worst enemy. He’s gotten as far as the bedroom, all ready for action, only to hurt his own efforts.

Fraught with any number of sex fears, his lusty libido has been replaced with insecurity and unbearable stress. He’s consumed with doubt and dread instead of desire.

What are these debilitating fears hampering his sex life, and how can he get his head back into the game?

While they typically come off as cool, calm and collected, a number of men can experience sexual fears at any point in his sex career – and with any partner. With his sexuality very much tied into his ego, the results are dire, even when he’s in a loving, supportive relationship. Negative outcomes include:

— Decreased sexual interest and desire;

— Performance anxiety;

— Compromised erectile functioning;

— An inability to enjoy sex.

So what are the sexual concerns consuming him? Here are a few of them...

1. He’s panicking about his size.

Many men fret about the size of their penis. They fear that they won’t measure up to a partner’s satisfaction or that their “Amazonian” proportions will be intimidating.

To get over his size issues, it’s important to remember that, when it comes to a man's member, "some men are showers while others are growers." Males with “smaller” penises tend to become larger when erect than their “larger” counterparts. That is, they grow more in proportion to their original size.

Regardless, sexual satisfaction boils down to what he can do with all of his equipment.

2. He’s worried that he’ll be a lousy lover.

Particularly in new partnerships, where lovers are still getting to know each other, he’s going to spend a lot of time wondering if his lover had an orgasm or if they're satisfied. Sadly, many lovers have trouble talking about their sexual needs, gratification, what’s working and what needs to be done differently.

Checking in with his lover is the best way to guarantee that he’s meeting expectations. Doing so further wins him brownie points since this is interpreted as caring for and having concern for your lover, which are such ego strokes! It also gives him the opportunity to let his own wants and desires be known.

3. He’s fretting that his timing will be off.

Is he going to release too soon? Or is he going to take too long? In either situation, he’s alarmed that he won’t be able to close the curtain for the applause he wants. For men who don’t last as long as they’d like, they’re best off dedicating themselves to a pelvic floor muscle exercise routine. Those experiencing delayed ejaculation should work on examining the physical, emotional, and mental components potentially at play.

4. He’s alarmed that he’ll lose his erection.

Thinking this practically guarantees that it’s going to happen. Men serve themselves best by reminding themselves that this is a perfectly natural occurrence on occasion. It’s dependent upon a number of factors, like stress, fatigue and/or comfort with partner.

Instead of becoming obsessed with the “what if,” lose yourself in the pleasures you’re experiencing all over. Focus on your partner and ways to provide amazing sensations that don’t depend on the penis. The phallus is just one of many players in this game.

5. He won’t find his lover attractive once sober.

This one is easy – don’t drink or keep it to a minimum. If a man needs to be drunk to hook up, he has bigger problems than what his lover looks like the morning after.

6. He might get her pregnant or contract a sexually transmitted disease.

This one is also easy. To minimize the risk of pregnancy or acquiring a sexually transmitted disease, use a condom consistently and correctly. To avoid the risk entirely, abstain - at least until you’ve had a chance to discuss contraceptives and/or get tested for any infections either of you could be carrying.

7. He’ll come away disappointed.

From not having sex to not living it up like a porn star, not realizing his sexual expectations can leave him defeated. In overcoming most of these, it’s important not to have unrealistic expectations. It’s human for things not to always work out as planned. What we see being depicted in pornography does not accurately depict most sexual interactions between lovers nor your “average” human’s sexual response cycle.

So keep things real. Stay positive. Aim to have the sexual interactions you want and not what others or some fantasy world wants to dictate.

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Child porn found on Winter Haven man's iPod

2009-09-27T02:35:00.000-07:00

Brian Jennings, accused of downloading child porn onto his IPod

WINTERHAVEN, FL -- 29-year-old Brian Jennings is facing child pornography charges after his girlfriend's son discovered explicit images on Jennings' iPod Nano, the Polk County Sheriff's Office says.

Investigators say the boy was showing the pornographic pictures to his classmates at Winterhaven Elementary School. The school's principal seized the device and detectives began an investigation.

The boy told detectives that he had taken the iPod without Jennings' permission, and accidentally found the porn while he was listening to music.

Of the nearly 1,000 pictures stored on the device, dozens were adult pornography and at least 20 were explicit images of children, according to the Polk County Sheriff's Office.

According to an arrest affidavit, some of the images showed children as young as six years old engaging in sexual acts with adult men.

Investigators said Jennings admitted to downloading the child pornography onto the Nano and looking at the images. He has been arrested and charged with with 10 counts of sexual performance by a child.

His home computer was seized by authorities.

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Foreplay The Key To Better Orgasms

2009-09-27T01:31:00.000-07:00

Foreplay is an integral part of sex. Without foreplay you are basically just having sexual intercourse with no intimacy or excitement. Everyone falls into a habit or routine when they are having sex especially with someone you have been having it with for a long period of time. It is important even if you have been married for 20 years, to be able to spice up your sex life once in a while with new tricks of the trade.

Guys are you confused, clumsy, and don't know what to do when it comes to Foreplay? Does your heart drop and you hesitate at the mere mention of the word Foreplay? If so, then it's time for a lesson in Foreplay!

As many of you have probably found out, most women consider "Foreplay" a very important part of sex. And there is very good reason for this. Their bodies don't react sexually as fast as men does. Women need some warm up time to get into the mood. While each woman is different as far as how much foreplay she requires before she is sexually aroused, studies have found that most women all like the same type of foreplay. So her are some tips on "Foreplay The Key To Better Orgasms".

Hugging

This is a great way to start off your sexual romp. Most women love to be hugged. To be held tight by their lover. This gives us a protective feeling and tells us you want to be close to us. It's easy to do, just start by holding your lover close and pressing her body against yours. While hugging her lightly kiss her neck and shoulders.

Petting

While laying down run your hands lightly and softly up and down, exploring the peek and valleys of her body. Some women love to have this done to their neck, shoulders and back. Others, like to have their buttocks gently massaged. And yet others love their breasts softly caressed. This will all depend on where your lover's erogenous zones are. If you're both undressed gently kiss and lick these areas as well. She'll be like putty in your hands, ready to be molded in any way you want.

Kissing

It's important to start off slowly. Just a soft pressing of your mouth against hers. No tongue to start. After a few of these kisses slowly start to push your tongue out just a little bit, hopefully enticing her to open her mouth. As her mouth opens gently slide your tongue in a little further. Then press your lips against hers a bit harder and with a bit more passion. From there move to kissing other parts of her body as well.

By this point your lover should be really turned on. If you both still have your clothes on it's time to start removing them - slowly. Start with her top and bra.

Caressing Her Breasts

Place your hand on her breast. Softly caress it. Use your forefinger and thumb to gently squeeze her nipple. See how erect it is. She is really turned on. Now stop and take a moment to tell her how beautiful she is and how much she is turning you on. Women want to be told this, and now would be the perfect time. Then softly take her nipple into your mouth, run your tongue around it's hardness. Use your hand to softly caress her other breast.

What happens next will depend on you and your lover. But, it's now time to explore her vagina. You can gently place your hands between your lovers legs. If she is still wearing panties gently rub her private area while still kissing her body. Slowly move her panties to the side and gently explore her clitoris. Very lightly rub her clit with your fingers. Or, if you like you could go down on her using your tongue to softly stimulate her clitoris. Either way, that's up to you and your lover.

Foreplay can be fun and exhilarating so it is best to try to learn everything you can to bring sex to a whole new level for both of you. The important thing to remember about "Foreplay" is that it should be done gradually. Slowly increase the physical and emotional sensitivity. As the arousal mounts you increase the stimulation allowing you and your partner to have the most erotic, love making sessions ever.

P.S., Good Sex goes with great nutrition.

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How to Satisfy a Woman Sexually?

2009-09-26T08:26:00.000-07:00

Be more than just a man and learn how to how to satisfy a woman sexually each time you make love and you will reap the benefits. You don't need to be naturally gifted at this sport you only need a willingness to learn.

Did you know that women can get different sorts of orgasms and can even have multiple orgasms?

It’s true! Unfortunately, most women can go years without an orgasm from their partner, and we all know how hard it is to satisfy a woman.

Every man must recognize that women are completely different from themselves. Physically, emotionally and mentally women stand apart from men. If you learn to appeal to their feminine nature you will find a lasting relationship that will satisfy both of you.

Women in general enjoy love making as much as men. Most women don’t really express their desire for sex, but as a man, you ought to know these feelings that are pertaining to your spouse.

The art of satisfying a woman sexually may seem intimidating at first but it doesn't need to be. Women enjoy sex just as much as their male counterparts. Women long to be seduced and are waiting for the right man to come along and draw out their passion.

1. If you treat a woman like a precious gem you will be rewarded. Caress her, kiss her and hold her gently. She is like a beautiful flower and you are the bee. Suckle her honey with great care. Women loved to be touched so use your mouth everywhere on her body.

2. Rushing the lovemaking process will only yield disastrous results. It takes time to properly satisfy a woman. Enjoy her body; worship it with your mouth and hands. Don't forget to communicate. Tell her how good she feels. Encourage her to touch you. Reassure her of her great beauty. Sex is as beautiful as two people make it.

3. Let your fingers do the talking. Stroking her clitoris first with your fingers then with your mouth will surely bring her to climax.

Being with a woman fully satisfying her sexually means more than just sex. Women love spending time with their man. Be open and available to her during the day and your nights will be all play.

Foods To Increase Your Sex Drive

2009-09-24T03:24:00.001-07:00

A nice bottle of wine, flowers, candlelight dinner and some sweets is a great way to set the mood for a wonderful evening with someone special. But with careful thought what you serve for dinner can make the night a little bit more special. There is a possibility that certain foods increase your sex drive and some that may actually hurt it.

While no specific food has been scientifically proven to be a magical aphrodisiac; there are some foods that can increase the factors that affect your sex drive. Your sex drive is also called libido and it is controlled by hormone levels in the body, especially the testosterone levels. Zinc and vitamin B are important in maintaining a proper testosterone levels.

Here are some foods to increase your sex drive and why.

- Maca has been hailed as the natural Viagra. Mica is a radish-like root that has been used for thousands of years by the indigenous people of Peru. Only recently has it been introduced to the Western world. It has been shown to increase sperm count and testosterone in men. Mica is believed to increase sex drive for both men and women and fertility in women.

- Watermelon is also another Viagra type food. The nutrient citrulline that is found in watermelon has the ability to relax blood vessels and improve blood flow. This is what the active ingredient in Viagra does. While this is good for improving your sex drive, it is also good for your cardiovascular and immune systems. Unfortunately, most of the citrulline in watermelon is in the inedible rind.

- Pumpkin seeds are high in zinc. As mentioned earlier, zinc is important in maintaining testosterone levels. Another plus is pumpkin seeds can help in protecting against prostate cancer.

- Chocolate is possibly the most popular food to give to your sweetheart; possibly rightly so. Chocolate affects your brain just as sex does. It actually releases the hormone that is released during sex. Research has that women that eat chocolate often have a higher sex drive. Adding strawberries to the chocolate not only makes the treat sweeter, but it also can increase your sex drive. Strawberries have vitamin C in them and vitamin C improves your libido.

- Asparagus is loaded with vitamin E, which is another vitamin that improves the production of sex hormones. Eat asparagus for three days straight and see what happens.

- Bananas are full of good stuff for you including some that will increase your sex hormone levels. Rich in potassium and vitamin B, bananas not only increases your overall energy levels; it also increases your libido.

- Avocados are similar to bananas. It increases your overall energy levels and is a great source for potassium. Potassium is important in the regulation of women's thyroid gland. More importantly, avocados have vitamin B6 which is another vitamin that increases male hormone production.

There are some foods that have long been thought to a good way to increase your sex drive that actually may hinder it instead. Alcohol is a perfect example. A glass or two of wine can definitely help set the mood, but too much and the evening could be less than memorable.

Oysters have a long reputation as a food that increases your sex drive. Oysters do contain zinc, but you would have to eat around 50 oysters at one time to see any effects.

Hot peppers is a food that does heat you up and actually gives you some of the same sensations as you get during sex; sweating and increase heart rate are just two. Unfortunately hot peppers heat you up, but does nothing to heat up your sex life.

The average adult has sex about twice a week. Usually around middle age, a person's sex drive starts to decline. The list foods above are not only healthy for you, but they can also help you maintain your sex life. With foods such as these it is possible to increase your sex drive.

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Sex can help you stay healthy

2009-09-20T09:38:00.000-07:00

Sex is healthy for a relationship. Married couples who are satisfied with their sexual lives report better overall marital satisfaction. But can sex be healthy for you as an individual? Yes! Here’s how sex can keep you in better shape and put you in a better mood.

Workout partner: Active sex is a good aerobic exercise, which is good for your heart. Sex also works out your stomach, back and buttock muscles, leading to greater pleasure with body esteem. Exercise on its own is also good for your mind. It relieves stress and elevates your mood, due to the release of endorphins. It is especially a workout for specific muscles, and for women, that means the vagina.

Like other muscles, the vagina is a “use it or lose it” organ. The more you use your pelvic muscles, the more they stay in shape. And if you don’t use them, they will atrophy and sex can become painful. Pelvic muscles also affect bladder control. If your pelvic muscles are in shape, you will have better bladder control later in life or after having babies. Who wants to pee every time they sneeze or cough? Use those muscles, ladies! For men, the prostate may benefit by being active in ejaculation. Having sex may also reduce the risk of prostate cancer.

Mood booster: After sex, hormones that can have beneficial effects are released in the body. Oxytocin causes relaxation and feelings of love and bonding, and endorphins are the body’s natural painkillers. Levels of immunoglobulin A are also elevated after sex. This antibody can help you fight off colds. Many people also find that they have an easier time falling asleep after sex. Getting a good night’s sleep has many health benefits.

Confidence builder: Last but not least, having good sexual confidence feeds into your overall confidence. And confident people who like themselves tend to do well in the world.

So, what are you waiting for, jump in bed now!

P.S. boost your sex life by eating vitamin c rich foods and fruits.

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Watermelon, Cure For Erectile Dysfunction?

2009-09-20T06:43:00.000-07:00

That juicy slice of watermelon may be more than just delicious, it could be the answer to your problems with erectile dysfunction, or ED. The idea of eating watermelons for erectile dysfunction treatment might sound absurd but it is a reality.
Researchers at Texas A&M University recently found that watermelon is rich with an amino acid called citrulline, which dilates and relaxes the blood vessels like Viagra and other drugs used to treat ED. Previously, scientists believed that most of the citrulline in watermelon was in the rind but new studies have proven otherwise.

So what can eating watermelons do for erectile dysfunction and how does it work? When citrulline is consumed, it converts to the amino acid arginine. This in turn increases the levels of nitric oxide in the blood. Nitric oxide helps to dilate and relax the blood vessels.

Watermelons for Erectile Dysfunction - Still Too Early to Say

There are still plenty of question marks surrounding the consumption of watermelons for erectile dysfunction treatment. Scientists still aren't sure how much watermelon one would need to consume in order to be effective in treating erectile dysfunction. Scientists do know that a four ounce serving of watermelon contains 150mg of citrulline but in order to achieve Viagra-like effects no one knows how much citrulline needs to be consumed.

Some respected members of the medical community scoff at the idea of eating watermelons for erectile dysfunction treatment. According to them, the vast majority of men who suffer from ED are not deficient in arginine and nothing proves that eating watermelons rich in citrulline will improve penile dysfunction.

Bhimu Patil, the director of the lab that conducted the studies, says that regular watermelon consumption may prevent ED. Another benefit of regular watermelon consumption is that it can lower your blood pressure.

Perhaps it is premature to say that watermelon is effective for erectile dysfunction treatment but it doesn't hurt to try either way. Watermelon is rich in potassium, lycopene, and beta-carotene and it is low in calories. Don't refrigerate your watermelon before cutting it to keep nutrients from diminishing.

Even if consuming watermelon for erectile dysfunction treatment may not be effective, why not see for yourself? There is no risk involved and it can actually benefit your health in other ways. So what are you waiting for? This summer, try eating watermelons or drinking watermelon juice and see what it may do for your sex life.

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What is Masturbation?

2009-09-17T07:09:00.000-07:00

When an orgasm is produced by manual stimulation of the genitals it is called masturbation. Masturbation is one of the first primal forms of sexual behavior usually experienced when very young.Masturbation is a natural and healthy method of sexual release engaged in by most people of both sexes.

Masturbation was considered a sin in the late 1800's and the early part of the last century. Before the 1960s, excessive masturbation was considered a mental condition, fixating on immature or undesirable behavior, leading to lack of adult responses.

In today's current sexual climate, where people are discovering themselves as well as each other masturbation can be an important and pleasurable activity for people, no matter whether you are in a short or long term sexual relationship. Often it can add more happiness and sensuality to your whole sexual dimension.

In this time of sexual disease people who are single continue to have normal sex drives. The safest, easiest sexual relief and pleasurable satisfaction available to us can be masturbation. In fact, masturbation is the safest form of sex there is.

Many feel that the practice of masturbation makes one impotent (however not true) and hence many fear to do the same. Masturbation is done when one is in a mental state of having sex but may not have a partner to have sex or their partner is not in the mood. Masturbation is done to get the feeling of orgasm which is the feeling that one experiences during sexual intercourse.

Masturbation is a healthy way to satisfy one’s sexual feelings or sexual desires. Normally while masturbating one may be fantasying or thinking about his/ her partner. Masturbation can not be done at any particular age, for men 15 years- 16 years is the age when he can or may be able to masturbate. However this is early for ladies as their physical growth is also faster as compared to men. Ladies may be able to masturbate as early as the time they start their menstruation period this may be anything between 12 years to 15 years.

No matter you are a male of female, you should try to find a safe place when you are going to masturbate. You should try to make sure that you will not be disturbed during masturbation. To this end the bathroom can be a good choice.

You should be relaxed when you are masturbating. Masturbation is meant to be fun and relaxing. You should never do it in a hurry. This is even more important for men. A man may develop premature ejaculation if he always rushes to finish masturbation.

You may even use some sex toys to help you to masturbate. For female, you may certainly try various vibrators. The dildos can also be good choices. You should visit some sex toy stores to explore various kinds of toys for your masturbation. For male, you can use toys such as the penis pump and the virtual vagina. Both of them are very popular choices for male masturbation.

Although it is very normal to masturbate, you should also be noted that there is something called compulsive masturbation. It is just like a kind of addition and it is usually considered anomaly if you develop compulsive masturbation. Medical help may be needed in this case.

Antioxidants Boost Sperm Quality

2009-09-13T02:11:00.000-07:00

You'd better eat your blueberries: Men who don't get enough antioxidants can have problems with infertility.

A study published online recently in the journal Fertility and Sterility discovered that men who ate antioxidant-rich fruits and vegetables have better rates of sperm movement, ejaculate volume, and sperm concentration than those who ate diets heavy in meat and full-fat dairy foods.

Antioxidants have been the darlings of the nutritional world as of late — pomegranate juice, anyone? — and possibly for good reason. They are thought to slow the aging process, boost the immune system, and help protect against free radicals, which damage cells and make us more susceptible to degenerative diseases such as cancer, arthritis, Parkinson's disease, and Alzheimer's disease.

And now stronger sperm can be added to the list of benefits.

The research, conducted by several universities in Spain, asked 61 men — 30 with poor semen quality, and 31 with normal semen — to rate the frequency with which they ate 93 different foods. None of the participants took dietary or vitamin supplements during the duration of the study.

The men with normal semen ate significantly more carbs, fiber, and antioxidants, specifically folates, vitamin C, and lycopene, than did the men with the lesser semen.

Does that mean that men who want to improve their sperm should start loading up on antioxidants? Yes, says Jaime Mendiola, the study's head and a researcher at the University of Murcia, adding that the participants were ready to do just that.

"Some of the men were willing to change their eating habits," Mendiola tells LiveScience. "In fact, the next 'ideal' study would be to compare if this change in diet pattern may improve semen quality in case subjects."

So what is the best source of antioxidants? Carrie Bloxson, a New York City-based nutritional health counselor who is unaffiliated with the study, says that eating whole foods is the way to go.

"You should use nutritional supplements just like they are labeled — as a supplement, not a substitute," she says. "I also recommend taking a food-based supplement over a synthetic, as your body will absorb the supplement better because you’re not processing a bunch of chemicals."

Bloxson recommends the following antioxidant-packed foods:

* Folates: spinach, asparagus, and lentils.
* Vitamin C: broccoli, oranges, and strawberries.
* Lycopene: tomatoes, watermelon, and grapefruit.

Happily, research has found that red wine contains antioxidants, too — just another reason to open a bottle on a romantic evening.

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Why Male Sexual Health is Important

2009-09-12T08:07:00.000-07:00

Male sexual and responsive health is very important. The lack of information provided about men’s proper sexual and reproductive has cause bad effects in the male community. Without proper health information, males will continue bad sexual and health practices pertaining to themselves and other. Not only will the men endanger themselves but their partners as well. By obtaining information men can push past these dangerous practices and help make a healthier environment for their families.

Male health is important because of these reasons: can reduce the risk of spreading STI infections, help reduce unplanned and unwanted pregnancy, and help inform men of healthy sexual practices with their partners to provide a happier future. Many men do not receive the proper information about preventing STI either because their families do not talk about healthy sex practices or their educational environment do not provide proper information. Either way STI spread from males to their partners easily, but with proper information infection can be reduced with the use of proper condom usage and disposal, and more information of the infections at hand. There are many pregnancies among men and women that are unplanned and many that are unwanted. By taking the necessary steps to ensure birth control these pregnancies can be prevented. There is plenty of information on birth control, male and female, and the different types and this information should be easily accessible to men. Informing men on healthy sexual practices can ensure a happier future with their partner. Sharing information can help men and their partners know the different kinds if sexual practices available. Problem can arise in different situations and men need to know what is normal and abnormal in their reproductive and sexual behavior. By knowing and sharing information men and their families can be well informed and and prevent serious problems.

One of the most important issues that men face is the importance of condom usage. Here at UIUC students get free condoms provided at McKindly health center. Many students, both men and women do not know that such facilities exist and to take advantage of them. Students need the know where they can get condoms and the proper use of them. Many males do not how to use a condom properly resulting in an unwanted pregnancy or infection. By providing information to every student through pamphlets, flyers, and just by mailing information to every student, knowledge about condoms can increase. Schools need to be concerned about the welfare of their students, so programs held at dorms, freshman and sophomore year should be mandatory for every student because all men and women need to know in order to prevent situations from occurring. According to the online website www.malehealthcenter.com condoms can help prevent against infection and pregnancy but should not be relied on. Infections can occur when the condom is not use before genital contact. Condoms are put through rigorous tests and rarely break but novelty condoms are no good and many people do not know this.

Another important issue that men should know is sex myths. Men and women should know the truth about sex and not just what they see in movies or what their friends tell them. By having classes and programs sex myths and questions can be addressed. Many people feel abnormal and men and women should know that they are not the only ones with problems and questions. Some myths men should know according to the website www.malehealthcenter.com is that men are not always ready for sex that it is okay to be tired and a little stressed out. Many men feel the need to satisfy women but it is a two way street and communication needs to occur. Sex is not spontaneous like in the movies and many men and women probably are not aware of this. It takes some planning especially for sex that benefits both partners to occur. Men have sexual problems and some do not want to admit it. Especially men in their youth. Problems occur and they should seek information of the problems at hand instead of letting them manifest.

In conclusion, information on men sexual and reproductive information is important. Some females know that their information on their bodies are available but many males do not know they have the same advantages or that they should have these advantages. Being more informed causes a healthy future for both men and women and students should take advantage of the facilities on their campus.

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Vitamins for a healthy sex life

2009-09-10T08:14:00.000-07:00

Having a diet high in vitamins is vital for a happy, healthy sex life. Whether you are a college student living off Top Ramen and boxed macaroni and cheese, a busy working executive with no time to cook, or someone who isn’t absorbing their vitamins properly due to health reasons, you may benefit from including more variety in your diet. If looking for a dietary supplement that will increase your sexual health, look for the below vitamins and amino acids in a pill in your health food store.

Chromium: needed for male sexual function. Found in organ meats, mushrooms, Brewer's yeast, brown rice, cheese, meat, and wheat germ.

EFA (linoleic acid and linolenic acid): promotes a healthy sex drive in women. EFA can be found in soybeans, safflower, sunflower, corn oil, wheat germ, sesame seeds, flax, canola, pumpkin, almonds, walnuts and tuna.

L-arginine: an amino acid which increases the nitric oxide in the blood vessel walls to maintain an erection. Purchase as a supplement in a health food store.

Pantothenic Acid: is used by the body for hormone production in men and women. Naturally occurs in organ meats, Brewer's yeast, egg yolk, whole grain cereal, chicken, bran and nuts.

Protein: contains tyrosine, an amino acid used by the body to make dopamine, which functions in creating libido. Found in meat, eggs, dairy, tofu, nuts and beans.

Vitamin A: used by the body for healthy mucous membranes, reproduction and sexual function. Higher quantities are found in sweet potatoes, carrots, followed by mangoes, spinach, papaya, red bell pepper, apricots, cantaloupe and milk.

Vitamin B-3 Niacin: synthesizes sex hormones and aides circulation. Both chicken and fish are high in B-3.

B-6: balances estrogen and progesterone and can help restore vaginal dryness, loss of libido and treat PMS. Excellent sources of this vitamin includes red meat, fish, chicken, egg yolk, wheat germ, bananas, prunes, avocados, soybeans, liver and walnuts

Vitamin C: promotes circulation, relaxation and sexual function. For sources of foods high in Vitamin C, try guava, red bell peppers, papayas, oranges and other citrus fruit, broccoli, berries, green bell pepper, cantaloupe, tomatoes and mangoes.

Vitamin E: needed for sexual function in men and women. Found in all nut and seed oils, apples, sweet potatoes, turnips, spinach, avocados, tomatoes, corn oil, eggs, mangoes, wheat germ and enriched pasta.

Vitamin P bioflavonoid: aids in circulation and capillary functions. Try eating RAW: citrus fruits, apricots, cherries, cantaloupe, papaya and other “red” fruits.

Zinc: needed for male hormone stimulation. Casanova is known for his daily meal of 80 oysters which happens to be high in zinc and essential to a male sex drive. Meats, shellfish, dairy products, beans and wheat germ are also high in zinc.

So what are you waiting for, boost that sex life!

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Why Do Men Get Sleepy After SEX?

2009-09-05T23:42:00.000-07:00

For many women, the correlation between sex and snoring is one of those annoying facts of life: no matter when passionate encounters occur, men always seem to fall asleep immediately afterwards. Dave Zinczenko, the author of "Men, Love and Sex: The Complete User Guide For Women," explained the phenomenon to Huffington Post writer Arianna Huffington this way: “Men go to sleep because women don’t turn into a pizza.”

I doubt I am ever going to become a pizza, and I’ll never have the foresight to order one beforehand. So in lieu of a cure, a better explanation will have to do. Although women sometimes feel sleepy after sex, the phenomenon does seem more pronounced in men. What is it, then, that spirals them into the land of nod?

First, the obvious reasons for sex’s somnolent sway: the act frequently takes place at night, in a bed, and is, after all, physically exhausting (often more so for the man than the woman, although this certainly varies). So when sex is over, it’s natural for a guy to feel sleepy.

Secondly, research using positron emission tomography (PET) scans has shown that in order for a person to reach orgasm, a primary requirement is to let go of “all fear and anxiety.” Doing so also tends to be relaxing and might explain the tendency to snooze.

Then there is the biochemistry of the orgasm itself. Research shows that during ejaculation, men release a cocktail of brain chemicals, including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin, nitric oxide (NO), and the hormone prolactin. The release of prolactin is linked to the feeling of sexual satisfaction, and it also mediates the “recovery time” that men are well aware of—the time a guy must wait before “giving it another go.” Studies have also shown that men deficient in prolactin have faster recovery times.

Prolactin levels are naturally higher during sleep, and animals injected with the chemical become tired immediately. This suggests a strong link between prolactin and sleep, so it’s likely that the hormone’s release during orgasm causes men to feel sleepy.

(Side note: prolactin also explains why men are sleepier after intercourse than after masturbation. For unknown reasons, intercourse orgasms release four times more prolactin than masturbatory orgasms, according to a recent study.)

Oxytocin and vasopressin, two other chemicals released during orgasm, are also associated with sleep. Their release frequently accompanies that of melatonin, the primary hormone that regulates our body clocks. Oxytocin is also thought to reduce stress levels, which again could lead to relaxation and sleepiness.

What about the evolutionary reasons for post-sex sleepiness? This is trickier to explain. Evolutionarily speaking, a man’s primary goal is to produce as many offspring as possible, and sleeping doesn’t exactly help in his quest. But perhaps since he cannot immediately run off with another woman anyway—damn that recovery time!—re-energizing himself via sleep may be the best use of his time.

And although there is conflicting information as to whether women feel sleepy after sex, a woman often falls asleep with the man anyway (or uses it for some key cuddling time), which is good news for him: it means she is not off finding another mate. When the man wakes up and she’s still there, he just might be ready to go again.

It’s also possible that sleepiness is just a “side effect” associated with a more evolutionarily important reason for the release of oxytocin and vasopressin. In addition to being associated with sleep, both chemicals are also intimately involved in what is called “pair bonding,” the social attachment human mates commonly share. The release of these brain chemicals during orgasm heightens feelings of bonding and trust between sexual partners, which may partially explain the link between sex and emotional attachment. This bond is favorable should the couple have a baby, as cooperative child rearing maximizes the young one’s chances for survival.

The bottom line is this: There are many potential biochemical and evolutionary reasons for post-sex sleepiness, some direct and some indirect—but no one has yet pinpointed the exact causes. One thing, however, is certain: we females better get used to it, because it doesn’t look likely to change anytime soon.

I will leave frustrated American women with one final thought: if you are upset at the ubiquity of the post-sex snoring phenomenon, remember that things could be a lot worse. A recent survey of 10,000 English men revealed that 48 percent actually fall asleep during sex.

Talk about coitus interruptus!

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Why

2009-09-05T23:39:00.001-07:00

Best Sex is Short and Sweet

2009-09-05T23:08:00.000-07:00

Good News to all sexual underachievers. A survey of experts yields good news for anyone who thought their sexual efforts didn't last long enough. Good sex typically lasts 13 minutes or less, not counting foreplay.

Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani surveyed members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which includes psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively treated thousands of patients over several decades.

The results debunk the myth of hours-long sex as a reasonable goal that lingers in the minds of many supposed under-achievers.

A total of 34 experts responded to the survey and were asked what they thought was the optimal time for intercourse, from penetration to ejaculation.

On average, the respondents in this relatively small survey ranked a duration of 3 to 7 minutes as adequate and 7 to 13 minutes as desirable. Anything less was considered, on average, to be to short and anything more, too long.

"A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal," the researchers said. "Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. "

Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women say they want sex to last 30 minutes or longer, the researchers say.

"This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction," said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. "With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions."

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Introduction to senior sex ( Last Part )

2009-09-05T21:16:00.000-07:00

What can I do to have an active sex life as I age?

There are several things you can do on your own to keep an active sexual life. Remember that sex does not have to include intercourse.

* Make your partner a high priority.

* Pay attention to his or her needs and wants.

* Take time to understand the changes you both are facing.

* Try different positions and new times, like having sex in the morning when you both may have more energy.

* Don't hurry - you or your partner may need to spend more time touching to become fully aroused.

* Masturbation is a sexual activity that some older people, especially unmarried, widowed, or divorced people and those whose partners are ill or away, may find satisfying.

Some older people, especially women, may have trouble finding a partner with whom they can share any type of intimacy. Women live longer than men, so there are more of them. In 2000 women over age 65 outnumbered older men by 100 to 70. Doing activities that other seniors enjoy or going places where older people gather are ways to meet new people. Some ideas include mall walking, senior centers, adult education classes at a community college, or day trips sponsored by your city or county recreation department.

If you do seem to have a problem that affects your sex life, talk to your doctor. He or she can suggest a treatment depending on the type of problem and its cause. For example, the most common sexual difficulty of older women is dyspareunia, painful intercourse caused by poor vaginal lubrication. Your doctor or a pharmacist can suggest over-the-counter, water-based vaginal lubricants to use. Or, your doctor might suggest estrogen supplements or an estrogen vaginal insert.

If impotence is the problem, it can often be managed and perhaps even reversed. There are medications that can help, for example, sildenafil (Viagra). These medications should not be taken by men taking medicines containing nitrates, such as nitroglycerin. These medications have possible side effects. Other available treatments include vacuum devices, self-injection of a drug (either papaverine or prostaglandin E1), or penile implants.

There is a lot you can do to continue an active sex life. Follow a healthy lifestyle - exercise, eat good food, drink plenty of fluids like water or juices, don't smoke, and avoid alcohol. Try to reduce the stress in your life. See your doctor regularly. And keep a positive outlook on life.

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Introduction to senior sex ( Part 4 )

2009-08-28T09:15:00.000-07:00

Having safe sex is important for people at any age. As a woman gets closer to menopause, her periods may be irregular. But, she can still get pregnant. In fact, pregnancy is still possible until your doctor says you are past menopause - you have not had a menstrual period for 12 months.

Age does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. Young people are most at risk for diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydial infection, genital herpes, hepatitis B, genital warts, and trichomoniasis. But these diseases can and do happen in sexually active older people.

Almost anyone who is sexually active is also at risk for being infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. The number of older people with HIV/AIDS is growing. One out of every 10 people diagnosed with AIDS in the United States is over age 50. You are at risk if you have more than one sexual partner or are recently divorced or widowed and have started dating and having unprotected sex again. Always use a latex condom during sex, and talk to your doctor about ways to protect yourself from all sexually transmitted diseases. You are never too old to be at risk.

Can emotions play a part?

Sexuality is often a delicate balance of emotional and physical issues. How you feel may affect what you are able to do. For example, men may fear that impotence will become a more common problem as they age. But, if you are too concerned with that possibility, you can cause enough stress to trigger impotence. A woman who is worried about how her looks are changing as she ages may think her partner will no longer find her attractive. This focus on youthful physical beauty may get in the way of her enjoyment of sex.

Older couples face the same daily stresses that affect people of any age. But they may also have the added concerns of age, illness, and retirement and other lifestyle changes. These worries can cause sexual difficulties. Talk openly with your doctor, or see a counselor. These health professionals can often help.

Don't blame yourself for any sexual difficulties you and your partner are having. You might want to talk with a therapist about them. If your male partner is troubled by impotence or your female partner seems less interested in sex, don't assume they don't find you attractive anymore. There can be many physical causes for their problems.

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Introduction to senior sex ( Part 3 )

2009-08-26T01:44:00.000-07:00

What about surgery and drugs?

Surgery. Many of us worry about having any kind of surgery - it is especially troubling when the genital area is involved. Happily, most people do return to the kind of sex life they enjoyed before having surgery.

* Hysterectomy is surgery to remove the uterus. It does not interfere with sexual functioning. If a hysterectomy seems to take away from a woman's ability to enjoy sex, a counselor may be helpful. Men who feel their partners are "less feminine" after a hysterectomy may also be helped by counseling.

* Mastectomy is surgery to remove all or part of a woman's breast. Your body is as capable of sexual response as ever, but you may lose your sexual desire or sense of being desired. Sometimes it is useful to talk with other women who have had this surgery. Programs like the American Cancer Society's (ACS) "Reach to Recovery" can be helpful for both women and men. Rebuilding of the breast (reconstruction) is also a possibility to discuss with your surgeon.

* About 1500 American men develop breast cancer each year. In them the disease can make their bodies make extra "female" hormones. These can greatly lower their sex drive.

* Prostatectomy is surgery that removes all or part of a man's prostate. Sometimes this procedure is done because of an enlarged prostate. It may cause urinary incontinence or impotence. If removal of the prostate gland (radical prostatectomy) is needed, doctors can often save the nerves going to the penis. An erection may still be possible. Talk to your doctor before surgery to make sure you will be able to lead a fully satisfying sex life.

Medications. Some drugs can cause sexual problems. These include some blood pressure medicines, antihistamines, antidepressants, tranquilizers, appetite suppressants, diabetes drugs, and some ulcer drugs such as ranitidine (Zantac). Some can lead to impotence or make it hard for men to ejaculate. Some drugs can reduce a woman's sexual desire. Check with your doctor. She or he can often prescribe a different drug without this side effect.

Alcohol. Too much alcohol can cause erection problems in men and delay orgasm in women.

Introduction to senior sex ( Part 2 )

2009-08-20T07:52:00.000-07:00

What causes sexual problems as we age?

Illness, disability, or the drugs you take to treat a health problem can affect your ability to have and enjoy sex. But, even the most serious health problems usually don't have to stop you from having a satisfying sex life.

Arthritis. Joint pain due to arthritis can make sexual contact uncomfortable. Joint replacement surgery and drugs may relieve this pain. Exercise, rest, warm baths, and changing the position or timing of sexual activity can be helpful.

Chronic pain. In addition to arthritis, pain that continues for more than a month or comes back on and off over time can be caused by other bone and muscle conditions, shingles, poor blood circulation, or blood vessel problems. This discomfort can, in turn, lead to sleep problems, depression, isolation, and difficulty moving around. These can interfere with intimacy between older people. Chronic pain does not have to be part of growing older and can often be treated.

Diabetes. Many men with diabetes do not have sexual problems, but this is one of the few illnesses that can cause impotence. In most cases medical treatment can help.

Heart disease. Narrowing and hardening of the arteries known as atherosclerosis can change blood vessels so that blood does not flow freely. This can lead to trouble with erections in men, as can high blood pressure (hypertension). Some people who have had a heart attack are afraid that having sex will cause another attack. The chance of this is very low. Most people can start having sex again 3 to 6 weeks after their condition becomes stable following an attack, if their doctor agrees. Always follow your doctor's advice.

Incontinence. Loss of bladder control or leaking of urine is more common as we grow older, especially in women. Stress incontinence happens during exercise, coughing, sneezing, or lifting, for example. Because of the extra pressure on your abdomen during sex, incontinence might cause some people to avoid sex. The good news is that this can usually be treated.

Stroke. The ability to have sex is rarely damaged by a stroke, but problems with erections are possible. It is unlikely that having sex will cause another stroke. Someone with weakness or paralysis caused by a stroke might try using different positions or medical devices to help them continue having sex.

Introduction to senior sex ( Part 1 )

2009-08-16T09:46:00.000-07:00

People seem to want and need to be close to others. As we grow older, many of us also want to continue an active, satisfying sex life. But the aging process may cause some changes.

What are normal changes with age?

Normal aging brings physical changes in both men and women. These changes sometimes affect one's ability to have and enjoy sex with another person. Some women enjoy sex more as they grow older. After menopause or a hysterectomy, they may no longer fear an unwanted pregnancy. They may feel freer to enjoy sex.

Some women do not think things like gray hair and wrinkles make them less attractive to their sexual partner. But if a woman believes that looking young or being able to give birth makes her more feminine, she may begin to worry about how desirable she is no matter what her age is. That might make sex less enjoyable for her.

A woman may notice changes in her vagina. As she ages, her vagina shortens and narrows. The walls become thinner and also a little stiffer. These changes do not mean she can't enjoy having sex. However, most women will also have less vaginal lubrication. This could affect sexual pleasure.

As men get older, impotence becomes more common. Impotence is the loss of ability to have and keep an erection hard enough for sexual intercourse. By age 65, about 15% to 25% of men have this problem at least one out of every four times they are having sex. This may happen in men with heart disease, high blood pressure, or diabetes - either because of the disease or the medicines used to treat it.

A man may find it takes longer to get an erection. His erection may not be as firm or as large as it used to be. The amount of ejaculate may be smaller. The loss of erection after orgasm may happen more quickly, or it may take longer before an erection is again possible. Some men may find they need more foreplay.

To be Continued........

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Why Slow Sex is Better

2009-08-06T10:09:00.000-07:00

You're fit—and strong. And when it comes to bedding your girl, you nail it fast and hard, just the way she likes it. Problem is, it's not the way she LOVES it. Learn more about the slow groove and you may just realize what women have known for years—slow sex is better. Like a bottle of fine wine, great sex takes time.

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Sex once a day keeps sperm healthy, study says

2009-08-01T23:37:00.000-07:00

LONDON - Couples trying to conceive should have daily sex leading up to ovulation. Having sex every day improves the quality of men's sperm and is recommended for couples trying to conceive, according to new research.

Until now doctors have debated whether or not men should refrain from sex for a few days before attempting to conceive with their partner to improve the chance of pregnancy.

But a new study by Dr David Greening of Sydney IVF, an Australian center for infertility and in vitro fertilization treatment, suggests abstinence is not the right approach.

He studied 118 men with above-average sperm DNA damage and found the quality of their sperm increased significantly after they were told to ejaculate daily for seven days.

On average, their DNA fragmentation index — a measure of sperm damage — fell to 26 percent from 34 percent, Greening told the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology in Amsterdam on Tuesday.

Frequent sex does decrease semen volume but for most men this is not a problem.

"It seems safe to conclude that couples with relatively normal semen parameters should have sex daily for up to a week before the ovulation date," he said in a statement.

"In the context of assisted reproduction, this simple treatment may assist in improving sperm quality and ultimately achieving a pregnancy."

Greening said it was likely frequent ejaculation improved the quality of sperm by reducing the length of time they were exposed to potentially damaging molecules called reactive oxygen species in the testicular ducts.

Copyright 2009 Reuters.

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Oral Sex Cause of Throat Cancer Rise

2009-07-31T18:48:00.000-07:00

Experts Say They Fear Epidemic of Throat Cancer Caused by HPV Infection. Changing sexual practices have led to a dramatic rise in throat cancer in the United States over the past two decades, and experts say they fear an epidemic of the disease.
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