Why We're Obsessed With Vampire Sex

You can’t escape them.

Fangs are everywhere these days, hoping you’ll also want a taste of the bloodthirsty fervor that has gripped the nation.

Between the best-selling books-turned-movies "Twilight Saga," HBO’s wildly popular "True Blood," and the CW’s "The Vampire Diaries," vampires have become a serious pop culture obsession.

"New Moon," the second installment of the "Twilight Saga," hits theaters this weekend, and it literally has teens and adults all over the world lusting after the movie’s lead vampire, Edward Cullen (played by British heartthrob Robert Pattinson).

So why have these folkloric creatures made such an amazing comeback? In two words: vampire sex.

They’re hot.

When "Dracula" was produced on stage in 1924, Bela Lugosi made vampires irresistibly handsome for modernity. But beyond hot bodies and good looks, it’s the male vampire’s depiction as the James Dean of Goth that holds the greatest appeal.

In desperate need of rehabilitation, these rebels are far from pure in thought and deed. Women can’t help but be drawn to these mesmerizing, misunderstood, moody bad boys.

Vampires are made all the more seductive because these soulless seducers with superpowers act as her protector, and they have the propensity to do good. Their story is usually as follows: she’s trying to "save" him, yet he gives her an excuse to be bad.

She has someone to blame for being so naughty, especially when it comes to her sexual desire.

They’re kinky.

Vampires became noticeably sexual with the start of the modern vampire era about 200 years ago. Yet vampire depictions throughout the centuries have involved subtle storylines of sexual deviants flirting with fetishes, for a killer mix of sex, romance, and violence. Since the 1950s, stories have become more overtly "sexplicit," with more recent movies and TV shows depicting or alluding to frenzied, frantic sex with aggressive appeal, which brings us to the next point about vampire appeal.

They’re into S&M.

Vampires like it rough. They like to bite. And their victims love the bites, scratches and handcuffs as depicted in shows like "Buffy the Vampire Slayer."

Sometimes sadomasochists attract what are known as "fang bangers," (a term frequently used in "True Blood"), people who have a thing for manhandle-me vampire sex role playing. The bondage, domination and submission themes mixed with "true love" are perfect reason for stripping off your scarf or turtleneck.

They scare us.

There’s something about feeling spooked that gets humans going. People get in touch with their primal side, including the fear of death, at the thought of coming across a vampire. The dangerous lust of a vampire torn between staying in control with every lick of his prey revs up your body much like sexual response. And it’s delicious.

They tease us.

A number of scenes in vampire literature and on the screen only imply sex, with kink or lesbianism mostly alluded to. Audiences are left to assume that there was some sex, and while they’d love to see more, the pay off of is that their imaginations go wild.

This is especially true with scripts like "Twilight," whose stars heat up the screen with sexual tension, only to remain abstinent. Viewers thrive off of every episode filling them with sexual desires that only go unfulfilled. Still, there’s hope that maybe later on in the story they’ll take it all the way.

Ultimately, vampire sex is more about seduction and the thrill of the passion potential portrayed.

They always do the walk of shame.

And it has to happen before dawn. There’s no "morning after" to deal with, which holds huge appeal for some.

They make us beg.

When it comes to longing and lust, we love being preyed upon. Vampires go for one of our most sensitive erogenous zones, the neck, becoming even more magnetic as their victims most beg for life, for death, for sex.

They never die.

They’re not totally dead. They’re not totally alive. And they’re not totally human for that matter. These above the law creatures impressively defy all reality. We’re intrigued that these super-beings are more powerful than we’ll ever be.

P.S. increase your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.




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6 Sex Mistakes Women Make ( part 3 )

Sex Mistake #5: Not Giving Him Guidance

Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to, says Parrott. But it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.

“A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter,” says Westheimer. “No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.”

The good news, according to Fisher, is that men very much want to please women.

“If you can tell them in a way that doesn’t kill their ego, they will appreciate it,” says Fisher. She advises women to sandwich what they don’t like in between five things they do, because he’s listening. “You won’t find out until the next time you’re in bed with him. But men do listen, particularly if you’re quite clear about it.”

Sex Mistake #6: Getting Upset When He Suggests Something New

After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. In short: Don’t take it personally.

Still, it’s important that you tune into your comfort zone says Parrott.

“Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality,” Parrott says. “If your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your morals, make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why. Of course, do this in a loving way as best you can. If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but you still don’t want to, again explain why. If it is a simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.”



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Child Sex Boom Fueled by Poverty ( Part 1 )

BANGKOK, Thailand — Narisaraporn Asipong, a matronly social worker at the “Mercy Center” shelter met 8-year-old Niran (a pseudonym) five years ago in Klong Toey, Bangkok’s largest concentration of slum communities.

“His step-father was beating him so he was scared to go home,” says Asipong, who has worked with street children for the last seven years. “He came with me to Mercy Center and I enrolled him in school.” A year later, Niran returned home because he missed his mother. “One day, I saw him on the streets again,” she says. “He looked very skinny and unhealthy.”

Asipong was not surprised when she heard that Niran was living with an older man who offered him food, money and video games in exchange for sexual favors. “There are groups of people who take advantage of children and sexually exploit them,” says Asipong. “The children get tricked easily because of promises of quick money.”

Niran told Asipong he was sick, and had HIV/AIDS. The United Nations estimates that 1 percent of Thailand's population is infected with the HIV virus — nearly three times the rate in the U.S. “When I last saw Niran in the hospital he told me that he wanted to be a good boy again,” says Asipong. On Aug. 22, 2009, Aspiong attended Niran’s cremation ceremony in Kanchanabuori, Thailand.

Niran was just one of the estimated 1.8 million children worldwide trapped in the multi-billion dollar commercial sex trade every year. Commercial sexual exploitation of children is booming according to a new global report, and governments are not doing enough to protect young people.

"The recent economic downturn is set to drive more vulnerable children and young people to be exploited by the global sex trade," says Carmen Madrinan, executive director of ECPAT International, the organization that authored the August 2009 report. "The indifference that sustains the criminality, greed and perverse demands of adults for sex with children and young people needs to end."

Increasing poverty in children’s countries of origin and smaller budgets for social services are two of the factors heightening children’s vulnerability. Deterioration of living conditions often compels young people to abandon school in order to contribute to the family income, putting them at risk of seeking livelihood options that lead to their being exploited, according to ECPAT International.

As a result of the current global downturn, hundreds of factories have closed in Thailand, leaving thousands of both Thai and non-Thai workers unemployed. Unemployment is rising at a rate of about 100,000 workers a month and may climb to 1.5 million by the end of the year.

“If you ask me, the government is not correcting the source of the problem,” says Asipong. “It’s just treating the symptoms. Poverty is a big contribution to the problem in Thailand, especially in the countryside. Whether parents or children, both have to struggle to survive.”

Street children and stateless children are extremely vulnerable to commercial sexual exploitation, says Amanda Bissex, UNICEF Thailand's Chief of Child Protection. "We need to improve law enforcement and the economic welfare of children," she says, "but we also need to address people's attitudes and create an environment where there is zero tolerance for abuse of children, whether in their home country or overseas."

To be Continued........


P.S. Boost your sexual drive by eating lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.




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Best Sex is Short and Sweet

Good News to all sexual underachievers. A survey of experts yields good news for anyone who thought their sexual efforts didn't last long enough. Good sex typically lasts 13 minutes or less, not counting foreplay.

Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani surveyed members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which includes psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively treated thousands of patients over several decades.

The results debunk the myth of hours-long sex as a reasonable goal that lingers in the minds of many supposed under-achievers.

A total of 34 experts responded to the survey and were asked what they thought was the optimal time for intercourse, from penetration to ejaculation.

On average, the respondents in this relatively small survey ranked a duration of 3 to 7 minutes as adequate and 7 to 13 minutes as desirable. Anything less was considered, on average, to be to short and anything more, too long.

"A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal," the researchers said. "Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. "

Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women say they want sex to last 30 minutes or longer, the researchers say.

"This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction," said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. "With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions."


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