Porn Isn't Just for Men Anymore

If you think porn is just for men, think again. Plenty of women enjoy it just as much as the guys, and their reasons for reveling in the eye-candy are as varied as the statistics on just how many of them are becoming porn connoisseurs.

A woman might download or rent erotica to enhance self-pleasuring, sex up foreplay, or to amp her sexual excitement. The question I get from a number of guys who are planning a surprise porn purchase is: What kind of porn do women want?

With the proliferation of porn, it feels like everybody is going out of his -- or her -- way to watch something sexually suggestive. And recent headlines have made it sound like porn is all the rage for women these days.

But it cannot be said with confidence how many women are into it.

First, when you look at the poorly conducted data on porn consumption, you’ll notice that findings are all over the board. During the first third of 2007, the Nielsen/Net Ratings reported that about one in three visitors to adult entertainment Web sites were female, with almost 13 million American women checking out porn online at least monthly.

This sounds like a lot, until you compare it to other findings. A Marie Claire/Esquire sex survey reported that only 17 percent of women go online for porn. The Australian government, too, reported that 17 percent of Australian women are porn consumers. (This is up 10 percent from more than one decade earlier).

Then there’s the matter of a testament on porn’s popularity often coming down to who stands to profit — or promote a personal agenda — in hyping up headlines. Hustler claims 56 percent of business at its video stores comes from women. At a recent sexuality conference, I questioned one female-oriented porn site presenter’s claim that the vast majority of women these days are into porn.

Where is the good study to support that? While the presenter’s site claimed 10,000 porn downloads per month, she had no way of knowing who was making the purchase, male or female. Regardless of the presenter’s irresponsibility in claiming to know more than she did, that sales number isn’t a lot when you consider that this is a multibillion-dollar industry.

Finally, there’s the issue of how porn is being defined in survey efforts. People tend to have distinct definitions for what constitutes porn versus erotica, which can influence data. I’ve also seen porn consumption defined beyond downloads or rentals, including activities like purchasing sex toys and phone sex.

Thus, exact numbers on who dabbles in explicit visual imagery become blurred.

So for those who are into it, or have the potential to be, what do these women want?

What Women Like

As with any other sexual activity, the answer boils down to personal preferences that are best learned by simply asking a lover "What do you like?" or "What are you curious about exploring?" These questions help to diffuse any pressure some women might feel in needing to fit in with supposed sex trends.

For those planning on guiding porn pleasure pursuits, there are general gender differences when it comes to people’s X-rated movie preferences. For women, it’s the context (sex in everyday places like motel rooms), sophisticated plotlines, clever use of words, and steamy relationship that get her sexually aroused.

She wants sex that’s less graphic and that features more realistic actors, in looks, physical arousal, and the way they engage one another. It simply makes her feel better about herself, her sexuality and her sexual response.

Research at the University of Amsterdam revealed that even though women’s bodies respond similarly to porn as men's, such as increased blood flow to the genitals, she feels differently while viewing his sensory delights. Women have reported feeling disgusted, annoyed, repulsed, and generally not turned on by porn made for him.

Women watching porn have reported feelings of amusement, excitement and arousal. In general, women want more than just their physical senses stimulated. They want sexual imagery that has them feeling good about themselves and sex.

Films that turn them on tend to portray genuine female pleasure, and, not surprisingly, they are generally directed or produced by women. This area of the porn industry is constantly at work in meeting her needs with gentler, "softer" sex.

Whether shopping for yourself or selecting a title for your lover, you’ve got an entire genre — female-friendly erotica — to explore, full of classy cinematography, intricate plots and thoughtful characters.

At its helm is producer Candida Royalle, a former erotic film star herself, who has strived to quell any concerns over feeling dirty by presenting a woman’s erotic voice. She sells about 10,000 movies monthly. Her sensuously explicit films are known for using more ‘natural’ looking women, fewer genital close-ups and even real-life couples at times.

Other females producing "for women by women" porn (of a wide variety) include Veronica Hart, Nina Hartley, Tristan Taormino and Jamye Waxman. According to Royalle’s "How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do," male directors holding some appeal for female audiences include Andrew Blake, Gerard Damiano, Cameron Grant, Henri Pachard and Anthony Spinelli.

At the end of the day, the success of your quest may not be your movie of choice, but getting her to explore different forms of pleasuring in general. Letting her know what you like and how that can positively affect your sex life is sure to perk up her ears.

This includes adding variety and novelty, boosting sexual excitement, and framing your efforts as ways to entice each other using sexually suggestive materials. And don’t forget to point out that porn aimed at couples is one of fastest growing markets in the industry.

P.S. increase your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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9 Reasons Strip Clubs Can Spice Up Your Sex Life

It’s the threesome of foreplay — only there’s no touching involved. Every now and then, a couple will steal away to a night club for a few hours of arousal. In a few situations, it’s a festive Chippendales venue; but in most cases, it’s a dimly-lit, somber, reserved experience with all eyes on the women.

Whether it’s a seedy hole in the wall or a high-class venue, scantily-clad women suggesting triple-X action is the theme of the show. Relegated as a male “pastime,” this world of table and lap dances is seen as his escape.

So when his partner is willing to get in on the act, eyebrows are raised.

Why in the world would any "respectable" woman want to go to a strip club? Such old-fashioned speculation comes swiftly, but is easily met with the fact that times have changed.

Plenty of women are all for a good striptease. In recent years, we’ve seen mothers and wives from coast to coast take to pole dancing, whether for exercise or to spice up their sex lives.

For those not into this type of naughty, the appeal is hard to fathom. What exactly is the draw of this pleasure pursuit as a pair?

Couples are going to strip clubs because:

1. There’s no work involved.

Foreplay becomes a breeze even before you take your seat. Lovers often find themselves sexually excited at the mere prospect of going to a strip club. Yet this arousal goes far beyond pre-game show titillations, with lovers already anticipating what will happen once they get back home.

2. It’s a bonding experience.

Sure, strip clubs don’t exactly bring on the warm fuzzies, but they raise the temperature in other ways. Lovers enjoy “sharing” the stripper, but staying focused on their union by touching and flirting with each other. This sex worker becomes a mutual object of desire that can have partners feeling closer, sexually speaking.

3. They like the power dynamic.

It’s not PC to admit it, but some couples like that they’re the paying customer. Consciously or not, they’re into the sense that when they give the dancer money, they get to “own” her to some degree. The room full of naked gals is all about their pleasuring and nothing else.

4. The experience can make them feel sexier.

By identifying with the stripper’s sexuality or desiring it, lovers can feel more wanton in the process. In other cases, where a stripper looks particularly haggard, a woman may come away from the experience feeling confirmed (and relieved) that she’s more attractive than the gal on stage. After all, the slight jealousy that can be fueled by the experience acts as inspiration to outdo the stripper at some point.

5. It’s fun.

Going to strip clubs allows for novel experiences and variety, sometimes inspiring moves for bedroom action.

6. It’s so bad that it’s good.

Despite its popularity, the experience of going to a strip club is still very taboo in nature. Couples thrive off of doing the unconventional and feeling more than a bit naughty. This includes the turn-on of seeing a partner flirt with a stripper or vice versa.

7. It invites sex and only sex.

Going to a strip club can be the excuse couples need for not being emotionally intimate from time to time. It keeps the action at home more sex-focused and can act as a safety valve for those who cannot or don’t want to connect with their partner.

8. It’s safe.

Health-wise, going to a strip club invites some of the tag team experience without presenting the sexual health risks involved. Couples don’t have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, yet they can still relish the third-party effects.

9. It puts a woman's mind at ease.

Even if they don't like watching their men get turned on, some women would rather know what their partners are doing than be left wondering. Accompanying him to a strip club makes her feel like she’s more on top of his sexual liaisons.

Going to a strip club isn’t for every couple. If it goes against your values or invites sexual jealousy, then definitely stay away. But if your relationship can handle such experimentation, be sure to discuss ahead of time what is and isn’t allowed.

Is it okay to get a lap dance? What’s considered cheating? How will you handle amateur night?

Remember, flexibility is key, as the rules may need to change once you’re inside. Seeing strip club fantasies become reality can be difficult for some. It may tap insecurities for some, while the sight of often sad, blank-faced strippers evokes pity from others.

If your partner looks uncomfortable or wants to go, don’t make a big issue over it. Just be sure to tell — and later show — your lover that, at the end of the night, they’re always the star of the show.

P.S. Boost your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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Enduring a Sex Marathon

You may not get very many opportunities to get it on for extended periods of time with a lover, but when you do get the chance you don’t want to lose out by not knowing how to keep up your side of the bargain.

There are several ways to keep yourself in good form should the occasion arise. Enduring a sex marathon can take a few hours or longer if the situation demands it. It could go all night.

However, even the most virile and energetic must rest and rejuvenate. It’s a good idea to be well-fed (but not too well) with food that releases energy slowly (such as grains and low GI carbohydrates) and be well hydrated — sweating and exercise uses your body’s stores of water quickly.


Here are some tips on enduring a sex marathon:


Don’t Orgasm

You can do this by choosing positions that provide less stimulation — because everyone is different, only you will know what these are for you. In saying this, most positions that enter from behind provide lots of stimulation. Change positions if you feel like you’re losing the power of your drive and erection or getting too close to orgasm. Keeping yourself near orgasm can be risky (you might release by mistake), but it ensures you will stay hard, and the passion won’t abate too much during your sex marathon. Bear in mind that having an orgasm isn’t the end of the session and you can take a rest before you continue. This is a good time to experiment with positions that you may not have tried with your partner.


Pleasure Her to Keep the Focus Off of You

If you do happen to need a rest while enduring a sex marathon or you do orgasm, you can easily shift the focus off of you and onto her. This can include cuddling, fondling, massage, general touching, and kissing. A rest doesn’t have to be totally sexual in nature, and it’s just as nice to make love for hours as it is to just touch each other in nice ways — or invent new ways of lovin’. There are many ways to be intimate. Just don’t fall asleep!


Don’t Drink Too Much

Alcohol is known to be a relaxant and can be a wonderful addition to the time you share with your lover. In saying that, after two or more drinks, alcohol lowers a man’s ability to achieve and maintain erections, and can trigger an inability to orgasm for a long time (which may sound good, but it can weaken your erection so much that it’s no fun). Alcohol also has sedative effects — it could cause you to fall asleep easily. Drinking can also encourage unsafe behavior (such as not using condoms). Enduring a sex marathon will not be helped by drinking too much alcohol.


Get Creative

Sex is a broad term and is used for just about anything that tickles your fancy — it doesn’t just include intercourse or oral sex. While enduring a sex marathon, you can introduce sex toys like vibrators, beads or sex paraphernalia such as whips, ropes and blindfolds. Food is also a great diversion and pleasure; ice cream, chocolate sauce or whipped cream are great. Choose flavors you both like. Get creative — you can draw out the process for quite some time with some very lusty teasing using these objects. Don’t stick to the same old; use your imagination.


Keep Lube Handy

Sex play for hours is taxing on the body’s resources. This is understandable, but you do need to be aware of the potential pitfalls of sex play for long periods. One of the main problems could be dryness, so keep some good quality lubricant handy, one that tastes nice and is non-greasy. If you’re unsure of what kind to buy, do your homework and purchase a couple of different types (silicone-based, water-based) as well as different brands to find one that you both like. And don’t scrimp on lube! Enduring a sex marathon requires a lot of moisture. If you are using condoms, lube is going to be essential to help prevent breakage and to stop the friction heat and dryness that can occur.A glass of water nearby is also going to be useful, not only to rehydrate but to moisten your mouth.

Go, Go Gadget

Remember — enduring a sex marathon takes a little time and lots of patience. However, in the end, you and your lover will be satisfyingly happy (and probably a bit worn out too) and more knowledgeable for future sessions.


P.S. Boost your sexual health by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.



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17 Sex Resolutions for 2010

Here's a New Year's resolution you'll definitely want to keep: Make 2010 all about shaping your sex life.

Who can resist a regimen involving more sex and romance? Between self-improvement, enhanced pleasuring, and the fun to be had planning your course of action, you (and your lover) are sure to have fun throughout the process.

So let 2010 be the year for your personal sexual revolution via these red-hot resolutions:


1. Let the spirit move you — sexually speaking.

Even when you don’t feel the urge, invite it. Be more spontaneous. This could mean touching your partner more, suggesting a new sex position on the fly, or pulling your lover away to a secluded location for one hot-'n'-heavy make out session.

2. Set up your own sex program.

Buy a handful of quality sex books. Pick and choose the activities you fancy, then map out your sex workout schedule. Don’t be afraid to make sure your significant other sticks to it.

3. Engage in all sorts of erotic talk.

Go outside of the box with the way you deliver sensual, romantic, or dirty talk. Then be sure to never run out of juice (btw, my book “Sultry Sex Talk” is due out later this year — it’s packed full of ideas).

4. Do something you would never do in the sack.

Now note: you don’t have to like it. But just try it — be a “sexplorer.” Whether it’s watching erotica that may seem unappealing or going on a sexual adventure beyond your four walls or buying that taboo sex toy, carpe diem. Then enjoy the reward of “been there, done that.”

5. Have sex in every room.

While most New Year’s resolutions are aimed at getting off the couch, get on one to get things started. Make it your mission to go beyond the bed, blessing other areas of your home. Half the fun is trying to get away with it. You may have to steal away from work or get up extra early to make this a mission accomplished.

6. Ask for what you want.

Your partner isn’t going to give you oral, turn on the video camera, or give you a tender, loving erotic massage unless you put it out there. Have 2010 be the year you reveal what turns you on and how you hope to become sexually satisfied.

7. Have more sex.

The key to coming out on top with this one (and in more ways than one) is to expand your definition of sex beyond intercourse. Note: This can include spending more quality time with yourself; having more sex and experiencing more touch are sure to put an extra spring in your step.

8. Cultivate your sexual connection.

Lovers complain about each other — a lot — and that doesn’t bode well for the bedroom. As the slogan says, “Quit your bitchin’ and start a revolution.” This starts with remembering why you like each other and reflecting on what’s needed to start feeling hot for each other again.

9. Become “sex positive.”
By that, I don’t mean doing and embracing everything under the sun, as this term has been hijacked to represent. Rather think about sex as a wonderful, full-of-pleasure part of being human that is to be celebrated and enjoyed. If you have trouble getting a handle on this, work with a sex counselor or therapist. You owe it to yourself.

10. Learn a new trick.

Add to your repertoire, acquiring at least one new technique, realizing that some may take longer than others — and quite literally, like lasting longer in bed. Actually execute on some of those sex tips the media bombards us with daily. You’ve got nothing to lose.

11. Go on more dates.
Whether you want more action or hope to find the one, you have to put yourself out there. Truth be told, most of their suggestions in those dating books are a crock. Finding somebody to fool around with or spend your life with is, like it or not, is very much a numbers game. You better your chances with the more people you hit on, go out with, and generally try to meet.

12. Become “that” couple.

Be the couple that’s always all over each other, exuding sexual energy that’s contagious. Go for the weekly sexual adventure, no apologies. Be the Joneses who everybody thinks is having way more sex than they are. Be erotically envied instead of wishing you were part of the action.

13. Take a sex workshop.

Find a qualified sex educator who’s all about better sex. This could involve everything from learning how to perform a new move or an old move better, how to experience multiple orgasms, how to have Tantric sex, or how to postpone gratification. The possibilities for more passion are endless.

14. Move on.
If you’re mourning a past sexual relationship, get over it. You can’t embrace what may come — including yourself — if you’re stuck in the past. Become forward thinking and be open to what 2010 has in store for you — which could be something better and more amazing than you’ve ever known.

15. Get in tune with your sexual self.

The sex department is a part of you, no matter how much you try to compartmentalize it. Welcome your sexuality — and its inherent sensuality — into the rest of your life. In the end, you will exude much more appeal.

16. Fight for your sexual rights – or another’s.

If you don’t stand up, who will? Battle for what is rightfully yours or be willing to accept the consequences.

17. Enjoy your efforts!

Don’t get consumed with reaching your sex goals, but enjoy the journey — all 365 days of it.



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Sex education should start with parents, not schools

This morning I read on Wired.com the parents of Jessica Logan are suing their daughter’s ex-boyfriend, who had distributed a nude photo of her to his classmates. Logan committed suicide and the ridicule she received due to the photo is believed the motive for her suicide.

The photo was only ever in existence because Logan had practiced the popular art of “sexting,” sending out nude or otherwise risqué photos to a boyfriend or girlfriend via your cell phone.

This comes on the heels of a story I saw on CNN.com last night, which cited a study in Pediatrics that claimed 40 percent of children have sex before having “the talk” with their parents.

The study involved children ages 13 through 17, as well as their parents. In it, 42 percent of girls reported they had not discussed the effectiveness of birth control, and 40 percent had never received any sort of talk or advice about refusing sexual intercourse.

But this was practically saintly compared to what the boys reported. Seventy percent of them claimed they had not received any sort of education on condom use. In defense of at least a few of the boys’ parents, 50 percent of them claimed to have discussed condom use with their sons. However, they should probably remember something about teenage boys: Many of them aren’t going to listen to you the first time you tell them something.

There’s been a lot of talk these days about sex education in schools, or the lack thereof, and such talks are warranted. The school system could probably be doing a better job in a lot of ways. However, I think the biggest factor in the fight against teen pregnancy and STDs should be the parents, and obviously a lot of them are failing.

Although I don’t yet have children myself, I’m sure “the talk” isn’t the easiest thing to give to them. I understand the awkwardness, both from the parents and the children. It’s not an easy subject. However, parents shouldn’t expect parenthood to be easy all the time, and a few awkward talks could save them from a lot more awkward (and potentially rage-filled) talks in the future.

It’s nice, I’m sure, to assume that children aren’t having sex. In my ideal, perfect world in which I’m a millionaire and “Transformers 2” didn’t suck, people wouldn’t have sex until they’re mature and preferably married.

However, the same Pediatrics study says that one-third of ninth graders have had sex, and half of tenth graders have as well.

Kind of scary, if you ask me.

I understand the (usually conservative-minded) desire to focus on abstinence-only sex education. I understand the worry if you teach children and teens how to have safe sex, it will only encourage them to have sex when they really shouldn’t.

However, even coming from a very conservative family (in which I was home-schooled after elementary school) I was given substantial talks on safe sex. It’s an unfortunate fact of life that no man, woman or child is going to be perfect. So while we should continue to hope the youth of this world will be morally smart and responsible, we should still prepare them in case they make mistakes.

A teenager who avoids sex until marriage is great, but a safe-sex, STD-free teenager is still much better than a pregnant teenager with crabs.

This sexting trend is one in particular that should be discussed between parents and their children. As Jessica Logan proved, it isn’t wise to create a sexually explicit image or video of yourself and share it with anybody unless you are willing to share that material with everybody — in other words, if you’re a model or porn star.

Maybe there’s something exciting and romantic about such actions between married couples, but it is a rather stupid idea in high school, and probably in college as well.

I know that — especially in high school — it’s easy to feel like you’re completely in love, you want to stick with your boyfriend or girlfriend and believe you can trust them completely. But too many cases have proven otherwise.

If you’re going to do something like sexting, it would be better to wait until you’re absolutely sure the content isn’t going to leak or be shared — and that’s difficult to be sure of before marriage, at least.

Parents need to start educating their children better on all of these issues, rather than complaining the school systems aren’t doing their job for them.

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Vampire Sex 100 times better than Normal Sex - Ashley Greene

TWILIGHT beauty Ashley Greene is claiming that vampire sex is better than normal sex.

The star of The Twilight Saga: New Moon, who is rumoured to be dating Kings of Leon bassist Jared Followill, has said that she believes her character Alice Cullen would have a better sex life than she does.

"Take the best sex you've ever had in your life, multiply it by 100 and that's vampire sex," The 22-year-old told Maxim magazine.

The actress also admitted that she was desperate to star in the vampire franchise.

"Oh my God, I wanted this part so badly. So when they told me I got it, I tried to play it all cool, you know, for about a minute," she said.

"I love, absolutely love Alice, my character. She's sweet, sexy and a killer. I feel if I was in a real fight, I'd get my ass kicked."

As for starring in another popular film franchise, Greene added: "I want to hit up James Bond. That would be awesome."

P.S. boost your sexual drive by eating natural Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.



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Why Children Who Live Without Dads Have Earlier Sex

Researchers have known for years that children raised without a dad at home tend to start having sex at a younger age than those that do. I guess it was assumed that the factors were environmental - that kids saw their single mom dating so they started dating earlier and things like that. But a new study from researchers at six major U.S. universities have called that assumption into question. This new study argues that earlier sex is best explained by genetics, and the same genetic disposition that leads to earlier sex also creates problems for men in marriages.

This seems just a little counter intuitive to me. The challenges in any family without a father present are far-reaching and the results of absentee fathers' leaving their families cross many behavioral spectra. In any case, the research is interesting, but I am not yet convinced that genetics plays the dominant role in children having sex sooner. A responsible, committed father makes a good difference in so many areas.



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Child Sex Boom Fueled by Poverty ( Part 2 )

Earlier this year, the United Nations Office of Drugs and Crimes stated in its Global Report on Trafficking in Persons that 79 percent of all global trafficking is for sexual exploitation, one of the world's fastest-growing crimes. The report stated that the proportion of minors involved in the various forms of human-trafficking increased from about 15 percent to nearly 22 percent between 2003 and 2007. This past June, the Obama Administration expanded the U.S. watch list of countries suspected of not doing enough to combat human-trafficking, putting more than four dozen nations on notice that they might face sanctions if their records don’t improve.

ECPAT International’s recent report also warned that the number of children and young people trafficked within their own country is increasing. Such trafficking frequently involves movement from rural to urban areas or from one city or town to another without the need for travel documentation.

Purchasing sex, whether from children or adults, creates huge monetary incentives for human traffickers, according to Siddharth Kara, a board member of the Washington-based NGO “Free the Slaves” and author of the 2008 book “Sex Trafficking.” Even within the exploding slavery industry, which according to Kara generated $152.3 billion in revenues in 2007, trafficked sex workers are by far the most profitable of slaves.

It’s because of these huge revenues that destination countries often turn a blind eye to sex tourism. The International Labor Organization says it contributes as much as 14 percent of the gross domestic product of Indonesia, Malaysia, the Philippines and Thailand.


P.S. Boost your sexual drive by eating lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.




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Sexually satisfied women have better general well-being and more vitality

Older women have higher well-being scores than younger women.

Pre- and post-menopausal women who self-rated themselves as being sexually satisfied had a higher overall psychological well-being score and scores for "positive well-being" and "vitality," compared with sexually dissatisfied women in a study of 295 women sexually active more than twice a month. The study, published today in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, also uncovered a positive association between age and well-being, but a negative association for general health.

The most commonly reported sexual problems in the area of consensual sexuality in women relate to sexual desire and interest, pleasure and satisfaction, and for most women these are part of the overall sexual experience, and are inextricably related. In contrast to studies of interventions for male erectile dysfunction, benefit of treatment in women with sexual dysfunction cannot be measured simply by the frequency of sexual events, as women frequently continue to be sexually active despite a high level of sexual dissatisfaction. Thus the frequency of self-reported satisfactory sexual events has been used as the primary outcome in recent studies.

To assess whether there was a correlation between sexual satisfaction and well-being, the team of Australian researchers recruited women from the community aged 20-65 who self-identified as being satisfied or dissatisfied with their sexual function. Participants were also asked questions which identified whether they were pre- or post menopausal, with recruitment closed when there was an equal number of women in each of the four subgroups.

"We wanted to explore the links between sexual satisfaction and wellbeing in women from the community, and to see if there was any difference between pre- and postmenopausal women," said lead author Dr Sonia Davison, of the Women's Health Program at Monash University, Australia. "We found that women who were sexually dissatisfied had lower well-being and lower vitality. This finding highlights the importance of addressing these areas as an essential part of women's healthcare, because women may be uncomfortable discussing these issues with their doctor."

"The problem with interpreting this finding is that it is impossible to determine if dissatisfied women had lower well-being because they were sexually dissatisfied, or if the reverse is true, such that women who started with lower well-being tended to secondarily have sexual dissatisfaction," added Davison. "As such, pharmacotherapies aimed to treat sexual dysfunction may have secondary effects on well-being, and the reverse may be true."

As over 90% of women in this study reported their sexual activity involved a partner, and was initiated by the partner at least 50% of the time, the sexual activity of the women may have been affected by partner presence (or absence), partner health, and sexual function, which were not addressed in this study. "The fact that women who self-identified as being dissatisfied maintained the level of sexual activity reported most likely represents established behaviour and partner expectation," said Professor Susan Davis, senior author of this study, also based at the Women's Health Program at Monash University, Australia. "It also reinforces the fact that frequency of sexual activity in women cannot be employed as a reliable indicator of sexual well-being."

"We are proud to publish this extremely important study in women's sexual health" said Dr. Irwin Goldstein, Editor-in-Chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine. "This large study performed in the community emphasizes the role and importance of women's sexual health in women's overall health and well-being. Previous criticism equated physicians' efforts to improve a woman's satisfaction with her sexual life as medicalization. Dr. Davison's and co-workers' research will help health care professionals appreciate the need for overall women's healthcare to include women's sexual health care."

P.S. Boost your sexual drive by heavy intake of Vitamin C rich Foods.



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Child porn found on Winter Haven man's iPod

Brian Jennings, accused of downloading child porn onto his IPod

WINTERHAVEN, FL -- 29-year-old Brian Jennings is facing child pornography charges after his girlfriend's son discovered explicit images on Jennings' iPod Nano, the Polk County Sheriff's Office says.

Investigators say the boy was showing the pornographic pictures to his classmates at Winterhaven Elementary School. The school's principal seized the device and detectives began an investigation.

The boy told detectives that he had taken the iPod without Jennings' permission, and accidentally found the porn while he was listening to music.

Of the nearly 1,000 pictures stored on the device, dozens were adult pornography and at least 20 were explicit images of children, according to the Polk County Sheriff's Office.

According to an arrest affidavit, some of the images showed children as young as six years old engaging in sexual acts with adult men.

Investigators said Jennings admitted to downloading the child pornography onto the Nano and looking at the images. He has been arrested and charged with with 10 counts of sexual performance by a child.

His home computer was seized by authorities.



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How to Satisfy a Woman Sexually?

Be more than just a man and learn how to how to satisfy a woman sexually each time you make love and you will reap the benefits. You don't need to be naturally gifted at this sport you only need a willingness to learn.

Did you know that women can get different sorts of orgasms and can even have multiple orgasms?

It’s true! Unfortunately, most women can go years without an orgasm from their partner, and we all know how hard it is to satisfy a woman.

Every man must recognize that women are completely different from themselves. Physically, emotionally and mentally women stand apart from men. If you learn to appeal to their feminine nature you will find a lasting relationship that will satisfy both of you.

Women in general enjoy love making as much as men. Most women don’t really express their desire for sex, but as a man, you ought to know these feelings that are pertaining to your spouse.

The art of satisfying a woman sexually may seem intimidating at first but it doesn't need to be. Women enjoy sex just as much as their male counterparts. Women long to be seduced and are waiting for the right man to come along and draw out their passion.

1. If you treat a woman like a precious gem you will be rewarded. Caress her, kiss her and hold her gently. She is like a beautiful flower and you are the bee. Suckle her honey with great care. Women loved to be touched so use your mouth everywhere on her body.

2. Rushing the lovemaking process will only yield disastrous results. It takes time to properly satisfy a woman. Enjoy her body; worship it with your mouth and hands. Don't forget to communicate. Tell her how good she feels. Encourage her to touch you. Reassure her of her great beauty. Sex is as beautiful as two people make it.

3. Let your fingers do the talking. Stroking her clitoris first with your fingers then with your mouth will surely bring her to climax.


Being with a woman fully satisfying her sexually means more than just sex. Women love spending time with their man. Be open and available to her during the day and your nights will be all play.

Why Male Sexual Health is Important

Male sexual and responsive health is very important. The lack of information provided about men’s proper sexual and reproductive has cause bad effects in the male community. Without proper health information, males will continue bad sexual and health practices pertaining to themselves and other. Not only will the men endanger themselves but their partners as well. By obtaining information men can push past these dangerous practices and help make a healthier environment for their families.

Male health is important because of these reasons: can reduce the risk of spreading STI infections, help reduce unplanned and unwanted pregnancy, and help inform men of healthy sexual practices with their partners to provide a happier future. Many men do not receive the proper information about preventing STI either because their families do not talk about healthy sex practices or their educational environment do not provide proper information. Either way STI spread from males to their partners easily, but with proper information infection can be reduced with the use of proper condom usage and disposal, and more information of the infections at hand. There are many pregnancies among men and women that are unplanned and many that are unwanted. By taking the necessary steps to ensure birth control these pregnancies can be prevented. There is plenty of information on birth control, male and female, and the different types and this information should be easily accessible to men. Informing men on healthy sexual practices can ensure a happier future with their partner. Sharing information can help men and their partners know the different kinds if sexual practices available. Problem can arise in different situations and men need to know what is normal and abnormal in their reproductive and sexual behavior. By knowing and sharing information men and their families can be well informed and and prevent serious problems.

One of the most important issues that men face is the importance of condom usage. Here at UIUC students get free condoms provided at McKindly health center. Many students, both men and women do not know that such facilities exist and to take advantage of them. Students need the know where they can get condoms and the proper use of them. Many males do not how to use a condom properly resulting in an unwanted pregnancy or infection. By providing information to every student through pamphlets, flyers, and just by mailing information to every student, knowledge about condoms can increase. Schools need to be concerned about the welfare of their students, so programs held at dorms, freshman and sophomore year should be mandatory for every student because all men and women need to know in order to prevent situations from occurring. According to the online website www.malehealthcenter.com condoms can help prevent against infection and pregnancy but should not be relied on. Infections can occur when the condom is not use before genital contact. Condoms are put through rigorous tests and rarely break but novelty condoms are no good and many people do not know this.

Another important issue that men should know is sex myths. Men and women should know the truth about sex and not just what they see in movies or what their friends tell them. By having classes and programs sex myths and questions can be addressed. Many people feel abnormal and men and women should know that they are not the only ones with problems and questions. Some myths men should know according to the website www.malehealthcenter.com is that men are not always ready for sex that it is okay to be tired and a little stressed out. Many men feel the need to satisfy women but it is a two way street and communication needs to occur. Sex is not spontaneous like in the movies and many men and women probably are not aware of this. It takes some planning especially for sex that benefits both partners to occur. Men have sexual problems and some do not want to admit it. Especially men in their youth. Problems occur and they should seek information of the problems at hand instead of letting them manifest.

In conclusion, information on men sexual and reproductive information is important. Some females know that their information on their bodies are available but many males do not know they have the same advantages or that they should have these advantages. Being more informed causes a healthy future for both men and women and students should take advantage of the facilities on their campus.


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Introduction to senior sex ( Part 4 )

Having safe sex is important for people at any age. As a woman gets closer to menopause, her periods may be irregular. But, she can still get pregnant. In fact, pregnancy is still possible until your doctor says you are past menopause - you have not had a menstrual period for 12 months.

Age does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. Young people are most at risk for diseases such as syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydial infection, genital herpes, hepatitis B, genital warts, and trichomoniasis. But these diseases can and do happen in sexually active older people.

Almost anyone who is sexually active is also at risk for being infected with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS. The number of older people with HIV/AIDS is growing. One out of every 10 people diagnosed with AIDS in the United States is over age 50. You are at risk if you have more than one sexual partner or are recently divorced or widowed and have started dating and having unprotected sex again. Always use a latex condom during sex, and talk to your doctor about ways to protect yourself from all sexually transmitted diseases. You are never too old to be at risk.

Can emotions play a part?

Sexuality is often a delicate balance of emotional and physical issues. How you feel may affect what you are able to do. For example, men may fear that impotence will become a more common problem as they age. But, if you are too concerned with that possibility, you can cause enough stress to trigger impotence. A woman who is worried about how her looks are changing as she ages may think her partner will no longer find her attractive. This focus on youthful physical beauty may get in the way of her enjoyment of sex.

Older couples face the same daily stresses that affect people of any age. But they may also have the added concerns of age, illness, and retirement and other lifestyle changes. These worries can cause sexual difficulties. Talk openly with your doctor, or see a counselor. These health professionals can often help.

Don't blame yourself for any sexual difficulties you and your partner are having. You might want to talk with a therapist about them. If your male partner is troubled by impotence or your female partner seems less interested in sex, don't assume they don't find you attractive anymore. There can be many physical causes for their problems.


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Introduction to senior sex ( Part 3 )

What about surgery and drugs?

Surgery. Many of us worry about having any kind of surgery - it is especially troubling when the genital area is involved. Happily, most people do return to the kind of sex life they enjoyed before having surgery.

* Hysterectomy is surgery to remove the uterus. It does not interfere with sexual functioning. If a hysterectomy seems to take away from a woman's ability to enjoy sex, a counselor may be helpful. Men who feel their partners are "less feminine" after a hysterectomy may also be helped by counseling.

* Mastectomy is surgery to remove all or part of a woman's breast. Your body is as capable of sexual response as ever, but you may lose your sexual desire or sense of being desired. Sometimes it is useful to talk with other women who have had this surgery. Programs like the American Cancer Society's (ACS) "Reach to Recovery" can be helpful for both women and men. Rebuilding of the breast (reconstruction) is also a possibility to discuss with your surgeon.

* About 1500 American men develop breast cancer each year. In them the disease can make their bodies make extra "female" hormones. These can greatly lower their sex drive.

* Prostatectomy is surgery that removes all or part of a man's prostate. Sometimes this procedure is done because of an enlarged prostate. It may cause urinary incontinence or impotence. If removal of the prostate gland (radical prostatectomy) is needed, doctors can often save the nerves going to the penis. An erection may still be possible. Talk to your doctor before surgery to make sure you will be able to lead a fully satisfying sex life.

Medications. Some drugs can cause sexual problems. These include some blood pressure medicines, antihistamines, antidepressants, tranquilizers, appetite suppressants, diabetes drugs, and some ulcer drugs such as ranitidine (Zantac). Some can lead to impotence or make it hard for men to ejaculate. Some drugs can reduce a woman's sexual desire. Check with your doctor. She or he can often prescribe a different drug without this side effect.

Alcohol. Too much alcohol can cause erection problems in men and delay orgasm in women.

Introduction to senior sex ( Part 2 )

What causes sexual problems as we age?

Illness, disability, or the drugs you take to treat a health problem can affect your ability to have and enjoy sex. But, even the most serious health problems usually don't have to stop you from having a satisfying sex life.

Arthritis. Joint pain due to arthritis can make sexual contact uncomfortable. Joint replacement surgery and drugs may relieve this pain. Exercise, rest, warm baths, and changing the position or timing of sexual activity can be helpful.

Chronic pain. In addition to arthritis, pain that continues for more than a month or comes back on and off over time can be caused by other bone and muscle conditions, shingles, poor blood circulation, or blood vessel problems. This discomfort can, in turn, lead to sleep problems, depression, isolation, and difficulty moving around. These can interfere with intimacy between older people. Chronic pain does not have to be part of growing older and can often be treated.

Diabetes. Many men with diabetes do not have sexual problems, but this is one of the few illnesses that can cause impotence. In most cases medical treatment can help.

Heart disease. Narrowing and hardening of the arteries known as atherosclerosis can change blood vessels so that blood does not flow freely. This can lead to trouble with erections in men, as can high blood pressure (hypertension). Some people who have had a heart attack are afraid that having sex will cause another attack. The chance of this is very low. Most people can start having sex again 3 to 6 weeks after their condition becomes stable following an attack, if their doctor agrees. Always follow your doctor's advice.

Incontinence. Loss of bladder control or leaking of urine is more common as we grow older, especially in women. Stress incontinence happens during exercise, coughing, sneezing, or lifting, for example. Because of the extra pressure on your abdomen during sex, incontinence might cause some people to avoid sex. The good news is that this can usually be treated.

Stroke. The ability to have sex is rarely damaged by a stroke, but problems with erections are possible. It is unlikely that having sex will cause another stroke. Someone with weakness or paralysis caused by a stroke might try using different positions or medical devices to help them continue having sex.

Introduction to senior sex ( Part 1 )

People seem to want and need to be close to others. As we grow older, many of us also want to continue an active, satisfying sex life. But the aging process may cause some changes.

What are normal changes with age?

Normal aging brings physical changes in both men and women. These changes sometimes affect one's ability to have and enjoy sex with another person. Some women enjoy sex more as they grow older. After menopause or a hysterectomy, they may no longer fear an unwanted pregnancy. They may feel freer to enjoy sex.

Some women do not think things like gray hair and wrinkles make them less attractive to their sexual partner. But if a woman believes that looking young or being able to give birth makes her more feminine, she may begin to worry about how desirable she is no matter what her age is. That might make sex less enjoyable for her.

A woman may notice changes in her vagina. As she ages, her vagina shortens and narrows. The walls become thinner and also a little stiffer. These changes do not mean she can't enjoy having sex. However, most women will also have less vaginal lubrication. This could affect sexual pleasure.

As men get older, impotence becomes more common. Impotence is the loss of ability to have and keep an erection hard enough for sexual intercourse. By age 65, about 15% to 25% of men have this problem at least one out of every four times they are having sex. This may happen in men with heart disease, high blood pressure, or diabetes - either because of the disease or the medicines used to treat it.

A man may find it takes longer to get an erection. His erection may not be as firm or as large as it used to be. The amount of ejaculate may be smaller. The loss of erection after orgasm may happen more quickly, or it may take longer before an erection is again possible. Some men may find they need more foreplay.

To be Continued........


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