9 Reasons Strip Clubs Can Spice Up Your Sex Life

It’s the threesome of foreplay — only there’s no touching involved. Every now and then, a couple will steal away to a night club for a few hours of arousal. In a few situations, it’s a festive Chippendales venue; but in most cases, it’s a dimly-lit, somber, reserved experience with all eyes on the women.

Whether it’s a seedy hole in the wall or a high-class venue, scantily-clad women suggesting triple-X action is the theme of the show. Relegated as a male “pastime,” this world of table and lap dances is seen as his escape.

So when his partner is willing to get in on the act, eyebrows are raised.

Why in the world would any "respectable" woman want to go to a strip club? Such old-fashioned speculation comes swiftly, but is easily met with the fact that times have changed.

Plenty of women are all for a good striptease. In recent years, we’ve seen mothers and wives from coast to coast take to pole dancing, whether for exercise or to spice up their sex lives.

For those not into this type of naughty, the appeal is hard to fathom. What exactly is the draw of this pleasure pursuit as a pair?

Couples are going to strip clubs because:

1. There’s no work involved.

Foreplay becomes a breeze even before you take your seat. Lovers often find themselves sexually excited at the mere prospect of going to a strip club. Yet this arousal goes far beyond pre-game show titillations, with lovers already anticipating what will happen once they get back home.

2. It’s a bonding experience.

Sure, strip clubs don’t exactly bring on the warm fuzzies, but they raise the temperature in other ways. Lovers enjoy “sharing” the stripper, but staying focused on their union by touching and flirting with each other. This sex worker becomes a mutual object of desire that can have partners feeling closer, sexually speaking.

3. They like the power dynamic.

It’s not PC to admit it, but some couples like that they’re the paying customer. Consciously or not, they’re into the sense that when they give the dancer money, they get to “own” her to some degree. The room full of naked gals is all about their pleasuring and nothing else.

4. The experience can make them feel sexier.

By identifying with the stripper’s sexuality or desiring it, lovers can feel more wanton in the process. In other cases, where a stripper looks particularly haggard, a woman may come away from the experience feeling confirmed (and relieved) that she’s more attractive than the gal on stage. After all, the slight jealousy that can be fueled by the experience acts as inspiration to outdo the stripper at some point.

5. It’s fun.

Going to strip clubs allows for novel experiences and variety, sometimes inspiring moves for bedroom action.

6. It’s so bad that it’s good.

Despite its popularity, the experience of going to a strip club is still very taboo in nature. Couples thrive off of doing the unconventional and feeling more than a bit naughty. This includes the turn-on of seeing a partner flirt with a stripper or vice versa.

7. It invites sex and only sex.

Going to a strip club can be the excuse couples need for not being emotionally intimate from time to time. It keeps the action at home more sex-focused and can act as a safety valve for those who cannot or don’t want to connect with their partner.

8. It’s safe.

Health-wise, going to a strip club invites some of the tag team experience without presenting the sexual health risks involved. Couples don’t have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, yet they can still relish the third-party effects.

9. It puts a woman's mind at ease.

Even if they don't like watching their men get turned on, some women would rather know what their partners are doing than be left wondering. Accompanying him to a strip club makes her feel like she’s more on top of his sexual liaisons.

Going to a strip club isn’t for every couple. If it goes against your values or invites sexual jealousy, then definitely stay away. But if your relationship can handle such experimentation, be sure to discuss ahead of time what is and isn’t allowed.

Is it okay to get a lap dance? What’s considered cheating? How will you handle amateur night?

Remember, flexibility is key, as the rules may need to change once you’re inside. Seeing strip club fantasies become reality can be difficult for some. It may tap insecurities for some, while the sight of often sad, blank-faced strippers evokes pity from others.

If your partner looks uncomfortable or wants to go, don’t make a big issue over it. Just be sure to tell — and later show — your lover that, at the end of the night, they’re always the star of the show.

P.S. Boost your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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Enduring a Sex Marathon

You may not get very many opportunities to get it on for extended periods of time with a lover, but when you do get the chance you don’t want to lose out by not knowing how to keep up your side of the bargain.

There are several ways to keep yourself in good form should the occasion arise. Enduring a sex marathon can take a few hours or longer if the situation demands it. It could go all night.

However, even the most virile and energetic must rest and rejuvenate. It’s a good idea to be well-fed (but not too well) with food that releases energy slowly (such as grains and low GI carbohydrates) and be well hydrated — sweating and exercise uses your body’s stores of water quickly.


Here are some tips on enduring a sex marathon:


Don’t Orgasm

You can do this by choosing positions that provide less stimulation — because everyone is different, only you will know what these are for you. In saying this, most positions that enter from behind provide lots of stimulation. Change positions if you feel like you’re losing the power of your drive and erection or getting too close to orgasm. Keeping yourself near orgasm can be risky (you might release by mistake), but it ensures you will stay hard, and the passion won’t abate too much during your sex marathon. Bear in mind that having an orgasm isn’t the end of the session and you can take a rest before you continue. This is a good time to experiment with positions that you may not have tried with your partner.


Pleasure Her to Keep the Focus Off of You

If you do happen to need a rest while enduring a sex marathon or you do orgasm, you can easily shift the focus off of you and onto her. This can include cuddling, fondling, massage, general touching, and kissing. A rest doesn’t have to be totally sexual in nature, and it’s just as nice to make love for hours as it is to just touch each other in nice ways — or invent new ways of lovin’. There are many ways to be intimate. Just don’t fall asleep!


Don’t Drink Too Much

Alcohol is known to be a relaxant and can be a wonderful addition to the time you share with your lover. In saying that, after two or more drinks, alcohol lowers a man’s ability to achieve and maintain erections, and can trigger an inability to orgasm for a long time (which may sound good, but it can weaken your erection so much that it’s no fun). Alcohol also has sedative effects — it could cause you to fall asleep easily. Drinking can also encourage unsafe behavior (such as not using condoms). Enduring a sex marathon will not be helped by drinking too much alcohol.


Get Creative

Sex is a broad term and is used for just about anything that tickles your fancy — it doesn’t just include intercourse or oral sex. While enduring a sex marathon, you can introduce sex toys like vibrators, beads or sex paraphernalia such as whips, ropes and blindfolds. Food is also a great diversion and pleasure; ice cream, chocolate sauce or whipped cream are great. Choose flavors you both like. Get creative — you can draw out the process for quite some time with some very lusty teasing using these objects. Don’t stick to the same old; use your imagination.


Keep Lube Handy

Sex play for hours is taxing on the body’s resources. This is understandable, but you do need to be aware of the potential pitfalls of sex play for long periods. One of the main problems could be dryness, so keep some good quality lubricant handy, one that tastes nice and is non-greasy. If you’re unsure of what kind to buy, do your homework and purchase a couple of different types (silicone-based, water-based) as well as different brands to find one that you both like. And don’t scrimp on lube! Enduring a sex marathon requires a lot of moisture. If you are using condoms, lube is going to be essential to help prevent breakage and to stop the friction heat and dryness that can occur.A glass of water nearby is also going to be useful, not only to rehydrate but to moisten your mouth.

Go, Go Gadget

Remember — enduring a sex marathon takes a little time and lots of patience. However, in the end, you and your lover will be satisfyingly happy (and probably a bit worn out too) and more knowledgeable for future sessions.


P.S. Boost your sexual health by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.



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17 Sex Resolutions for 2010

Here's a New Year's resolution you'll definitely want to keep: Make 2010 all about shaping your sex life.

Who can resist a regimen involving more sex and romance? Between self-improvement, enhanced pleasuring, and the fun to be had planning your course of action, you (and your lover) are sure to have fun throughout the process.

So let 2010 be the year for your personal sexual revolution via these red-hot resolutions:


1. Let the spirit move you — sexually speaking.

Even when you don’t feel the urge, invite it. Be more spontaneous. This could mean touching your partner more, suggesting a new sex position on the fly, or pulling your lover away to a secluded location for one hot-'n'-heavy make out session.

2. Set up your own sex program.

Buy a handful of quality sex books. Pick and choose the activities you fancy, then map out your sex workout schedule. Don’t be afraid to make sure your significant other sticks to it.

3. Engage in all sorts of erotic talk.

Go outside of the box with the way you deliver sensual, romantic, or dirty talk. Then be sure to never run out of juice (btw, my book “Sultry Sex Talk” is due out later this year — it’s packed full of ideas).

4. Do something you would never do in the sack.

Now note: you don’t have to like it. But just try it — be a “sexplorer.” Whether it’s watching erotica that may seem unappealing or going on a sexual adventure beyond your four walls or buying that taboo sex toy, carpe diem. Then enjoy the reward of “been there, done that.”

5. Have sex in every room.

While most New Year’s resolutions are aimed at getting off the couch, get on one to get things started. Make it your mission to go beyond the bed, blessing other areas of your home. Half the fun is trying to get away with it. You may have to steal away from work or get up extra early to make this a mission accomplished.

6. Ask for what you want.

Your partner isn’t going to give you oral, turn on the video camera, or give you a tender, loving erotic massage unless you put it out there. Have 2010 be the year you reveal what turns you on and how you hope to become sexually satisfied.

7. Have more sex.

The key to coming out on top with this one (and in more ways than one) is to expand your definition of sex beyond intercourse. Note: This can include spending more quality time with yourself; having more sex and experiencing more touch are sure to put an extra spring in your step.

8. Cultivate your sexual connection.

Lovers complain about each other — a lot — and that doesn’t bode well for the bedroom. As the slogan says, “Quit your bitchin’ and start a revolution.” This starts with remembering why you like each other and reflecting on what’s needed to start feeling hot for each other again.

9. Become “sex positive.”
By that, I don’t mean doing and embracing everything under the sun, as this term has been hijacked to represent. Rather think about sex as a wonderful, full-of-pleasure part of being human that is to be celebrated and enjoyed. If you have trouble getting a handle on this, work with a sex counselor or therapist. You owe it to yourself.

10. Learn a new trick.

Add to your repertoire, acquiring at least one new technique, realizing that some may take longer than others — and quite literally, like lasting longer in bed. Actually execute on some of those sex tips the media bombards us with daily. You’ve got nothing to lose.

11. Go on more dates.
Whether you want more action or hope to find the one, you have to put yourself out there. Truth be told, most of their suggestions in those dating books are a crock. Finding somebody to fool around with or spend your life with is, like it or not, is very much a numbers game. You better your chances with the more people you hit on, go out with, and generally try to meet.

12. Become “that” couple.

Be the couple that’s always all over each other, exuding sexual energy that’s contagious. Go for the weekly sexual adventure, no apologies. Be the Joneses who everybody thinks is having way more sex than they are. Be erotically envied instead of wishing you were part of the action.

13. Take a sex workshop.

Find a qualified sex educator who’s all about better sex. This could involve everything from learning how to perform a new move or an old move better, how to experience multiple orgasms, how to have Tantric sex, or how to postpone gratification. The possibilities for more passion are endless.

14. Move on.
If you’re mourning a past sexual relationship, get over it. You can’t embrace what may come — including yourself — if you’re stuck in the past. Become forward thinking and be open to what 2010 has in store for you — which could be something better and more amazing than you’ve ever known.

15. Get in tune with your sexual self.

The sex department is a part of you, no matter how much you try to compartmentalize it. Welcome your sexuality — and its inherent sensuality — into the rest of your life. In the end, you will exude much more appeal.

16. Fight for your sexual rights – or another’s.

If you don’t stand up, who will? Battle for what is rightfully yours or be willing to accept the consequences.

17. Enjoy your efforts!

Don’t get consumed with reaching your sex goals, but enjoy the journey — all 365 days of it.



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Sex education should start with parents, not schools

This morning I read on Wired.com the parents of Jessica Logan are suing their daughter’s ex-boyfriend, who had distributed a nude photo of her to his classmates. Logan committed suicide and the ridicule she received due to the photo is believed the motive for her suicide.

The photo was only ever in existence because Logan had practiced the popular art of “sexting,” sending out nude or otherwise risqué photos to a boyfriend or girlfriend via your cell phone.

This comes on the heels of a story I saw on CNN.com last night, which cited a study in Pediatrics that claimed 40 percent of children have sex before having “the talk” with their parents.

The study involved children ages 13 through 17, as well as their parents. In it, 42 percent of girls reported they had not discussed the effectiveness of birth control, and 40 percent had never received any sort of talk or advice about refusing sexual intercourse.

But this was practically saintly compared to what the boys reported. Seventy percent of them claimed they had not received any sort of education on condom use. In defense of at least a few of the boys’ parents, 50 percent of them claimed to have discussed condom use with their sons. However, they should probably remember something about teenage boys: Many of them aren’t going to listen to you the first time you tell them something.

There’s been a lot of talk these days about sex education in schools, or the lack thereof, and such talks are warranted. The school system could probably be doing a better job in a lot of ways. However, I think the biggest factor in the fight against teen pregnancy and STDs should be the parents, and obviously a lot of them are failing.

Although I don’t yet have children myself, I’m sure “the talk” isn’t the easiest thing to give to them. I understand the awkwardness, both from the parents and the children. It’s not an easy subject. However, parents shouldn’t expect parenthood to be easy all the time, and a few awkward talks could save them from a lot more awkward (and potentially rage-filled) talks in the future.

It’s nice, I’m sure, to assume that children aren’t having sex. In my ideal, perfect world in which I’m a millionaire and “Transformers 2” didn’t suck, people wouldn’t have sex until they’re mature and preferably married.

However, the same Pediatrics study says that one-third of ninth graders have had sex, and half of tenth graders have as well.

Kind of scary, if you ask me.

I understand the (usually conservative-minded) desire to focus on abstinence-only sex education. I understand the worry if you teach children and teens how to have safe sex, it will only encourage them to have sex when they really shouldn’t.

However, even coming from a very conservative family (in which I was home-schooled after elementary school) I was given substantial talks on safe sex. It’s an unfortunate fact of life that no man, woman or child is going to be perfect. So while we should continue to hope the youth of this world will be morally smart and responsible, we should still prepare them in case they make mistakes.

A teenager who avoids sex until marriage is great, but a safe-sex, STD-free teenager is still much better than a pregnant teenager with crabs.

This sexting trend is one in particular that should be discussed between parents and their children. As Jessica Logan proved, it isn’t wise to create a sexually explicit image or video of yourself and share it with anybody unless you are willing to share that material with everybody — in other words, if you’re a model or porn star.

Maybe there’s something exciting and romantic about such actions between married couples, but it is a rather stupid idea in high school, and probably in college as well.

I know that — especially in high school — it’s easy to feel like you’re completely in love, you want to stick with your boyfriend or girlfriend and believe you can trust them completely. But too many cases have proven otherwise.

If you’re going to do something like sexting, it would be better to wait until you’re absolutely sure the content isn’t going to leak or be shared — and that’s difficult to be sure of before marriage, at least.

Parents need to start educating their children better on all of these issues, rather than complaining the school systems aren’t doing their job for them.

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Casual sex not bad for mental health, study finds

As almost every parent knows, hooking up for casual sex is bad for young people because it causes emotional or psychological damage. Right?

Well, actually, no. At least not for young adults between the ages of 18 and 24, according to a new study by University of Minnesota researchers.

They asked more than 1,300 young Minnesota adults about their most recent sexual encounters, their self-esteem and their emotional well-being. Interestingly, only about one-fifth of the subjects said their last encounter was casual. But their overall emotional status was no different than the four-fifths who said they were in committed relationships with their most recent sexual partner.

P.S. Boost your sexual stamina by eating Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.

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6 Sex Mistakes Women Make ( part 3 )

Sex Mistake #5: Not Giving Him Guidance

Talking very directly about sex, what we like and don’t like can make us feel uncomfortable, even with a partner we’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to, says Parrott. But it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.

“A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter,” says Westheimer. “No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know what she needs without her letting him know.”

The good news, according to Fisher, is that men very much want to please women.

“If you can tell them in a way that doesn’t kill their ego, they will appreciate it,” says Fisher. She advises women to sandwich what they don’t like in between five things they do, because he’s listening. “You won’t find out until the next time you’re in bed with him. But men do listen, particularly if you’re quite clear about it.”

Sex Mistake #6: Getting Upset When He Suggests Something New

After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. In short: Don’t take it personally.

Still, it’s important that you tune into your comfort zone says Parrott.

“Nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do in the personal and intimate area of sexuality,” Parrott says. “If your man asks you about trying something that’s outside of your morals, make it clear that it’s off limits for you and explain why. Of course, do this in a loving way as best you can. If it is something that is not really a moral issue for you but you still don’t want to, again explain why. If it is a simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.”



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6 Sex Mistakes Women Make ( part 2 )

Sex Mistake #3: Assuming Sex Is Casual for a Man


Westheimer believes we should all let go of old-fashioned notions, such as women are not sexual or that sex is just sex to men. “For some men, sex is a very important act. Don’t minimize it.”

The research, says Parrott, supports the idea that both men and women find sexual intimacy in the context of a committed relationship to be more satisfying.

“Numerous research studies make it very clear that the people who have the best quality and most frequent sex are married couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of ‘casual sex,” Parrot says.

In a study being conducted by Fisher and her colleagues of university students engaging in one-night stands, the numbers show that men are just as serious about sex and relationships as women. In fact, more than 50% of women and 52% of men who went into a one-night stand, according to Fisher, reported that they did so hoping to create a longer relationship. One-third of them actually did so. What’s the lesson?

“Never assume that a man is not romantic,” Fisher says. “Two huge mistakes in this culture are that women are not sexual and that men are not as romantic [as women].”

Sex Mistake #4: Believing He’s Always Up for Sex

Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time you ask, but not true for men. The pressures of everyday life -- family, work, bills -- can zap a man’s libido. This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often his lack of interest in sex is something we take personally.

“It comes as such a shock [to women] that they just don’t believe it,” Fisher says about the reaction many women have when their partner says they aren’t in the mood for sex. “They know themselves that they are not always interested in sex but they still love the man. But when they discover he doesn’t want to have sex, they think, ‘he doesn’t love me.’ Not true. He just doesn’t want to have sex.”


To be Continued ............

6 Sex Mistakes Women Make ( part 1 )

Ladies, be honest: when your sex life becomes a little humdrum, out comes the mental catalogue of all the ways your partner isn’t quite measuring up. Guys tend to get a bad rap when it comes to understanding women’s bodies and what turns us on, making them easy targets in the blame game when sexual satisfaction starts to wane. And sure, they make their fair share of bedroom errors. But as the saying goes, it takes two to tango. As it turns out, top sex and relationship experts say that women make plenty of sex mistakes of their own. Here’s what they have to say about the six most common mistakes women make in the bedroom and what you can do to get the satisfaction you so rightly deserve.

Sex Mistake #1: Not Initiating Sex With Your Partner

It’s 2009 and still, many of us worry about ladylike behavior. We don’t want to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labeled aggressive. According to Les Parrot, professor of psychology at Seattle Pacific University and author of a new book called Crazy Good Sex, failing to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make.

“Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship,” he says. Generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.

Holding onto outdated ideas about sex roles also inhibits satisfaction with our sexual relationships, says "Dr. Ruth," aka Ruth Westheimer, PhD, a psychosexual therapist, professor at New York University, and lecturer at Yale and Princeton universities. “They used to think that women are less interested in sexual activity and I don’t want to say that anymore. I think there are women who are as interested in sex [as men].”

Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time. Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience, something Westheimer feels strongly women must do.

Sex Mistake #2: Worrying About What You Look Like

Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm.

“Don’t think about the fat on your belly or the makeup on your face,” advises Westheimer. “Concentrate on the pleasure of the act. You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm.”

“Men want their wives to abandon themselves in sex play, and that’s not likely if she is anxious about her physical concerns,” Parrott says.

Helen Fisher, PhD, a cultural anthropologist at Rutgers University and author of a new book called Why Him, Why Her, says men don’t notice half the things women obsess about anyway.
“It’s amazing what men don’t notice if you’re enthusiastic, energetic, interested in them, and flexible minded.”

According to Fisher, there is an evolutionary explanation for the selective blindness men show to our physical flaws. For Darwinian reasons, says Fisher, men are (unconsciously, of course) looking for women who are able to bear healthy babies. Starting millions of years ago, men who attracted fertile women and had a lot of children lived on. Those who couldn’t died out. Although maybe not as necessary today, Fisher says that primal survival mechanism lives on.

“Men are much more attracted to women who show signs of health and youth and fertility. Rather than worry about the shape of your waist and hips, worry about your energy level and enthusiasm and interest in him,” Fisher advises.


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How Long is the Average Penis Size?

Determining the average penis size for a group of males, let alone for men around the world, is more complicated than you might imagine. Unfortunately most information about average penis size comes from popular culture and not science. Let's start by considering some figures from science.

The results from three studies of penis size where the measurements were taken in a laboratory setting give the following ranges:

* Average penis length (flaccid/not erect): from 3.4 inches to 3.7 inches (8.6 cm to 9.3 cm)
* Average penis length (erect): from 5.1 inches to 5.7 inches (12.9 cm to 14.5 cm)
* Average penis girth (circumference when erect): from 3.5 inches to 3.9 inches (8.8 cm to 10 cm)

These numbers are obviously very different from the sizes we hear (and see) in adult movies, and even the kinds of numbers you read on line. Why such a difference?

Many, possibly most, statistics you read are not from legitimate research, but from marketing companies who want you to feel bad about your penis size (so you’ll buy their product).
Important facts about reports of average penis size

* There is much greater variation in size of flaccid (non-erect) penises than of penises when they are erect. A soft penis that looks large may be roughly the same size when erect as a soft penis that looks smaller.
* Because most men see other penises when they are not erect it can appear as if there is a big difference, and men may be likely to assume their erect penis is much smaller when compared to others.
* Male porn stars are often chosen specifically because they have larger than average penises. Also, there are a variety of techniques used to make penises look bigger on camera. Lighting, camera angle, and even shaving of pubic hair can all make things look bigger on camera.

Problems with research on average penis size

Determining what the average penis size is seems like it shouldn’t be that complicated. It’s a physical body part, you measure it, and repeat hundreds of thousands of times around the world, then take an average. Unfortunately, arriving at an accurate idea of what is an average penis size, is more complicated. Some of the problems with figuring out average penis size include:

* Is penis size considered to be the length, the girth, or both?
* When measuring penis length, where do you start?
* Is penis girth measured at the base of the penis, at the glans (head), or around the shaft?
* Are the people measured in these studies representative of the general population?
* Do all studies include measurements taken by others, or self-reported measurements (which are historically bigger than measurements reported by others)?

Different studies answer these questions differently, which makes arriving at a single average penis size almost impossible. Also, many researchers believe that those who are willing to participate in a study about penis size may have larger than average penises, which would also skew the results.



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How to Use a Vibrator for Men

I’ve spoken with thousands of men who had no idea they could use a vibrator. They either thought vibrators only worked on women, or they weren’t for “guys like them.” Once most of these men gave vibrators a chance, they quickly became converts. Vibrators aren’t made for a certain kind of person, they’re for anyone interested in discovering new ways to feel sexual pleasure. Men in particular are offered a narrow set of sexual options, and vibrators can help expand those options and discover pleasure and orgasms you didn’t even know were in you. If you’re curious, here are some tips for men on how to use a vibrator.

Time Required: For Your First Time, a Half Hour or More

Here's How:

1. Explode the myth.
Most people think vibrators are sex toys for women only. Since you may have never thought vibrators could be fore you, you may need to give yourself some time to get comfortable with the idea of trying a vibrator. The good news is that once you do, you’ll be greatly rewarded. Remember that sex toys aren’t made for certain kids of people, they’re made to stimulate nerve endings. Anyone and everyone could be the “kind of person” who uses vibrators, and using one doesn’t say anything about you other than the fact that you like yourself enough to want to feel good.

2. Get to know your vibrator.
Take your vibrator out of the package and get to know how it works and what kind of batteries it takes. Play with the buttons and switches and find out how many speeds and settings it has. Wash your vibrator well before using it. If it isn’t waterproof be careful not to get any water near the battery case. Check for sharp edges or seams (these can be easily filed down and made safe). Make sure the body of the vibrator isn’t coming apart from the battery pack and that all wires are solid and secure. If there are any flaws return your vibrator before you use it.

3. Start on your own.
Even if you’re planning on using your vibrator with a partner, it’s a good idea to check it our by yourself first. You’ll feel less self-conscious and/or you can really concentrate on how it feels for you without being distracted (for better or worse) by a partner. Make sure you have a little time and enough privacy. If you’ve got roommates, children, thin walls, or nosy neighbors, you can always turn on some music and make use of blankets and comforters to mute the sound (you may also want to think about getting a quieter vibrator).

4. Play with the lights on.
Not everyone will be comfortable with this one, and vision may not be a sense you rely on, but playing with a vibrator with the lights on can be very educational and useful. You can discover specific places on your body that are rich with nerve endings and ripe for stimulation. This is the kind of information you can use on yourself in the future and share with a lover. You can achieve the same effect with touch, knowing exactly where the vibrator is, but seeing what’s going on can be a benefit for some.

5. Turn it off before you turn it on.
It’s a generalization, but men probably don’t touch all parts of their body as often as women do. You may be 100% familiar with your genitals, but how well do you know your calves or thighs? When was the last time you noticed how it feels to be touched behind your knees? Before you turn the vibrator on, get used to how it feels on your body. Press it firmly against your skin and massage your muscles with it. This isn’t meant to give you an orgasm, but it’s a slow way of introducing your body to the vibrator.

6. Move your vibrator from the outside in.
Once you turn it on, start by touching the vibrator to your feet and your hands. Run it up and down your arms and legs, across your belly, your shoulders and neck, your scalp and face. Even though vibrators are used mostly around the penis, scrotum, ass and nipples, don’t just jump to the main event. Get a feel for the vibration all over your body and then slowly move to the more sensitive parts. You can slowly move the vibrator up your inner thigh, gently run it over the perineum, or in circles around your nipples.

7. Don’t rush: Explore every inch.
The great thing about vibrators is that they never get tired, and they let you explore every inch of your body for sexual pleasure. We are so penis-focused that it’s no wonder most men think that their penis is not only the best sexual part of their body, but the only area capable of giving them an orgasm. In fact there are many parts of a man’s body that are capable of experiencing intense sexual pleasure. Using a vibrator is a great way to find them. Think of yourself as an explorer, and the vibrator is both your compass and your flashlight.

8. Play with the speed of the vibrator.
Because men tend to use a lot of friction when they masturbate, stronger vibrators are often needed, particular around the genitals. But when exploring other parts of your body, always start on a low setting and work your way up. Particularly with anal vibrators, even a slight change in the speed of the vibrator can be felt, and playing with the speed settings can be highly pleasurable.

9. Play with pressure.
Experiment with applying different pressure. It might not feel good to press very hard around the scrotum, but if you put your vibrator on the perineum and apply deep pressure you are stimulating the prostate externally. Some men find that with a strong enough vibrator and enough pressure, using a vibrator on the head of the penis will give them an orgasm without ever moving the vibrator. Experiment with everything from a feather light touch to a self-love smack down -- find what works for you.

10. External vs. internal vibration.
Hard plastic and electric vibrators are the best for external stimulation as they are stronger and more comfortable to use externally. You can use these vibrators for external anal stimulation as well. If you want to explore anal penetration with a vibrator it’s recommended that you either get an anal attachment for your electric vibrator or buy a separate vibrator that is safe for anal use. You may find vibrators made of silicone or other softer materials are more comfortable for anal penetration. Always use a water based lubricant for any penetration play.

11. External anal stimulation.
The anus (the part on the outside that you can see and touch) is rich with nerve endings and usually responds favorably to stimulation. As mentioned above, start slowly and work from the inside out. See what the vibrator feels like on your lower back, your bum, and your inner thighs. Move slowly and gently to the anus and start by applying just a little pressure. You can roll the edge of the vibrator around the area and experiment with pressure and speed as you go. Once they get over the newness of the feeling many men find this highly pleasurable.

12. Anal penetration with a vibrator.
Anal penetration requires patience, arousal, and a lot of lubricant. Start slow and get yourself fully aroused by using the vibrator externally first. Don’t force an anal toy inside your body. Instead, with the vibrator on, just leave the tip at the opening of the anus and let the toy slide in gently when your body is ready. Once inside you can move the vibrator around and also play with the speed of the vibrator. Tilting the vibrator toward your belly button will stimulate the prostate. You may have to add more lubricant depending on how long your play lasts.

13. Using your vibrator with a partner.
You can use your vibrator with your partner in any number of ways. You can control the vibe and use it on yourself. You and your partner can use it on each other. There are vibrators that fit over the penis for use during partner penetration play. You can also find a vibrator that fits well between you and your partner that neither of you need to control, but can add stimulation during sex. However you want to do it, it’s a good idea for each of you to follow the above steps first, and get fully comfortable on your own before making it a threesome.

Tips:

1. Prostate massagers
Some vibrators are better suited for prostate massage than others. Vibrators that aren’t too big, and have a gentle curve tend to work well. Some men like the feeling of pressure alone on the prostate and will use a vibrator but keep it turned off. Others enjoy the feeling of vibration and pressure. Remember to use lots of lubricant and only toys that are safe for anal penetration.

2. Be patient.
Many men are used to sex play that involves a lot of quick rubbing and stimulation. Vibrators give you the chance to try something completely different. Even if you find the vibe doesn’t drive you to the heights of orgasm immediately, give it chance. Find a place on your body where the vibration feels good and leave the vibrator there for a minute or two. Apply pressure and let the vibrations go deeper into your body. You may be surprised by the results.

3. Take your batteries out.
Get in the habit of taking your batteries out of the vibrator each time your finished using it. If you leave the batteries in the vibe may turn on to a very low speed (or you may leave it on low without knowing it) and this can both burn out the motor and make for some embarrassing moments when everyone at dinner is wondering where that buzzing is coming from. Also, if you leave your vibrator alone for extended periods with the batteries in, they can corrode and leak into the battery case destroying your vibrator.

4. Anal vibrator safety.
Don’t share sex toys unless you use a condom every time. If you’re playing with a female partner never let a sex toy that has been in the rectum go in the vagina. Always use water based lubricant when using a vibrator for anal penetration. You can put some lube on the shaft of the vibrator and with your fingers put some lube on the outside and just inside the anus. Replenish the lubricant on the vibrator throughout the sex play.



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How to Use a Vibrator for Women

Very few vibrators comes with instruction manuals. On the one hand, you might think that no manual is necessary -- after all shouldn’t you know how to use a vibrator? But if you’ve never used one, how exactly are you supposed to know how? Most people do manage to stumble their way to pleasure with a vibrator, but if you’re looking for a few helpful hints here is a beginner’s guide for women on how to use a vibrator.

Time Required: For Your First Time, a Half Hour or More

Here's How:

1. Get to know your vibrator.
Take your vibrator out of the package and get to know how it works and what kind of batteries it takes. Play with the buttons and switches and find out how many speeds and settings it has. Wash your vibrator well before using it. If it isn’t waterproof, be careful not to get any water near the battery case. Check for sharp edges or seams (these can be easily filed down and made safe). Make sure the body of the vibrator isn’t coming apart from the battery pack and that all wires are solid and secure. If there are any flaws, return your vibrator before you use it.

2. Start on your own.
Even if you’re planning on using your vibrator with a partner, it’s a good idea to check it our by yourself first. You’ll feel less self-conscious and/or you can really concentrate on how it feels for you without being distracted (for better or worse) by a partner. Make sure you have a little time and enough privacy. If you’ve got roommates, children, thin walls, or nosy neighbors, you can always turn on some music and make use of blankets and comforters to mute the sound (you may also want to think about getting a quieter vibrator).

3. Play with the lights on.
Not everyone will be comfortable with this one, and vision may not be a sense you rely on, but playing with a vibrator with the lights on can be very educational and useful. You can discover specific places on your body that are rich with nerve endings and ripe for stimulation. This is the kind of information you can use on yourself in the future and share with a lover. You can achieve the same effect with touch, knowing exactly where the vibrator is, but seeing what’s going on can be a benefit for some.

4. Turn it off before you turn it on.
Get comfortable with the feel of the vibrator on your body. Run the vibe along your body without even turning it on. Notice how it feels. Press it firmly against your skin and massage your muscles with it. If the vibrator is a hard material this will probably feel nice. If the vibrator is a soft rubber and doesn’t feel smooth against your skin, try the above with your clothes on. This isn’t meant to give you an orgasm, but it’s a gentle way of introducing your body to the vibrator.

5. Move your vibrator from the outside in.
Once you turn it on, start by touching the vibrator to your feet and your hands. Run it up and down your arms and legs, across your belly, your shoulders and neck, your scalp and face. Again, you can start with some clothes on if you like. Even though vibrators are used mostly around the vulva and clitoris, don’t just jump to the main event. Get a feel for the vibration all over your body and then slowly move to the more sensitive parts. You can slowly move the vibrator up your inner thigh, or in circles around your breasts and nipples.

6. Don’t rush: Explore every inch.
The great thing about vibrators is that they never get tired, and they let you explore every inch of your body for sexual pleasure. Most women use vibrators for clitoral stimulation and many women report that one side -- or even one portion -- of their clitoris responds to vibration more than another. Think of yourself as an explorer, and the vibrator is both your compass and your flashlight (in fact some vibrators come with flashlights). Don’t rush, leaving a vibrator in place can allow it to establish sensation connections that previously weren’t there.

7. Play with the speed of the vibrator.
Most vibrators have multiple speed settings (or at least two settings). Always start on a low setting and work your way up. If a vibrator feels too strong at first you can put a towel between you and the vibrator, or just press it lightly against your body. You may find that on some areas a lower speed is all you need, and on others stronger is better. Some vibrators have “pulsation” settings, but you can also play with turning the strength up and down in rapid succession.

8. Play with pressure.
Experiment with applying different pressure. You may enjoy a lot of deep pressure with clitoral stimulation or you may want to hold a vibrator just slightly above the body. You can press your vibrator deep into your skin and massage the muscles while also feeling the stimulation of the motor. With most battery-powered vibrators, the more pressure you apply the lower the vibration feels. Also the stronger you hold your vibrator, the more vibration gets absorbed by your hand. Experiment with everything from a feather light touch to a self-love smack down, and find what works for you.

9. On point or flat out.
Most vibrators will have a point or an edge. Try touching yourself with the finest point of the vibrator. Next put the widest or flattest part of your vibrator against your body. When you focus on one point, the vibrations can feel more intense than when the vibration is being dispersed around a wider area. You may find that the feel of the vibrator on your labia, or above your clitoris feels awesome. Because the clitoris extends inside the body, deep vibration in this area can feel great, and different than direct clitoral stimulation.

10. Using a vibrator for penetration.
Most women use vibrators for external stimulation, but as long as your vibrator is safe for penetration there’s no reason not to try it. A vibrator that is safe for penetration will be smooth, have no rough edges, and won’t absorb bodily fluids. In almost all cases. it’s recommended to put a condom over a vibrator if you’re using it for penetration. You should also use water based lubricant when using a vibrator for penetration. You can put some lube on the shaft of the vibrator and with your fingers put some lube on your vulva and just inside your vagina.

11. Exploring penetration with a vibrator.
Start slow with penetration and get yourself aroused by using the vibrator externally first. While far more nerve endings are outside the vagina than inside, lots of women enjoy penetration with a vibrator. Some women will use a vibrator to find and stimulate the g spot. It has also been hypothesized that nerve endings in the cervix respond to stimulation and pressure. Pressing the vibrator against the top of your vagina (such as pressing it towards your belly) may provide g spot stimulation or even indirect clitoral stimulation.

12. Using your vibrator with a partner.
You can use your vibrator with your partner in any number of ways. You can control the vibe, using it on yourself to add stimulation during sex play with a partner. You can use the vibrator on your partner (or vice versa). You can also find a vibrator that fits well between you and your partner that neither of you need to control, but can add stimulation during sex. However you want to do it, it’s a good idea for each of you to follow the above steps first, and get fully comfortable on your own before making it a threesome.

Tips:

1. G spot vibrators
Some vibrators have a curved tip and are sold as g spot vibrators. These toys can make it easier to reach the g spot but they are no guarantee that you’ll enjoy g spot stimulation. Also, any firm vibrator can be used to stimulate the g spot.

2. Safety tip: vaginal or anal penetration.
If you want to insert a vibrator anally, only use vibrators designed for anal penetration. The toy should be smooth and seamless, and should have a flared base to prevent it from slipping all the way in. Read more about anal sex toy safety.

3. Vibrator strength trick.
If you’re using a vibrator on a partner and you want to vary the strength of the vibration you can do this by grabbing the vibrator tighter and getting a larger grasp on it. When you do this your hand absorbs more of the vibration and to the person on the other end it feels like the vibration is getting a bit lower. Loosen your grip and the strength will come back.

4. Take your batteries out.
Get in the habit of taking your batteries out of the vibrator each time your finished using it. If you leave the batteries in, the vibrator may turn on to a very low speed (or you may leave it on low without knowing it) and this can both burn out the motor and make for some embarrassing moments when everyone at dinner is wondering where that buzzing is coming from. Also, if you leave your vibrator alone for extended periods with the batteries in, they can corrode and leak into the battery case, destroying your vibrator.



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Why Should I Use a Vibrator?

There is a lot of pressure to be sexual in the “right” way, and some people feel like they should use a vibrator. The fact is that you can have an incredible sex life without vibrators or sex toys at all. That said, using vibrators is a completely healthy (and potentially pleasure inducing) way to explore your sexuality.

There are as many reasons to use a vibrator as there are reasons to feel good. Here are some of the most common reasons people play with vibrators:

Curiosity:Sexual curiosity is healthy; wanting to try a vibrator is reason enough to try one.

Self-discovery: Particularly for those of us who have never been given the opportunity or permission to explore being sexual, vibrators can be a great way to explore your body. When using a vibrator by yourself you can start exploring yourself, your sensations (both physical and emotional) and reactions in a relatively safe environment.

To “spice up” a long term sexual relationship:Vibrators can shake things up (literally and figuratively) in a long term relationship if sex has become routine or exploration has fizzled out.

To experience orgasm for the first time: For many people, especially women, who never or rarely experience orgasm, vibration can be the fastest and easiest way to discover their orgasmic potential.

For extra stimulation that you can’t add on your own:Many people aren’t able to stimulate themselves the way they want to. Chronic pain, disability, and fatigue don’t stop you from feeling pleasure, but vibrators can sometimes make it easier to get there.

For fun:For the most part the reason we all use, or consider using, vibrators is the same: because it's pleasurable. Pleasure, however you define it, is pretty close to a universal desire.

Pressure:This is NOT a good reason to use toys, but it’s why some people do. Whether your partner is well meaning or not, if you’re being pressured to try using a vibrator it won’t work, and it shows a lack of respect of your boundaries. Vibrators are ultimately about feeling pleasure, and you can’t force someone to experience pleasure, because experiencing pleasure is in some ways an expression of free will. Everyone has the right to say no to using a vibrator, just as we all have the right to say no to any kind of sex play at any time.



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The Who, Where, and How of Vibrator Use Statistics

The increasing visibility of vibrators in mainstream media, and in retail stores that don't specialize in sex toys is bringing some people to my door asking the question, how many people really use vibrators?

Until recently there hasn't been much reliable research on vibrator use. The people who collect most of the information about vibrator use tend to be, not surprisingly, the people who are trying to sell us more vibrators. These surveys are always tied to some form of marketing and methodologies are rarely described in detail.

In 2009 Michael Reece and Debra Herbenick, along with colleagues at Indiana University published to surveys of vibrator use which offered a much more reliable and detailed look into the hows and whys of vibrator use. Their findings are below. Beneath their findings I've included the numbers from earlier research some of which amounts to no more than marketing material but others represent serious study on vibrator use.

Overall Reece and Herbenick found that just under 50% of respondents reported using a vibrator at some point, with slightly more women (52%) than men (45%) reporting vibrator use.

When Do You Use Vibrators?

Women reported using vibrators most during masturbation (46%) and least during intercourse (37%). Men were most likely to use vibrators with a partner during “sex play or foreplay” (40%). Only 17% of men reported using a vibrator for masturbation. The paper on men reported on reasons for first using a vibrator, and the most common one men gave (67%) was “for fun”. 40% of men said they used one to help a partner with orgasms, and 7% said they used it to help themselves to have an orgasm.

Vibrator Use and Sexual Function

The researchers compared vibrator users and non-vibrator users on several measures of sexual functioning (asking questions about things like erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, pain, orgasm, lubrication, and sexual desire). Overall men and women who used vibrators reported fewer problems with sexual function. And people who used vibrators more recently (the past month) responded to surveys in a way that indicated fewer problems with sexual function.

Vibrator Use and Other Healthy Behaviors

Both men and women who use vibrators were more likely to do things that indicate a comfort with their bodies and an interest in taking care of themselves. Women who had ever used a vibrator were more likely than those who had never used a vibrator to have had a gynecologic exam in the past year and performed a genital self-examine in the past month. Men who reported performing testicular self-exams within the past moth were more likely to have used a vibrator.

Sex Toy Cleaning

The good news is that the majority of men and women do clean their vibrators. The bad news is that some don’t (20% of men and 14% of women report never cleaning their toys). Of those who do clean, habits could still improve. 60% of women and 53% of men report cleaning their toy before and after use, with the rest either cleaning before or after. It’s not clear if they asked this, but what I’d be most interested in knowing is whether or not they cleaned the toy before first use, something that I think a lot of people overlook but it important considering the serious lack of hygiene in most sex toy factories.

Side Effects of Vibrator Use

The researchers only reported on women’s responses to questions about negative side effects of vibrator use. They asked women about genital numbness, pain, irritation, swelling (the bad kind) and tears or cuts. Here are the findings:

* 71.5% of women never experienced any side effects.
* 16% reported numbness
* 3% reported pain
* 10% reported irritation
* 8% reported swelling
* 1% reported tears or cuts

In all cases, those who reported negative side effects judged them to be relatively short lived and minor in severity.

How Common Is Vibrator Use

Previous to 2009 most statistics suggested between 20-27% of people had used a vibrator at some point in their lives. Some examples of survey research include:

* In Shere Hite’s famous survey (1976), only 1% of respondents said they had ever used a vibrator
* In a 2006 Elle/MSNBC.com survey 40% of respondents said they had used a vibrator.
* In a 1996 survey of Swedish women aged 18 to 74, 19% of respondents said they had used a sex toy by themselves, and 15% said they had used a sex toy with a partner. Younger repondents were more likely to have used a sex toy, with 30% of women 25 to 34 reporting having used a sex toy.

Age of First Vibrator Use

Two surveys that have asked this got very similar results:

* 15 to 17% were under 20 years old when they first tried a vibrator
* 50% were in their 20s
* 22 to 27% were in their 30s
* 8 to 10% were 40 and older

Vibrator Use by Gender

In the two surveys that compared vibrator use between men and women, women were more likely to use vibrators:

* One study found that 33% of female respondents versus 20% of male respondents used vibrators
* Another study found that the numbers were 24% for women and 21% for men.

What else about people who use vibrators?

Here are some random statistics from the surveys listed below:

* Most studies found that vibrator users were overwhelmingly white.
* Most studies found that vibrator users were predominantly in their thirties.
* According to Xandria Collection’s Toys in the Sheets survey, the most common vibrator user was a white Christian married woman, in her thirties, who votes Republican.
* According to the Durex global sex survey Australia has the highest vibrator use reported (46%) and India has the lowest (3%). The US is up there at 45%.
* Women in relationships are more likely to use a vibrator than women who are single.



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Vampire Sex 100 times better than Normal Sex - Ashley Greene

TWILIGHT beauty Ashley Greene is claiming that vampire sex is better than normal sex.

The star of The Twilight Saga: New Moon, who is rumoured to be dating Kings of Leon bassist Jared Followill, has said that she believes her character Alice Cullen would have a better sex life than she does.

"Take the best sex you've ever had in your life, multiply it by 100 and that's vampire sex," The 22-year-old told Maxim magazine.

The actress also admitted that she was desperate to star in the vampire franchise.

"Oh my God, I wanted this part so badly. So when they told me I got it, I tried to play it all cool, you know, for about a minute," she said.

"I love, absolutely love Alice, my character. She's sweet, sexy and a killer. I feel if I was in a real fight, I'd get my ass kicked."

As for starring in another popular film franchise, Greene added: "I want to hit up James Bond. That would be awesome."

P.S. boost your sexual drive by eating natural Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.



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Why Children Who Live Without Dads Have Earlier Sex

Researchers have known for years that children raised without a dad at home tend to start having sex at a younger age than those that do. I guess it was assumed that the factors were environmental - that kids saw their single mom dating so they started dating earlier and things like that. But a new study from researchers at six major U.S. universities have called that assumption into question. This new study argues that earlier sex is best explained by genetics, and the same genetic disposition that leads to earlier sex also creates problems for men in marriages.

This seems just a little counter intuitive to me. The challenges in any family without a father present are far-reaching and the results of absentee fathers' leaving their families cross many behavioral spectra. In any case, the research is interesting, but I am not yet convinced that genetics plays the dominant role in children having sex sooner. A responsible, committed father makes a good difference in so many areas.



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Child Sex Boom Fueled by Poverty ( Part 2 )

Earlier this year, the United Nations Office of Drugs and Crimes stated in its Global Report on Trafficking in Persons that 79 percent of all global trafficking is for sexual exploitation, one of the world's fastest-growing crimes. The report stated that the proportion of minors involved in the various forms of human-trafficking increased from about 15 percent to nearly 22 percent between 2003 and 2007. This past June, the Obama Administration expanded the U.S. watch list of countries suspected of not doing enough to combat human-trafficking, putting more than four dozen nations on notice that they might face sanctions if their records don’t improve.

ECPAT International’s recent report also warned that the number of children and young people trafficked within their own country is increasing. Such trafficking frequently involves movement from rural to urban areas or from one city or town to another without the need for travel documentation.

Purchasing sex, whether from children or adults, creates huge monetary incentives for human traffickers, according to Siddharth Kara, a board member of the Washington-based NGO “Free the Slaves” and author of the 2008 book “Sex Trafficking.” Even within the exploding slavery industry, which according to Kara generated $152.3 billion in revenues in 2007, trafficked sex workers are by far the most profitable of slaves.

It’s because of these huge revenues that destination countries often turn a blind eye to sex tourism. The International Labor Organization says it contributes as much as 14 percent of the gross domestic product of Indonesia, Malaysia, the Philippines and Thailand.


P.S. Boost your sexual drive by eating lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.




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Child Sex Boom Fueled by Poverty ( Part 1 )

BANGKOK, Thailand — Narisaraporn Asipong, a matronly social worker at the “Mercy Center” shelter met 8-year-old Niran (a pseudonym) five years ago in Klong Toey, Bangkok’s largest concentration of slum communities.

“His step-father was beating him so he was scared to go home,” says Asipong, who has worked with street children for the last seven years. “He came with me to Mercy Center and I enrolled him in school.” A year later, Niran returned home because he missed his mother. “One day, I saw him on the streets again,” she says. “He looked very skinny and unhealthy.”

Asipong was not surprised when she heard that Niran was living with an older man who offered him food, money and video games in exchange for sexual favors. “There are groups of people who take advantage of children and sexually exploit them,” says Asipong. “The children get tricked easily because of promises of quick money.”

Niran told Asipong he was sick, and had HIV/AIDS. The United Nations estimates that 1 percent of Thailand's population is infected with the HIV virus — nearly three times the rate in the U.S. “When I last saw Niran in the hospital he told me that he wanted to be a good boy again,” says Asipong. On Aug. 22, 2009, Aspiong attended Niran’s cremation ceremony in Kanchanabuori, Thailand.

Niran was just one of the estimated 1.8 million children worldwide trapped in the multi-billion dollar commercial sex trade every year. Commercial sexual exploitation of children is booming according to a new global report, and governments are not doing enough to protect young people.

"The recent economic downturn is set to drive more vulnerable children and young people to be exploited by the global sex trade," says Carmen Madrinan, executive director of ECPAT International, the organization that authored the August 2009 report. "The indifference that sustains the criminality, greed and perverse demands of adults for sex with children and young people needs to end."

Increasing poverty in children’s countries of origin and smaller budgets for social services are two of the factors heightening children’s vulnerability. Deterioration of living conditions often compels young people to abandon school in order to contribute to the family income, putting them at risk of seeking livelihood options that lead to their being exploited, according to ECPAT International.

As a result of the current global downturn, hundreds of factories have closed in Thailand, leaving thousands of both Thai and non-Thai workers unemployed. Unemployment is rising at a rate of about 100,000 workers a month and may climb to 1.5 million by the end of the year.

“If you ask me, the government is not correcting the source of the problem,” says Asipong. “It’s just treating the symptoms. Poverty is a big contribution to the problem in Thailand, especially in the countryside. Whether parents or children, both have to struggle to survive.”

Street children and stateless children are extremely vulnerable to commercial sexual exploitation, says Amanda Bissex, UNICEF Thailand's Chief of Child Protection. "We need to improve law enforcement and the economic welfare of children," she says, "but we also need to address people's attitudes and create an environment where there is zero tolerance for abuse of children, whether in their home country or overseas."

To be Continued........


P.S. Boost your sexual drive by eating lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich foods and fruits.




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Another Journalist Faces Lashing in Saudi Sex Scandal Fallout

A 36-year-old Saudi journalist remains in prison and faces 70 lashes for working at an unlicensed television station after two female reporters were pardoned by King Abdullah Monday for the same alleged offenses, a lawyer involved with the case said Tuesday.

Omar Felimban was charged with working for the Lebanese Broadcasting Corp., the Beirut-based satellite TV station known as LBC, after it had its license suspended for airing a racy show this summer, Sulaiman Al Jumeii, a Jeddah-based lawyer advocating on Felimban’s behalf, said.

According to widely-published reports, the main subject of the show, Mazen Abdul Jawad, a 32-year-old airline clerk, shocked the conservative kingdom by revealing the secrets of his sex life. During the broadcast, the divorced father of four told tales of sleeping with his neighbor at the age of 14, and picking up girls using the chatting functions of Bluetooth on his mobile phone. He also showed off some sex toys to the cameras.

Abdul Jawad denies he confessed to these acts and accuses LBC of editing the broadcast, according to his lawyer Al Jumeii.

A spokeswoman for LBC in Beirut declined to comment.

Abdul Jawad was sentenced to five years in jail and 1,000 lashes earlier this month. Three friends who appeared on the show with him got two-year terms and 300 lashes each. And LBC, which is owned by the Saudi billionaire investor Prince Alwaleed Bin Talal, had its license from the Ministry of Culture and Information suspended and had to close down its offices in Riyadh and Jeddah in August because of the show.

The television station is also facing a lawsuit filed at the Ministry of Culture and Information by Abdul Jawad for allegedly deceiving him during the tapings. “All the producers and executives involved in making the show have fled the country, and the only ones facing penalties are the participants and the journalists who were coordinators at the station,” Al Jumeii said.

The Ministry of Culture and Information is investigating Abdul Jawad’s claims, its spokesman Abdulrahman Al-Hazza said. It has also taken over the cases of the two female journalists from the courts and will examine if any laws were broken.

Representatives for the women could not be reached for comment.

The female journalists could be banned from the profession, pay a fine or go to prison, but they will not face lashings, Al Jumeii said. He said he presented the case of Felimban to the Minister of Culture and Information on Tuesday and was assured the case would be transferred from the courts to the ministry soon.



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Be innovative in sex plays

For many people sex plays a very important role in their lives and they can’t see beyond that. Sex is a very important factor for everyone or for almost everyone. Since there are different people there are different viewpoints about the same. For example some are adventurous and some docile. Some prefer to experiment while some prefer not to.

For the adventurous kind there are sex toys, which are available in the market. There are vibrators, sex toys and adult sex toys. Some people are still not open to using such instruments but there are some who are happy doing the same. These Adult toys are in great demand today and many people are turning into these toys to better satisfaction and satisfying their sexual urge.

There has been an increase in the demand of sex toys because of hectic lifestyles and the pressure of career over pleasure. People now have less time on hands for indulging in sexual pleasures. Sex life has got affected with work pressure.

Adult sex toys are in great demand nowadays, but still not everyone is ready for the same. The reason being they want themselves to become much more attractive than they already are like better dressing and various other avenues, they want themselves to look sexier than what they are, instead of indulging in sex toys.

Then there are adult board games and sex games for those who like something quieter. These games include features, which are required for excitement, which is, required to be free flowing between the couples. The couples can thereafter decide on the games they want or indulge in or feel attracted towards. These board games are preferred among elder couples or couples who have some sexual problems or hindrances alike and thus require an alternate way to satisfy themselves.

The market for sex toys and adult fun is really expanding at fast rate and many people are taking in to the same either discreetly or openly. The market for adult fun like sex toys is really surging ahead and so is its demand, which is growing at a fast rate. There is high surge for makers and distributors.

The road for sex toys is high and is only growing with its ongoing requirement. The road is only thriving for the customers and the makers of adult sex toys. If you want to be innovative there is no harm is trying or venturing into sex toys for a satisfying your sexual life.



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Vibrating Sex Toys For Men

Even if you have an active sex life together with your partner, you and your partner might be looking for more exciting techniques to heat up at night in your bed. There are a lot of ways to satisfy your partner, by using different techniques such as using sex toys.

One of the most popular sex gadgets is the vibrating cock ring. This kind of sex toy can actually make you sizzle through the night. Because of its very unique function of combining two sex gadgets in one. This specialized sex toy is a combination of a vibrator and a cock ring. By having this vibrating cock ring, you can experience two sensations with just one sex gadget.

For those people who are newbies in using this kind of sex toy, this vibrating cock ring is just right for you. You do not have to be a skilled sex addict to be able to use this toy. Once the vibrating cock ring is in the right place and turned on, the only thing for you to do is have sex. Applying this ring just as simple as putting on your sock.

Just simply pull the ring up with your fingers just like a rubber band. Pull it over around the penis and your ball until it is properly placed. Just relax and don't put on added tension, let the ring slowly contract into its original size. Compared to other vibrators, vibrating cock rings do not need the use of your hands, making your hands free to stroke and massage your partner during the sexual intercourse.

If you do not want to spend much on a sex toy, choose a vibrating cock ring. Most cock rings are made up of silicon making it more affordable than others. Plus it is easier to clean, use and it is rechargeable. You can play with your vibrating cock ring to maximize your pleasure. Experimenting on how to use it is a nice thing to do during your sexual activity.

It has a rubbery material, so you cannot avoid instances wherein your pubic hair may stick unto the rubber. You can simply avoid this irritating situation by making sure that your genitals are properly lubricated. When taking off your ring you have to carefully pull it to avoid damaging your pubic hair.

Always make sure that your hands are dry before putting it on. You may lose your grip of the ring, because of its rubbery material. Different positions can have different effects on the cock ring. Be sure to go on one position to the other one at a time. Just by rotating the cock ring you can create a different new position. By doing this you can provide greater stimulation on your scrotum and perineum area. You can add a more intense sensation on your penis.

These cock rings are not only design for men and women, lesbian and gay can also used it for more exciting sexual intercourse. Enjoy the unique experience of this sex toy and make your partner scream for more.



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The VIBRATOR - Not Just for HER

Vibrators only for the ladies? I don't think so. As it turns out, men are getting it on with the very popular sex toy far more famously than we ever thought. Recent research out of Indiana University indicates that the vibrator is not necessarily a guy's competition in the bedroom.

Truth be told, this popular vibrating device is his guilty pleasure, too. So what exactly did researchers uncover about this unspoken aspect of his pleasuring? And what are the benefits being reaped by both him and her when it comes to incorporating this third-party?

Sex therapists, sex educators, and physicians have long advised experimenting with vibrators to help people overcome a sexual disorder. The gadget has also been strongly recommended to improve a person’s or couple’s sexual pleasuring and satisfaction.

Yet to date, the vibrator has been largely cast as the female’s other significant other. Much of this is due to women unabashedly touting its ability to catapult her into her first orgasm or first multiple orgasms experience. Men, on the other hand, have been mum on the issue of vibrator use, seemingly uninterested beyond the competition it posed — that is until they were asked...

As reported in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, researchers at Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion probed the matter of his and her vibrator use with two studies. In making no mistakes about the results, they went large-scale, with one study relying on nationally representative sample of 1,047 men, while the other involved 2,056 women.

Findings from the research demonstrated that a couple's vibrator use during sex play is common, with about 45 percent of men and 53 percent of women, ages 18 to 60, reporting such. The study focusing on men specifically found that 10 percent had used a vibrator in the last month, while over 14 percent had in the past year and over 20 percent over a year ago.

Both studies found, too, that using a vibrator is associated with more positive sexual functioning. Males reporting recent vibrator use were likelier to rate themselves higher when it came to sexual desire, erectile function, intercourse satisfaction and orgasmic function.

The studies further correlated vibrator use with an individual being more proactive in attending to one’s sexual health. Those reporting use, especially recent use, were likelier to report actively taking care of their sexual health, for example, conducting a testicular self-exam.

Equally interesting was the finding that challenged the stereotype that only gay or bisexual men use the sex toy. Researchers found no statistical difference when it came to one’s sexual orientation and prevalence. Heterosexual men did, however, most commonly report vibrator use during foreplay or intercourse with their partner.

When it came to the ladies, researchers learned that almost one in four had pleasured themselves with a vibrator in the last month. The studies users, in general, were:

— Much more likely to have had a gynecological exam in the past year.

— Significantly more likely to have performed a genital self-exam in the past month.

These gals also scored higher on survey items related to positive sexual functioning, like sexual excitement, desire, lubrication, orgasm and overall function.

Such findings complement a vibrator use study conducted by The Berman Center, which found that using this sex toy is actually good for you. Regardless of relationship status or age, vibrator use was associated with improved sexual function. Those using the gadget had greater sexual interest and desire. They also experienced better arousal, easier and more frequent climax, and less pain during and after sex.

Not surprisingly, these women experienced higher levels of sexual satisfaction, as well as heightened quality of life!

Researchers at The Berman Center further found that almost 60 percent of the women in relationships reported vibrator use compared to over one-third of single gals. Two-thirds of partners were also found to be in support of using a vibe.

Women also reported trying a vibrator mostly out of curiosity. Guy or gal, hopefully this article turned on yours!

P.S. Boost your sexual health by eating lots of Vitamin C and Vitamin D rich diets.



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Ohio morgue worker admits to sex with bodies

A man who worked at the county morgue for 16 years and is serving time for having sex with a corpse admitted today to having sex with two more bodies during his employment.

Kenneth Douglas, 56, of Westwood pleaded guilty to two counts of gross abuse of a corpse before visiting Hamilton County Common Pleas Court Judge Richard Niehaus. He could be imprisoned for a maximum of three years at his Dec. 10 sentencing.

Douglas was employed for 16 years, from 1976-1992, as a night attendant at the morgue. He told authorities previously that while there, he invited women in and partied with them with drugs and alcohol. He also admitted to having sex with bodies being stored while awaiting autopsies.

He is currently serving a three-year sentence for having sex with another corpse -- that of Karen Range, an 18-year-old murder victim who was nearly beheaded in 1982 and had been in the morgue cooler for hours.

Douglas said nothing today except to give respectful, short answers to routine questions from the judge.

Douglas admitted today that he had sex with the bodies of two homicide victims as they were awaiting autopsies:
• Charlene Edwards, 23, also known as Charlene Apling, who was strangled to death. He had sex with that body Oct. 1, 1991.
• Angel Hicks, 24, who was pushed from a third-story window and died from blunt trauma. He had sex with that body Dec. 8, 1991.

Douglas pleaded guilty without a plea deal. Assistant Prosecutor Mark Piepmeier said his office would offer no deals to Douglas.

After Douglas pleaded guilty in 2008 to having sex with Range’s corpse, officials conducted an extensive investigation comparing Douglas’ DNA to that of other bodies in the morgue during the time Douglas worked there.

Initially, officials feared there could be dozens of other victims, based on some of the stories Douglas told them. They were able to indict him on two additional charges.

“He told us he was out of control,” Prosecutor Joe Deters said in March after Douglas was indicted on the two charges he pleaded guilty to today.

“This is off-the-charts weird.”

Douglas was first caught when he violated his probation on a previous conviction, and his DNA was taken by officials and placed in a database. The database showed Douglas’ DNA matched that of the semen left in Range’s body.

That was good news for David Steffen, the man who spent 26 years on Ohio’s death row for Range’s murder but who insisted he never raped her. Now, Steffen’s attorneys are using Douglas’ acts to try to get Steffen off death row.

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